Baby Mother problems!

Marissa - posted on 01/01/2014 ( 2 moms have responded )




This guy and I have been talking now for about a month or so. He is one of the most honest, and sweet guys that I have talked to. he has two children from a previous relationship, his baby mama and him broke up because she lied, and was unfaithful to him, hes told her numerous times that he wanted nothing more than to get along for the kids, and he has no interest in being with her. However she is not done with him, and has feelings for him, she wants him to give her more chances. She is kind of extreme so at first when we started talking it was nothing serious, until it got serious we have very strong feelings for eachother, and if she thought he was moving on she would use the kids against it, they have worked out stuff in court before and he has the kids a majority of the time, he is a younger father and of course has things on his record like possession of marijuana from when he was younger. She found out we were talking, but heard a lot of other things that weren't true. He told her everything, and was honest about us, but now he doesn't know what to do because he afraid shes going to make life hard with the kids. He still wants to talk to me and move things forward but this has been stressing him out and I feel horrible, could anyone give us any tips on what to do? How do we get the O.K from his baby mama, anything!


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Jodi - posted on 01/02/2014




If he has worked things out for his custody arrangements in court, then she can't withhold the kids without being in contempt. If she tries, he needs to file in court against her.

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you can't get the o.k and he shouldn't be looking for permission. If they are broken up and he has moved on then she has to as well. If she gets to control this she will control everything in your relationship and will control his next if you break up.
They need to set things straight be it with mediation or just talking.

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