baby shower help??

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currently planning a baby shower and i have some questions...

first of all, is it totally taboo that i'm planning this shower for me and that this is not my first, but my second baby, and that i didn't/couldn't have one for my first?

secondly, is it totally taboo that it's more of a get-together for friends and their families since i'm inviting guy friends and their SOs, as well as their children since my 1yo will be there too?

and thirdly, i have no idea what to do other than decorate and serve food. what are some things that i could do to make it more like a baby shower and less like a house-warming party that just so happens to involve a pregnant mom?


September - posted on 02/22/2012




That's sad you didn't get a shower for your first baby, I'm sorry! :( I think given the circumstances yes its fine you're throwing your own baby shower. I mean it's still sad to me that you have to do it yourself but at least you'll get one this time around. I also think its fine that it's more of a get together for family, friends and children it's a time to celebrate so go for it! I would add some fun games to the mix. You can find all kinds of great ideas online, just Google baby shower game ideas. Good luck and enjoy yourself.


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Sherri - posted on 02/24/2012




Yes it really is taboo. And any baby showers I have ever been too have included guys, girls and kids. I have never attended one that wasn't?

Christy - posted on 02/24/2012




Ask if you can have someone else's name on the invite as the host/ess if you are worried about it and go for it.

Katherine - posted on 02/24/2012




You could do your gifts per a family too. Instead of getting one thing a piece for everyone, maybe get them a gift card to Blockbuster. That would be a lot cheaper. Then the whole family can enjoy!

Kristy - posted on 02/24/2012




I didnt have one for my first or second babies as i didnt really know anyone in the town and there would of been me and my sister there and maybe one or teo other people. Now for my third i am having one as i have made some great friends at work and they want to do something special for me. We are going out for lunch and having a nice girly chat and lunch. If you look online there are plenty of games and cake ideas for baby showers that include the boys too. Good luck and have fun!

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with my first i told everyone in my family and my husband's that yes, we wanted a baby shower, and we set up a registry and did all the things i was told you're supposed to do but my family decided to ignore me (they weren't too keen on being grandparents) and my MIL said she'd throw me one but never did. so i'm doing this myself because of trust issues and also because we're doing it at our own home and again, my parents don't want to help and my in-laws aren't reliable.

simple and cute sounds good...just have to think of stuff to include the guys that will be there too...

Katherine - posted on 02/22/2012




Well.....yes it is kind of taboo but it depends on the circumstances of why you didn't get a first shower. I mean did you register? They all know? There are plenty of games to play just go to a website.

Get a cute cake, decorate, that's about it. Normally people give little favors too. Just make it a simple cute shower. Get online and get some cheap ideas!

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