babys daddy/ is this child sexual abuse??

Jessica - posted on 05/08/2014 ( 2 moms have responded )




My babys daddy has a new gf. I tried to make her feel comfortable by telling her i liked her and i really wanted to because she will in my sons life. But I recently found out (after I nicely warned his dad that they better not be doing anything sexual while they assume my 5 year old son is asleep) my son randomly tells my that he saw them having sex (in innocent 5 year old words) i know my son is old enough to remember this for the rest of his life. And its so disturbing because he didnt know what to do so he just watched and didnt say anything. Is this child neglect? I don't want to take my sons dad away from him but i dont think this will be the last time. I definetely made him feel guilty abd threatened for now but I dont want this to ever happen again abd I'm also worried about what's going on with my son emotionally


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Jennifer - posted on 05/08/2014




This is very irresponsible on dads part and should have and can be prevented. This is bad and he should feel guilty but rubbing it in and not letting it go will only insure that your son remembers this forever. Let it go and try not to bring it up around your son anymore.
I don't understand why a 5 year old is in dads room in the first place and why he doesn't have either his own room or a nice bed made out on the couch....?????
I would recommend to dad that your son not be aloud to sleep in his dads room. I am sure dad can sit out in the living room or in another room with his son until he falls asleep. That way another accident like this don't happen again. Remind the dad that parents have rooms that lock and have bathrooms in them for good reasons.... to prevent this kind of thing from happening!!

Nicole - posted on 05/08/2014




Jessica, I agree what happened is certainly not great, but I seriously doubt your son will be damaged by the experience. If your son's father feels guilty and bad about what's happened, he's almost certainly going to be more cautious in the future. I really think you're worrying needlessly.

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