Bad Habits in the night

Tanz - posted on 11/01/2010 ( 93 moms have responded )

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My baby wakes up every night @ 1 & 5 am for a titty. She's 7 months old and hasnt slept thru the night yet. I feel i'vegot her into a bad habit and want to know the easiest possible way to get her out of the habit and hopefully get her to sleep thru the night! Please help im exhausted:)

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Debra - posted on 11/03/2010

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Why is it that we, as moms, are so anxious to get babies to conform to our schedules, rather than (as others have stated) doing whatever it takes to respond to their tiny cries for food, love and comfort. Apart from the actual nutrition a breast provides, there is the bonding and nurturing that is also taking place during feedings, which cannot be supplied any other way. There are dozens of tricks to get babies to "sleep through the night." Most of them border on manipulating babies away from their instincts in order to get them to conform to our will. What a message we're sending to our most vulnerable children....that we simply can't (or don't want to) be there when they need us. Yes, it is hard, excruciatingly hard sometimes. But in the long run it is so worth it. Maybe we all need to stop and give this some serious contemplation....for the sake of our children. To learn more about the scientific research that supports what I have written here, I highly recommend the book "Attached at the Heart" by Barbara Nicholson.

Sylvia - posted on 11/02/2010

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Honey, that's not a bad habit, that's a baby who needs to eat. Some of the books say that all babies are past needing to eat at night at a certain stage, but those books lie. And if you're tempted to think that she's "using you as a pacifier", remember that pacifiers are artificial boobies, not the other way around :)

Like others have said, my "baby" (she's 8 now) was waking at night to nurse LONG past the age yours is now -- I think she finally night weaned when she was three, just magically right around the time when I was starting to think "I'm not sure how much longer I can do this night nursing thing" ... -- but fortunately we co-slept full time so it wasn't nearly such an issue for me as it seems to be for you. Obviously if you're feeling like you can't cope because you're so exhausted, then you need to think about alternatives.

There's a great book by Elizabeth Pantley called "The No-Cry Sleep Solution" which I highly recommend. She talks about different ways for everyone to get more sleep without making your baby "cry it out".

Mary Kate - posted on 11/04/2010

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I have 5 kids and they all nursed during the night. It's perfectly healthy. I love the extra time to cuddle, and think of all the extra antibodies she's getting. Before my 1st was born, I was given the advice to sleep when the baby sleeps. Now I'm passing it on to you. I wouldn't add more solids before bed. Babies can't really digest it until they are about a year old.

Gabby - posted on 11/02/2010

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maybe she's not hungry, babies like the suction, have u tried a pacifier? you can give her water in the bottle as well, good luck

Aleks - posted on 11/02/2010

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um.... my 20mth old still wakes at night. And I certainly wouldn't deny her.

A 7month old is such a little baby still. And when it comes to breastfeeding there is NO BAD HABITS!

We have been led to believe from just about everywhere we turn to that tell us and warn us all about "the bad habits" babies get into. All a bunch of BS! Babies do nothing but follow their instincts.
Bad habits are: biting nails, smoking, drinking, etc.
Needing a feed by a little baby is not a bad habit!
By answering that need you are building a great bond and belief in your child that mum will be there for them in their need. Someone will be there for them.
By letting them go and not answering that cry in the night, one teachers the child that sometimes their cries will be unanswered. Kind of a harsh lesson for such a young baby to try to learn, especially when they don't have the necessary maturity emotionally and intellectually to cope with that. But I digress.

I understand how tough it is to be sleep deprived!
Believe me, 2 kids with nightly needs. My 20mth old has slept thru 2 time only!!! And that is going by the 6hrs straight/uninterrupted. Cos she has never gone 8.30-6am!! Ever! And for those 2 times I was unable to get sleep either (1st time I was looking after a gastro stricken preschooler which was throwing up most of the night. 2nd time I had to be up late, can't remember for what reason now).
Most children/babies don't have their brains mature enought to sleep through the night. I know I know, how often do we hear of mothers boasting how their babies slept thru from blah blah weeks or months. But these babies are the exception rather than the rule.

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I dont mean to upset anyone who hasn't had it as easy as i did... but my baby was sleeping through the night at 6 weeks (no its not a joke) i found what made the differance was the sleeping patterns. We had our daughter screaming unconsolably for 14.5 hours straight one day, and when we went to see the local nurse she explained that her 3-4 hours of wake time was way too much for a 6 week old... and that they are only supposed to be awake for 1 hour at a time 1.5 tops, and that including feeding changing and play. I found this a bit shocking and way too short but decided to give it a go and if it didn't work well it didn't work. So for 2 days we did everything the nurse said, wrapping her up snuggly in a thin cotton wrap (which i still do now she is 1) making the room dark, and putting her to sleep after 1 hour, even if she didn't seem tired, it took 2 days but then all of a sudden she just slept through the night for 12 hours straight, i was a bit worried at first because normally she wouldn't sleep for more then 4-6 hours but then she did it the next night as well... and kept on doing it ever since (except when she woke up in pain from teething)
I told my experience to a friend of mine who was having sleeping problems with her 4 month old and when she tried the tight wrapping and regular sleeping he started going longer between night feeds as well (still not sleeping right through as yet) but it has helped alot. It seems that the sleeping and feeding just go hand in hand, though i must say not in every single case, some babies just need more food...
I know that 1-1.5 hours of wake time is not enough for a 7 month old but maby you should check with your local nurses what the recomended times for that age is and give it a try, if it doesn't work for you then hey just dont continue it, but its worth a try ;-) Hope this helps X

Geralyn - posted on 11/06/2010

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Thnik of it this way, too. Her nursing several times at night is helping to keep your supply up and keep your breasts healthy.

Geralyn - posted on 11/06/2010

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Its not a bad habit to feed at night at 7 mos. My son was not "solid" with solids til closer to a year, and so nursing during the night was a necessary part of his feeding til at least 16 mos... even though he nursed at night til he weaned at about 19 mos. As a breastfeeding mom, sometimes we need to adjust our expectations and not assume that nursing is a bad habit if our children are not meeting an expectation that is not grounded in fact.

Diane - posted on 11/06/2010

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It's actually completely normal for her to be still waking up to nurse in the night, I wouldn't worry about it, she'll sleep through the night when she's ready.

Janet - posted on 11/06/2010

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Try to take a nap when you put your baby down for hers. That way you won't be so tired. Housework? Whats that when you've a cutie in the house!!!

Monica (Adams) - posted on 11/06/2010

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Don't be hard on yourself. She is only 7 months old. I nursed round the clock for 11 months. It is o.k. The older she gets the more she will want to sleep through the night. I know you are exhausted sleep deprivation is the worst. If you must do something eliminate one feeding at night of your choice. Rub her back and try to put her back to sleep. Again she is young and she is not going to like it. I am sure there are people that do it at this age and earlier but all babies needs are different. At 12 months we decided my son wouldn't have a feeding just to go to bed. That was the first I eliminated. It was hard but I had to stick to it. I would have my husband put him to bed. He rebelled but he did get over it. From there I kept eliminating feedings until he was 18 months old. I am saying it is possible but enjoy 7 months old. You will never get 7 months old back with that child again. Nursing is so short lived. I hope this helped. God bless you.

Richelle - posted on 11/06/2010

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you could try just giving her water at the 1am feed. resettling her as you do at bedtime. my daughter was a shocker until about ten months when i said that's it i can do no more! she would wake for feeds three times between midnight and 6am! wouldn't go to sleep UNTIL midnight and would have to feed to sleep everytime. my own fault cause i had no idea about her sleep signs. and hadn't put her into a night time bed time routine.. it was the hardest thing ever! for the first three nights i started by getting her to settle herself after introducing the dinner bath feed books bed routine then once she had that i did the only offering her water during the early early morning. and that didn't take long at all. she stopped waking during the early hours cause she knew all she would get was water. we've never looked back. she became a great sleeper and she still is now. i think you have to look after yourself to look after her. if she's eating and getting enough and of course being a breastfed baby she knows how much she needs! then you're not doing any harm. good luck it is hard but so worth it.

Sherelle - posted on 11/06/2010

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I was told babies will start to sleep through at 6 weeks by my then step-mother in law. The exhaustion and depression I started to feel when at 6 months my first child wasn't sleeping through was tremendous. I used to give her a bottle of formula as a last bottle as i was told it would be heavy on her stomach and make her sleep - didn't work. I did learn her crying patterns as we were told from anti-natal lessons. If you can determine the difference between her cries you can learn if she is hungry or just burning energy. If she's hungry - she's hungry. She's only little and while you're exhausted there is an end to night waking. It's just a little further down the road for you than others. My daughter never did sleep through really until she was about 2 years as she had mild asthma as well which kept her coughing all night. Of course we didn't know what this was for a long time and then took time to learn how to manage it. She's none worse for wear but I feel about 100! Only kidding. But don't be afraid to let her cry if you know she isn't hungry or dirty or hurt. You need some sleep too.

Lil - posted on 11/06/2010

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Make her do with boiled water it will soon pass that she will know that it is not worth waking up for
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I know it's hard and you're exhausted, but don't let other people pressure you into making the change. Only change if you are sure it's what you want. My son is almost 18 months and he is a really tall boy for his age - and a VERY HUNGRY boy! He still wants a bottle at bedtime and a rollover feed that most times gets him to sleep thru. We used to give him formula for this as it seemed to fill him better. Yes, we let him cry for a bit too. Our monitor can play music that we can turn on from our room, so we would let him cry for a bit and if the music didn't settle him, we would then take him another bottle. By doing the rollover feed before we went to bed (around 10-11pm) we would wake him up for it and change his nappy and give him a BIG bottle, we avoided waiting until he woke up at 1, 2 or 3am for the feed and nappy change. It only took about a week and if we did have to take him another bottle, we knew it was just to settle him, so it was a small serve - just enough for him to get a bit and go back to sleep. Hope this helps.
Also, if she needs settling in the night and you want to wean her off those feeds, ask your partner to do it - you smell like food, so she may have trouble settling.

Althea - posted on 11/05/2010

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try giving her a bottle before she goes to bed, then wake her up at 12 and give her a bottle this should prevent her from waking up at 1. likewise do the same for the 5am feed. she might be hungry thats all and the breast is not giving her sufficient milk...

Brianna - posted on 11/05/2010

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well if ur breast feeding i would slowly cut down the amount of time u breastfeed at the night feedings. if ur bottle feeding u should cuz down half a oz at a time so ur baby realizes he doesnt need to wake up anymore

Sam - posted on 11/05/2010

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she got you wrapped around her finger!! start giving her water in a bottle for one of the feedings then move for both. if she dont want it she goes hungry. feed her more just before sleep, like solids, and she should not NEED food for a good 8-10 hrs. she WANTs food but should not need it.

Olivia - posted on 11/05/2010

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I agree with what Nicole said. I always wrap my daughter when it is time for her to go to sleep and that lets her know that i is time for sleep. It is very important to put childen on schedules even at only a couple months into their life and it not only helps them, but it helps us as well. If you read up about infants.. at 3 months most babies are sleeping fully through the night. By 7 months a baby is completely capable of sleeping through the night wthout a feeding. You are in no way a bad mother for feeding at night however i do think it is a habbit your child is use to and that is why he keeps waking up. Dont let your baby rule your life.. that is why it is called parenting. We must parent our children because we know what is best. In order to do that you have to stay healthy yourself, and a full night of rest is def needed for a healthy life. You have a lot of advice on here. do what you feel is right in your situation.

Jamie - posted on 11/05/2010

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IIf when she wakes up she is eattin a good amount its not a bad habit she us hungry but if she us just snacking then I think it is a habit and letting her cry a lil and a pacifier might help; when my oldest was snacking i started giving him water bottle and after a week he realied tjat wasnt worth wakin up for

Jacqueline - posted on 11/05/2010

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Hi. I expereinced the same issue. My son did not sleep through the night for the 1st year. He did not sleep more than 3-4 hours at a time. Everytime he would wake up I just fed him. I began taking one feeding at a time and kept one early in the morning. Do whatever works for you. Get some sleep as soon as he does. It makes a difference during your trials. Good luck

Gina - posted on 11/05/2010

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Sleep deprivation sucks... but it's only a phase! As the successful breastfeeding Mommy to a singleton and then triplets, I know sleep deprivation! PLEASE do not listen to some of the other advice on giving bottles of water or juice or adding cereal to the bottles!!!! Your poor lil baby is not taking advantage of you, and from personal experience, offering the breast for a fast nursing generally achieves the quickest result of return to sleep for all involved. Our culture has this unreal expectation of most babies and toddlers to sleep through before they are physilogically capable. Breastmilk is digested quicker and more completely than formula or other food sources, and so at 7 months, it truly is out of NEED and not habit. Until after 12 months, it is unfair to expect your child to go 6-8 hours without a feed. As they are approaching 12 months, you can start offering a high protein snack right before bed and that will help promote the possibility of a longer stretch. Your child will sleep through the night when (s)he is ready! This phase is just preparing your for all the sleepless nights to come when you have teenagers! ;)

Nicole - posted on 11/05/2010

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Tanz, babies should be able to sleep without waking through the night by this age but some babies just don't. If your baby is feeding the right amount through the day and eating solids more three times a day there should be no reason for her to be hungry. If she is not getting enough she will be. You need to first like one other person said express her feeds and see how much is is actually consuming, if she is taking the amount she should then you can look at other methods. I had my daughter in a sleep clinic at this age because she was only sleeping in 15 minute burst which she had done since birth and I had to do something by this age. She wasn't feeding properly because she was too tired as well so wasn't getting what she needed at each feed so she had to have a lot more feeds to make up for that. In the clinic they taught me to wrap her tightly when putting her down and to let her put herself to sleep. This meant putting her down when calm and still awake. She would cry and I had to leave her for 5 mins then go in and calm her and leave her after she calmed. They told me not to talk to her or look in her eyes and that this would stop her from trying to get my attention. If she persisted she was allowed to have 30mls of boiled water but not a feed. She soon got over wanting a feed and after 4 days was sleeping 8 hours through the night. This was a blessing to me because we were then all able to get enough sleep to function. Her appetite picked up and she was happier. And don't think you are a bad mum just cos you want to get some sleep. You can't function if you're exhausted and then you can't look after your baby properly.

Olivia - posted on 11/05/2010

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I have read it takes 3 days (give or take) to make a habbit with a child. so it may take a little tough love. a little bit of crying doesnt hurt the child, you know a couple minutes or so. It hurts us more than it does them. I agre with angie though, you may want to try just waiting a few minutes when you hear your baby wake up to see if he/she falls back asleep on his own. I was doing the same thing.. i would just wake up and be half asleep when i picked her up to feed her. However, one night i was so tired i just layed in bed in hopes that she would fall back asleep and you know what, she did! it was the first night to many great nights of full sleep. Good Luck and like some others have said every baby is different but it doesnt hurt to try something for a coupe days to see if it works.

Donna - posted on 11/05/2010

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I used to just keep my kids right next to me in bed...I would roll over, let them nurse, and go right back to sleep! It was the only way I could sleep when they were younger. If I would have had them in a crib and had to keep getting up during the night to feed them in a rocker, I would have been exhausted. Nurse and sleep at the same time! :)

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My son Chance is thirteen months old. He still wakes up twice a night Usually he goes to bed at about eight thirty. He wakes up about midnight or one a.m. Usually he'll fuss for a few minutes then go back to sleep. Then again at five he wakes up and has either a bottle or a boob. Whatever I feel like doing. Some children don't "sleep through" like others. Every child is different. Try what is best for you. : )

Kealani - posted on 11/05/2010

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You do what you feel is right for you! I am totally pro-breastfeeding, as I have nursed both of my kids (my oldest weaned herself at 13 months, and am still nursing my youngest at 13 months). I'll stop whenever he decides. However, I did start to "help" him to stop the nighttime feedings at about 7 months. I knew that he technically didn't "need" the night time feedings long before 7 months, but my heart told me that he (and I ) were not ready. But by 7 months, I desperately needed my sleep, so I could be a better mommy. I totally respect those moms who strongly disagree with me, and I am glad that they have been able to get up throughout the night every night and be able to function the next day. I on the other hand was at my breaking point, and had to end the night time feeds. My husband and I hadn't slept together since before the baby was born, so my marriage was also starting to pay. Once I started the transition, it only took a few nights of crying (with plenty of love and reassurance to get through it), before both of them started to sleep through the night! And they were much happier during the day, and they also napped better! I really like the "Good Night, Sleep Tight" book. The author has some very gentle ways of helping to make that transition. Every family is different. So long as baby is thriving and happy and safe, do whatever works best for you and your family! Good Luck!

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I had this same problem with my youngest, my pediatrician helped me deal with it.....he told that she was using me as a pacifier, and it was O.K. to let her cry. He said it was going to be harder on me than her, and he was correct. He said to let her cry, just not longer then 5 minutes....she cried for about a week, but then stopped and slept through the night.

Christi - posted on 11/05/2010

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I think maybe its time to not insult eachother so much! And to accuse eachother! In the end most children end up fine and happy, being loved by their parents is the most important, isn't it? And every mom (and dad!) need to work out together what will work for them and their children and every child needs a different approach as well. Anyway the accusing thing is really bothering! And unnecessary, people can tell eachother what worked for them and then every parent can pick what will work for them.

Fern - posted on 11/05/2010

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Great idea Beth and I agree, you have to find what works for you and your baby!!!

Beth - posted on 11/05/2010

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What people consider "through the night" doesn't always mean the same thing. I would suggest not putting her to bed until you go to bed - then maybe you can make it through the "night" with only one waking for you. This is what I did with my twins. I didn't want to spend their night time sleeping while I was still awake. I put them to bed at 10 or 11 when I went to bed - if she wakes every 4 hours, then you are only up at 2 or 3 and can sleep til 6. If you're at home and able to, you can put her back down after the 6am feeding and get a little more rest for both of you.

There are some great responses here. Try a few until you find out what works well for YOU!

Fern - posted on 11/05/2010

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Some babies cannot go all night without nursing. 4 hours is a long time for a breastfed baby. And 7 months is still a very small baby. If getting up during the night is difficult for you, try putting her in bed with you so she can nurse more easily and you can sleep. If she wakes and doesn't go back to sleep in 5-10 minutes, then she is hungry and needs to eat. I have nursed 3 babies and I wouldn't expect her to sleep all night until she is close to 1 year old.

Christina - posted on 11/05/2010

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It's been my experience that if you feed the child oatmeal or a baby-type hot cereal blended with fruit and offer a bottle of warm milk just prior to a warm bath and bed, this tends to fill the tummy as well are soothe the child. This aids in better sleep as they are warm and full. Then, if they wake up during the night, despite this, you simply leave them be, let him/her cry it out and eventually the middle of the night upsets will phase out. Follow this routine start to finish. never once giving in to the child's midnight demands. Now, if the child is able to get out of bed and come visit, simply return the child to bed without him/her getting what he/she has asked for and again it will eventually stop happening. the key is the warm and full tummy before bed. takes time. don't expect instant results. you must be diligent about holding firm to your decision to make this change. baby isn't suppose to train mommy, but the other way around. Good luck.

Kristi - posted on 11/05/2010

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I feel you on this! My daughter just turned 8 months old and up until 1 1/2 weeks ago she hadn't slept thru the night eiher. We ended up having to play bad parents and letting her cry herself back to sleep during the night. It only took 2 nights and now she sleeps thru the night no problem. It was hard to listen to her cry but she only cried for about 20 minutes and less the second night. It was all worth it in the end...she is happier because she is getting enough sleep and we are getting all the sleep we need too. Good Luck!!

Victoria - posted on 11/05/2010

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@Holly Gomez, I want to support your comments since you've had such challenging responses. Thanks for posting your resources.

(now I'm addressing everyone here, not just Holly):
I can add to this that there have been studies done comparing how different African tribes dealt with just this type of issue (and no, I don't know where this reference is anymore). One tribe always held their babies, and there was always a community member to help when mama needed a break so the child always received physical love and support - ie had their needs met. The other tribe had the 'hang the baby on the wall' when crying and let them 'cry it out' and do you want to know the results? The hold baby always tribe had a settled, loving cooperative community and the cry it out tribe had lots of anger/fighting/violence. Imagine that.

SO, that said, I do think this issue is way to personal for anyone here to judge anyone else for their personal choice in this matter. Every child is different and every family has different needs. Share your opinions about how you have chosen to handle this, but please stop judging others. It's not productive.

Layla - posted on 11/05/2010

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To all of those who are saying that CIO (cry it out) is not harmful, there have been numerous studies done including one at Harvard medical school, which showed that it is indeed harmful. When babies are distressed they release cortisol - the stress hormone- it floods their system and when done over and over it affects the synapse connections being formed in their brains in a detrimental way.

Erin - posted on 11/05/2010

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She's a baby with a tiny, tiny tummy. She's probably just hungry. It's not a bad habit to feed her -- just nurse her and put her back down. Honestly, if she wakes just twice a night at 7 months I'd call her an awesome sleeper, for a baby.

FWIW, she'll probably start waking more for a couple months between now and 10 or 11 months, because it's often a busy time, developmentally, and babies sleep badly when they're developing major new skills. Chances are, she'll settle down and sleep much better a month or two after she's learned to walk.

Tracy - posted on 11/05/2010

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It is my personal theory that babies do what they "need"... even at 7 months. Some of my babies slept though the night, some didn't...When she is ready, she will. I say, when she wakes up, address the issues, hunger, dirty diaper, too hot/cold. Comfort her and lay her back down, minimize the attention/interaction so she doesn't think it's play time and see what happens.

Layla - posted on 11/05/2010

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That's not a bad habit! That's exactly normal for a 7 month old. Their stomachs are small so they need frequent feedings. It is biologically normal and healthy for a little one to wake at night. Please read "Night-time Parenting" by Dr. William Sears

Holly - posted on 11/05/2010

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That's not what the resources say to those that called me ignorant.Take the time to look it up #1. #2 who the heck would YOU Feel if you needed something and you were left to lay there and scream it out? HMMMM I would feel pretty darn neglected. Have you never just needed someone to say I love you, it's ok or give you a hug? I sure have. Why as a loving parent would you deny your child that right? Even so called "sleep training methods" don't advise to start sleep training to WELLLLLLLLLL over seven months. This is an infant. Do you REALLY believe an infant understands (or cares) that you are tired? You knew infants didn't sleep through the night. You shouldn't have had kids if you were going to leave them to cry at night because "you are soooooo tired" It's called being a loving parent. Try it sometime! And FYI I have SIX kids who have NEVER been forced to cry without attention. How incredibly sad!!! I want my Momma, I want a comfort nurse, I'm hungry, I'm hot, I'm cold, I'm lonely, I'm scared, I'm bored... in an infant EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THOSE ISSUES deserves attention. If you don't feel that way WOW just WOW. I'm SO glad I wasn't YOUR kid! I told you what to google but you would obviously just rather believe you are right... I understand, knowing that it could cause brain damage you don't know about yet would be very hard to deal with.. I can't imagine the guilt.. go ahead and call me annoying and anything else you want... then read the articles posted below and actually do some research.... It IS true that crying with no relief can cause brain damage. Read up on something before you attack me for trying to tell a new mom the information! She might actually listen to you people and hurt her child because of what YOU guys said. Way to go!

All my info:
http://www.google.com/search?sourceid=ch...
Specific articles:
http://www.babble.com/baby/health-and-sa...

http://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/...

http://www.suite101.com/content/can-cryi...

Jessica - posted on 11/05/2010

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I have to say that I disagree with most people. When my 6 month old was still waking once at night, I would go in there and nurse her and she fell immediately back to sleep. I thought she was getting too old for this, so to test if she was really hungry or not, one night I went in and just rocked her and she was just looking around and happy, not complaining that I wasn't feeding her. She was just in a habit of me coming in to nurse her (it wasn't even a full nursing like during the day, just one side and she was back to sleep). So the next night, when she woke, I let her cry it out. It wasn't a big cry with tears, it was more of a complaining for about 45 minutes and then she fell asleep. The next night I did the same thing and she cried for maybe 30 minutes. Then one more night for 15 minutes. And since then she has stayed asleep through the night. I think babies should learn to soothe themselves sometimes. I love to cuddle and be there for her during the day (or at night if she's sick or teething or something), but I think babies want to get a good night sleep, and the parent needs that too. I believe in the long you are helping your child feel secure at night by themselves. No one likes to hear their child cry, but if they are not really hurting or hungry, they will be alright. Of course every child is different and only you know your child, so do what's best for you. This is just my opinion. Another thing someone told me to try is have daddy go in and see if he can rock he/she back to sleep or rub their back until they go to sleep.

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Hi, I am not sure whether this is bad habbit. I have got 2 kids, and both seem to have bad habbits:))))seriously, I believe, every child is special. My older daughter,she is 2,5y now, she started to sleep thru the night when she was 2 y whe she got all teeths etc...and till 18monts she was awake nearly every hour, so 2times a night was kind of dream for me:) My son, nearly 9m old, is 2-3times awake and I asume its just right......I am not sure, if u belive its bad habbit, u may try some techniques, but my experience is its matter of time....I could not help myself, but now I know, it was really matter of time. Some babies are born with it, some need to learn, they have got their own timing.Good luck!

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In response to Holly's comments....I ABSOLUTELY agree with Amy Hendricks. My 10 month old baby was sleeping in our bed with us, but relied on my boob to get back to sleep. I know she wasn't hungry, she just wanted to use me as a pacifier. It was alright when she was younger and needed to eat at night, but she was getting to the point that she couldn't sleep without my boob in her mouth. If I tried to roll over to get more comfortable, she'd wake up and start crying. Both of us weren't getting adequate sleep so my husband and I decided to put her to bed in her crib. Does that make us terrible parents? No, not at all. Oh believe me! I've read lots and lots of articles about letting the baby "cry it out" and I thought that was a terrible thing to do, but we don't just ignore her. For the first two nights of putting her in her own crib, she cried. Babies cry. I knew she wasn't hungry or hurting. She just wanted her "pacifier." She's teething....that hurts...BAD! So we will go into her room when she's crying, talk to her for a couple seconds, rub her belly or chest, and tell her we love her, and quietly walk away. We will continually go in there every 5 minutes to let her know that we haven't forgotten about her. If she cries for an hour, we will have gone in there 12 times. We aren't ignoring her or letting her just "cry it out!" And believe me...babies are smarter than you think. My baby knows we will be back. After the second night of checking on her every 5 minutes, she hasn't lost trust in us. It's been a month now and she still cries once during the night, but I will go in there, pick her up and give her a hug. As soon as I put her back down, she is content and falls right back to sleep. She isn't emotionally damaged. I have 3 daughters, 8, 5, and 11 months. All three of them are very smart, independent children! I can guarantee their nerve endings in their brains haven't been damaged. And I will again say what Amy has said....moms post questions on here for advice...Tans wanted some advice about how to put her baby down because she was exhausted. I was also exhausted and wasn't getting good sleep, my back hurt from co-sleeping with my baby girl who I absolutely love to death. I gave her some advice without telling her she was being a bad mother. I believe that a good nights sleep makes us all better parents. I know that I've had more patience with my other daughters now that I'm getting better sleep. I'm not a bad parent because I put my baby girl in her own crib at night. She knows I still love her with all her heart. She trusts me. She knows she's not abandoned. Babies are smarter than you realize!!!

Amy - posted on 11/05/2010

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@Holly Gomez: Just because ppl dont think the same way you do doesnt mean you can write ignorant n annoying comments on here. Having your child cry it out does NOT cause brain OR emotional damage. My 20 mth old daughter is perfectly fine, a very smart little girl who is extremely independent. Just because a child wakes up at night does not necessarily mean they are hungry. All children wake up multiple times in the night. For alot of them, it's a matter of them learning to put themselves back to sleep. The AAP says that most kids are able to sleep 8 hours at night. This is not a cruel thing to do. And just because your child cries does NOT mean you are a bad parent. I'm not going to run to my child's side as soon as she cries. She cries n throws a tantrum on the floor because I don't give her what she wants. Does that make me a horrible parent? No. If you "really want to puke" because of my comment, keep it to yourself. Women post questions on here in the hope of getting ideas as to what can help and maybe even just some support. So why dont you post your idea n leave it at that. Stop being insulting.

Christi - posted on 11/05/2010

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I don't think you should totally make the baby cry it out, especially the first 6 months babies need to be comforted. But I do believe that after about 6 months (also according to research) babies start knowing that the can play to get their way so it's important to know when that's happening, babies can really cry or they can cry with little breaks in between, that means they're waiting to see whether they can get their way and I think most babies at 7 months can actually sleep through te night (at least all the babies I know do)

Holly - posted on 11/05/2010

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Please please please Momma... don't make her cry it out. She is obviously in need of something or she wouldn't be crying... at seven months recall is poor in an infant. If you aren't there you aren't there. They don't "quite" have a grasp on the fact that you will return! They also get hungry often... especially during growth spurts. Breastmilk is very pure so it digests and leaves the tummy QUICKLY. Also, her little tummy is the size of her fist. ... not a very big tummy for lasting all night empty.

If you go into her room, pat her and tell her it is night and time for sleep she is NOT going to understand. They don't understand day/night at seven months old! They are BABIES. People who say Sleep Training (AKA Crying it out) works don't realize the baby is being trained all right... trained to know that when she has a need she isn't going to get it filled! She also is going to learn she can't trust you to feed her when she is hungry or to sooth her when she is scared! You didn't when she screamed and cried for what seemed like FOR-EV-ER to her last night... why would you do it now? The babies just give up. It is so sad, it makes my stomach roll! :( They learn that crying doesn't help. They don't "cry it out" they cry until their bodies shut down. There is also direct evidence between unsoothed crying and nerves in the brain being damaged! Nerve endings have actual damage from parents that allow crying it out!! I flip when my son cries the 15 minutes we are in the car and will contort myself into all sorts of positions to hold his hand (sooth him) to prevent that brain damage. I don't have time to cite but you can do the homework yourself :) Google brain damage in infants/ crying and see what you find! So sad!!

Christi - posted on 11/05/2010

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No easy way out I think, you'll probably have to let her cry it out. Start with the 1 am and go in and tell her that it's night time not day time and time to sleep. Go back if necessary after 5 minutes and tell her again, then after 10 and keep that up till she fall asleep. Good luck.

Shenise - posted on 11/05/2010

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I know its hard. I stopped at 6 mnths with my twins. I started during the day and then at night i would put the bottle nipple by my nipple,but they would actually get the bottle. Eventually they just transitioned to the bottle. Untill got used to it i still would hold the bottle close to my breast. Good luck!!

Sally - posted on 11/05/2010

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sometimes they just needs to suck and not feed, thats why they may like a binky instead of mummy. just to comfort them back to sleep.

Victoria - posted on 11/05/2010

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I think it's perfectly normal for an infant to breastfeed at night and you're LUCKY she's on a regular schedule. Does she sleep in bed with you? If she's in a crib then the night feedings can be more tiring, but if she's right there with you, then you can just roll over and feed her without having to even wake up fully. I had a family bed with my kids when they were little and they fed on demand. Yes, it's tiring, that's part of parenting. I didn't get a full night's sleep for a few years (my first two were two years apart). My newest one sleeps through the night without needing to eat - and I had the docs telling me to wake her up because she has cystic fibrosis and needs to eat at night. NO WAY! Kids wake up to eat when/if they need to and it stops when they no longer are hungry at night. Feed a hungry baby and don't wake a sleeping one. Should just about cover the basics! It’s not a ‘bad habit’ for your baby to wake up to eat, and you’ve done nothing wrong by feeding her. Keep doing it – but also take naps when she does, no matter how much you want to clean the kitchen or whatever. Good luck.

Linda - posted on 11/04/2010

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i feel 7mths is still quite young and my youngest who is now 19mths did the same feed times for a long time. i think maybe she still needs a feed as did my big fella. it was suggested i try the dream feed at 10pm to try to break the cycle but this didn't work for him although it did for my other two. he finally slept through around 10mths. (although i have to admit he is my worst sleeper with the odd unsettled night especially when teething) i know it is tiring especially if you also have others to tend to but hang in there and keep up the good work. i'm sure before you know it she'll be sleeping through.

SUSAN J. - posted on 11/04/2010

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Can I assume when you say "titty" that you are nursing your baby? When she wakes up pop her into bed with you turn out the light and you will both fall asleep no more exhaustion for you and she might not wake up at 5am. Don't worry you won't roll over and suffocate her,Is she waking up because her diaper wet and cold? At 7 months she is a little young to sleep all the way throught the night. when does she go down in the evening? if it ios early about 7pm she is probably hunger so that is why she wakes up. One of my children went to bed at 7pm for the night and woke up about 3 or 4 as she was hungery, i put her into bed and ewverything was okay.

Holly - posted on 11/04/2010

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I really want to PUKE at some of these answers:( Crying it out is CRUEL. How would you feel if you were hungry, cold, lonely, confused, scared and nobody cared to check on you. Or if they did they didn't see anything VISIBLY wrong and left you to cry it out :( *IT* is something. It is not crying for no reason whatsoever...

And "Cheat a belly"... the poor kid is HUNGRY and you are going to give it WATER? Next time you are hungry you drink some water and keep on going with your day! No more water than one cup... so not enough to actually fill you up...

Momma... follow your instincts.. if you are sitting there CRYING because of something you are doing/allowing with your child it is WRONG. If your child keeps crying it is for a REASON.. babies don't just cry and cry for no reason :(

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