Bad marriage

Theresa - posted on 12/31/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )




I'm tired if arguing with my husband. Been married for 17 yrs. When is enough enough! Have 2 kids..15 and 7.


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Jodi - posted on 12/31/2013




The thing about a bad marriage is that you and your husband are role models to your children on how a healthy relationship works. Small arguments with constructive discussion and a resolution are a great thing to role model for children, so sometimes it is ok for children to be witness to an argument between a couple. However, constant arguing and bickering with no real constructive outcome, constant downputting and anger is not a good role model for your children. So talking about staying together for the kids is a HUGE misconception, and only serves to create a situation for them where they don't know how to communicate themselves in a relationship, because their role model was an unhealthy one.

Having said that, have the two of you considered counselling to assess your differences and potentially help to resolve them? I am not saying all issues can be resolved, but everyone owes it to themselves and their families to make best efforts at trying, and then, only then, should we consider it time to quit.

You have to decide if these arguments are over the little things (in which case, that is resolveable, you just need to both learn to pick your battles and learn how to argue constructively) or the really big stuff (in which case, it may not be able to be resolved).

Vivienne Frances - posted on 12/31/2013




I argue with mine too,been together approx 18 years.I just go for a walk,then things are right again pretty quick,we usually have a laugh afterwards and realise how silly we are!come this far why end things now?especially when kids are involved,i say maybe get some advice,or maybe have a little holiday apart for a few days(that works wonders)I dont know of a couple who dont have arguments,perfectly normal,best of wishes to all.

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