Bed time during summer vacation

Pam - posted on 07/03/2013 ( 11 moms have responded )




My 10 year old daughter is saying that she should stay up as late as she likes since its summer and she has nothing to get up for. Help


Tracey - posted on 07/05/2013




I have a 10 year old daughter who's normal bedtime during school is 8:00 or 8:30 and her summer hours are until 11:00 pm depending on if we have to go somewhere the next day but she doesn't get to sleep to 9 or 10 either on off days. When she has swim practice during the month of June, she goes to sleep by 9:30. Whether she goes to bed early or late, she still has her daily routine plus she does her summerbridge work as well. I believe structure and consistency are the keys. They can argue all day long but it is what was it is! Stay strong! They may not like it but they will appreciate it later!

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 07/12/2013





I always set a bedtime for my kids that were under the age of 15. Generally it was later than their school year time. And, just for the heck of it, once in awhile I didn't enforce it...and they soon realized that if they stayed up all night they were exhausted the next day!

Set limits. You are the parent. You do have that power! ;-)

Kayla - posted on 07/05/2013




My son is 10 yrs old as well and during school bedtime is 8:30pm and during the summer it's 10pm. I feel that just because it's summer doesn't mean he is gonna sleep the day away.

Jodi - posted on 07/03/2013




I agree with her having a slightly later bedtime, but no bedtime at all? No. Nothing to get up for? She needs to get a hobby or have something productive to do. I don't vary too much on bedtimes over summer, except for the odd occasion, because it is far too difficult to get them back into routine when school goes back.

However, ultimately you are the parent. What do YOU think?


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Mommy - posted on 07/12/2013




My husband and I were just talking about this the other night. I think one of the problems we have as a society is we stopped telling our children no, just for the sake of saying no. We always are pressured to come up with some sort of excuse. I think that telling her she is not allowed to stay up as late as she wants no matter the season is important because we need to remind our children that there is a a difference between what they are allowed to do as kids and what can do as adults. There are way too many entitled kids running around who got that way because their parents need a reason to say no.

Pat - posted on 07/08/2013




I give my kids 10, 12, 14 the first week of summer to stay up as late as they want, not have any sort of schedule, chore etc. By the end of the week they're begging to have a normal life back. It's kind of like chocolate cake, too much makes you feel yucky,,, Most of the summer we have a pretty set routine of when we go to bed, when we go to the park, when we have reading time, what day we go to the library, or what day we go swimming. My kids just do better with a routine. This year THEY wanted to earn points for doing different things like pages read, etc. to try and earn a gold silver or bronze award. We also had a goal making session at the beginning of the summer, my daughter's goal was to read and play in water every day. My son, 10 who loves to make paper airplanes, wanted to learn about aerodynamics, so we look for books about that at the library etc. It's nice to feel like summer isn't just a waste.

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My kids are 11 and 7 and I am a SAHM. Their bed times during school are 10pm for the oldest and 9-930 for the youngest. My oldest doesn't need a lot of sleep and usually is up by 7-8 on the weekends. My youngest needs her sleep. I have a deal with them in the summer. They can stay up as late as they want, but must go to their rooms at 10pm. This way I get my "quiet" time at night. They don't have any electronics in their room, just toys, books, coloring etc. My daughter usually is asleep by 1030. My son has sometimes stayed up later, but it is b/c he got into a book and lost track of time. This seems to work for us. When we have to get up in the morning, I put them to bed at a certain time, and explain it is b/c they have to get up.

Staci - posted on 07/05/2013




My two youngest children (10 and 12) are in bed between 8:30 and 9pm on a school night because they have to get up so early in the morning. Now that its summer, they go to camp, I have let them stay up till about 10pm. They came to me and asked if they could stay up all night. I said "Sure, knock yourself out"!! Didn't last because their bodies are so conditioned to sleep at certain times they were knocked out before I knew it. As far as they know they stayed up late. LOL!!!

But after I work a long day, come home and play and listen to them about their days etc., I still want/need MY time also. I can't have my children staying up half the night, that's my quiet time. Call me selfish but we all need it.

Elizabeth - posted on 07/05/2013




When I was growing up, I didn't have a bedtime during the summer (it was bedtime at 9 during the schoolyear). That goes back as far as I can remember. However, my sister and I didn't normally stay up all that late because after playing outside all day, we were tired! We also typically got up about 8 or so in the summer mornings so we could maximize our time outside. Times are a bit different now, but a kid who does nothing but play all day will still be too tired to stay up very late.

My own daughter is only 3, but I don't plan on giving her strict bedtimes during the summer. She doesn't have one now either, she naturally goes to bed around 10pm and gets up around 8am.

Pam - posted on 07/03/2013




I'm too much of a pushover. I have her going to bed at 11:00 pm. I think it's late enough.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 07/03/2013




I think setting a reasonable bed time to agree on is good, maybe 9-10...and later on special occasions. What time do you have her going to bed right now?

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