Bedtimes?

Katy - posted on 02/25/2009 ( 11 moms have responded )

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What times do you put your children down? Do you feel they get enough sleep?

I've got an almost 10 year old, who's bedtime is 9, and is never tired no matter what excercise we've done that day. I notice that if I let him stay up later than that, or even at 9 he is very cranky the next day.. Meanwhile, we put our 6 month old down around 8. This seems to work, altough I am still getting up occasionally throughout the night.

What is working for you?

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Rachael - posted on 02/24/2019

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We have 4 children ages 9,11,13 and 15 years old, All my children wake up at 7am and get ready for school. My 15 and 13 year olds go to bed at 8:30pm. They are in bed at 8pm and after 30 minutes of reading its lights out. My 9 and 11 year olds go to bed at 7pm and they read for 30 minutes at 7:30pm its lights out.

Wendy - posted on 02/26/2009

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My daughter (who is 5) goes to bed at 9 and gets up at around 7:30. My son (who is almost 3) goes to bed at 7:30 and gets up at around 6.  I would like to get my daughter going to bed at around 8 - 8:30, but for now it is okay because she doesn't go to school until the afternoon. I told her next year that she will have to go to bed earlier because she will be in school all day and will probably get tired earlier. I really wish my son would wake up later than 6 in the morning but we have tried adjusting his bedtime, and it makes absolutely no difference.

Malinda - posted on 02/26/2009

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My 16 month old goes to bed at 7:30.



There is a great book called Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child by Marc Weissbluth that handles sleep through childhood stages, and I believe it goes all the way to the teen years. It might have the information you are looking for.

http://www.amazon.com/Healthy-Sleep-Habi...

Richelle - posted on 02/26/2009

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My kids, ages 5 and 3, both go to bed at 7:30. I always let my kids know that it is getting close to bed time by giving them a 30 min warning. I set the timer and they know that when it goes off its time for bed. For my oldest this works great and makes getting ready for bed battle free. Most important thing is that the kids have a routine to help them wind down from their day. Ours includes getting them into their pjs, brushing their teeth, and story time. We all snuggle on the bed, and its a great time for mom to get in some cuddle time. My kids are always running and playing, so I don't get lots of cuddle time during the day unless they are not feeling well. I also have some relaxing music for the kids to listen to as they fall asleep. My oldest doesn't always fall right to sleep, but he is allowed to have a book in with him to look at until he does. Even if it takes him 30 mins or more to get to sleep, at least he is down and resting.

Katy - posted on 02/26/2009

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Quoting Jennifer:



In my humble opinion, I honestly think sleep is one of the most important things to have to keep a happy and healthy child.  I have a 4 and 6 yr old who's bedtimes are both 7:30.  I've noticed that any later than that they are dog tired to get up and have a good breakfast, etc. before school begins.  Now that the 6 yr old is in school full time he doesn't nap during the week but my 4yr old still naps as well, as both do on the wknds. I think they're brains need rest as well as their body to function on all 4 cylanders.






That said, I have good friends that have always had a difficult time at bedtime, even if they didn't nap, I was pretty lucky!  It does depend on the child's mindset, I think one needs to find how to settle their brains down before asking them to go to sleep.  Have you tried reading a book to your 10yr old before he winds down? Just a suggestion because it seems to work for me as I read to them for about 20 minutes. Don't have him read to himself because it keeps his brain ticking but if he has to settle and listen for 15-20 min. it may slow him down a bit.






That's my long winded suggestion! Good luck.






No problem on the winded reply..lol



We all head upstairs around 8, my older son tidies his room, while we're bathing the baby, then while we're doing the rest of the baby routine, he washes up and does his nightly routine.  He is an avid reader, and is usually dying to get back into his book for a few minutes before bed.  This works, because we're putting the baby down and see him just in time to chat and then turn off the lights.  Any earlier of a routine, I've found he cannot fall asleep, any later and he's a crankball at the breakfast table.  ;)  His usual nightly reading is a Calvin & Hobbes comic: simple enough to not have to concentrate. 



 

Mary - posted on 02/26/2009

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We put both of our children to bed between 7:30 and 8:00.  They are 6 and 4.  This works fairly well for us. Once in bed, the kids are allowed to read a book.  They typically fall asleep doing this and I will go in and turn off lamp.  They are usually asleep within 15 mins.

User - posted on 02/25/2009

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In my humble opinion, I honestly think sleep is one of the most important things to have to keep a happy and healthy child.  I have a 4 and 6 yr old who's bedtimes are both 7:30.  I've noticed that any later than that they are dog tired to get up and have a good breakfast, etc. before school begins.  Now that the 6 yr old is in school full time he doesn't nap during the week but my 4yr old still naps as well, as both do on the wknds. I think they're brains need rest as well as their body to function on all 4 cylanders.



That said, I have good friends that have always had a difficult time at bedtime, even if they didn't nap, I was pretty lucky!  It does depend on the child's mindset, I think one needs to find how to settle their brains down before asking them to go to sleep.  Have you tried reading a book to your 10yr old before he winds down? Just a suggestion because it seems to work for me as I read to them for about 20 minutes. Don't have him read to himself because it keeps his brain ticking but if he has to settle and listen for 15-20 min. it may slow him down a bit.



That's my long winded suggestion! Good luck.

Christine - posted on 02/25/2009

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Both my kids go down at the same time. They are 8 and 2. We start getting ready for bed at 8:30 and they are in bed by 9:00. My 2 yr. old is really good at putting himself to sleep (that took a bit of work around 5 months though) and he will usually sleep for 12 hrs. My 8 yr. old is in bed at 9:00 too, but I allow her to read for 15 mins. before she goes to sleep. It's her wind-down time. Maybe your son is over stimulated before bed. My ped. told me that even television can be over stimulating for kids. That's whey I let my daughter read for a bit. It works really well for me. I rarely have tired cranky kids.



Hope that little bit helps. Good luck!!

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The main thing is to get them on a schedule so they know what to expect. My 21 mth old goes down at 730 and my 6 year old goes down between 8-830. My 21 mth old still wakes up at night, but once I check on him and make sure he's ok, I leave him in his bed. My ped. told me he has to learn to get himself back to sleep. It is hard sometimes, but amazingly enough when he realizes I'm not coming back in he goes to sleep. The longest I've been up with him is 30 min. max. Thankfully, it doesn't last very long and within a few days he's back to sleeping through the night.

Shannon - posted on 02/25/2009

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We put our baby down at 730, our 7 & 5 yr old down at 830, and our 13 yr old at 9

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