Behavior problems with 3 year old...

Cristina - posted on 12/29/2011 ( 3 moms have responded )




This my problem, I have this little boy that is behaving so awful, he screams and yells all the time, he does not obey ( even the littlest of things) totally ignores when we talk to him, although he listens to everything we say, is not eating, barely touches his food, when we go to the store he just won't listen when I want him by my side he starts to touch everything, it got to the point where I don't want to take him anywhere, he wines for everything and the other day at the store he started to scream at the top of his lungs because he couldn't take a toy home with him. I used to be a preschool teacher and really had a great time with the kids his age there, and it's like I'm failing as a mom when my own kid won't listen to to me, I've tried time out and to be honest don't know what to do, it seems that it's getting worse with each passing day, don't know what to do anymore, I'm a nervous wreck and I'm beginning to think that I made a mistake thinking that I would be a good mom to anyone, when I can't handle one 3 year old. Can anyone relate and give advice? Thank you.


Karen - posted on 12/30/2011




Pick your battles. My little guy is the same way. He just turned 3 and has been showing his will since he was just over a year. We are talking major meltdown tempertantrums for the slightest of things. Don't fight over the food thing. Put his plate of food in front of him. Either he'll eat it or he won't. Make it as healthy as possible, but with foods you know he will eat. If he's doing something that is not hurting him or he's not destroying something....walk away.. It's not worth the fight. Choose one or two things to start cracking down on. It will be a fight! Just stay strong.

Maybe go to the store purposely to pick up one or two things that you need. Bring a list, tell him you need to get the things only on that list. Just get those two things and leave. He will eventually understand. Good luck and remember if you've already said 'no', do not change your answer under any circumstances. Be consistant and you should start seeing a difference.

Ruthie - posted on 12/29/2011




Cristina, I don't know what state you are in, but the state I live in..there are playschools that work with children on behavior problems and they will work with you on how to implement the methods being used. Be strong

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I can certainly relate, my son was a bloody nightmare at three. The amount of times I cried about that boy are countless. The only real advice I can give you is to choose your method and stick with it. Stay consistent in your discipline, don't change the rules. Don't get caught up in his world, stay focused on the behaviour you wish to instil in him (in other words, don't yell back when he starts yelling, don't get pulled in to arguments with him). You will need to use all of your inner strength to get through this difficult stage. My son is now 5, his behaviour has improved in leaps and bounds. At age 3 and a half I ended up putting him in to day care just one day a week. I would use this day to do my shopping and the bonus was my son learned about how to behave, how to interact with other kids and he developed a little independence away from me. Don't doubt your own ability as a Mum, you can't let this experience break you, let it strengthen you. I have been where you are and it will get better. Stay strong :-)


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