being a stay at home mom isnt a job

Miracle - posted on 01/30/2018 ( 33 moms have responded )

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bein a stay at home mother to ur own kids is not a “job. don't care how difficult it is or how hard u work. period.getting to do nothing but raise a person u chose to bring into the world is a privilege, and calling it anything else is ignorant and condescending. i think being a stay at home mom is fine but i see too many posts on here callin it a damn job. just want to voice my opinion

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Danielle - posted on 02/03/2018

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I have been a working mom at times, and stay at home mom at others and neither were easy. BOTH A LOT OF WORK! Right now I am working full-time, as son is in middle of school year. When summer comes, I will cut back to half time, and if necessary leave this job in order find one that will allow the schedule that is best for us.

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Miracle - posted on 02/03/2018

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and honestly ev bringing up that stuff just sounds like ur shaming me for working. but you know being pregnant, having my two kids, and then having my two nephews theres never been a more important time for me to be a working mom...

Miracle - posted on 02/03/2018

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ev, i think u are forgetting that most women work. i work a 9 to 5. and i still find a way to raise my kids. so dont be concerned on how im gonna "handle things". & no, i don't take time away from work for school issues. every school confrence ive ever been to is scheduled anywhere between six to eight .anyway, i never said stay at home moms sat around all day. i was a stay at home mom for a year like i said. but staying at home all day with the kids u chose to bring into world is not a job.

Miracle - posted on 02/03/2018

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not a fair question honey. u have replied w/ 3 long ass paragraphs. and here u are replying again. why is this such a issue for u?

Michelle - posted on 02/02/2018

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You actually don't have to keep replying with the same argument.
I have also been both a working Mum and a SAHM and they both have their challenges. Staying at home means sacrifices and watching what money is spent. Working means missing some important events for the kids.
It's not a privilege to stay at home, it is I guess a bit of a luxury that a lot of women can't have. Most households these days need both parents to work to have a decent standard of living.
I would look at a SAHM as a volunteer job. If you volunteered at your local charity store a few days a week, you would say you are going to work. The only thing is you don't get paid for it, just like a SAHM.
I work at the moment and my job isn't over when I get home as the other job I have is looking after my family. It's the unpaid job I have but it's a job. Just because someone who stays at home has more hours to do the same job doesn't give it any less meaning.

Miracle - posted on 02/01/2018

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i dont think i sound defensive. both of u keep replying so i have to say something back. ive said my opinion more then enough.

Miracle - posted on 02/01/2018

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when u become a mother u have to watch ur kids. all day if u dont work. thats how it is, how could that be compared to a job? they are ur kids.

Miracle - posted on 02/01/2018

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taking care of YOUR kids is not a job, i just dont care what anybody says. everything that stay at home moms do i do too. and i work full time! y'all just have all day to do what i do in a few hours. And yes for the last time its a privelege. for one u have to a afford to be able to do it. not everyone can, most cant. but that's my opinion.

Becky - posted on 01/31/2018

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I've been a working mom and now I'm back to being a stay at home mom. Running after a 1 year old while dealing with morning sickness for #2 while maintaining the home, cooking and cleaning and doing all the errands sure feels like a job to me.

Miracle - posted on 01/30/2018

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"a special right or advantage given to a particular person or group of people". motherhood is one of the best examples of true privelege. but that wasnt what my post was about.

Miracle - posted on 01/30/2018

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1. back then less jobs were available to women & women were paid even less then they are now. a women working wouldnt be much financial help. gender roles were also normal, it would be more unacceptable for a women to not be a stay at home mom then be one.

2.never said motherhood was a privelage. i said being a stay at home mom was. and being a mother is a privelage, its not a god given right.

Miracle - posted on 01/30/2018

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i was a stay at home mom for a year when my son got sick. all i found was that i had more time to do the motherly stuff i would have to anyway. i work full time. i come home and i clean, cook, run errands, everything that stay at home moms have all day to do. i just dont think it could ever be compared to a job. and yes its a privelage because it's a advantage to ur children & to yourself that u can only have if u can literally afford it.

Miracle - posted on 01/30/2018

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and all of those things u mentioned that stay at home moms do, newflash every mother does those things. hate to sound defensive but i work full time and do all those things.

Miracle - posted on 01/30/2018

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no honey defintion of a job is "a paid position of regular employment". stay at home moms work hard but it is wrong to call it a job. i get it stay at home moms think their position is gonna be valued more if they call it a job. but it was a privilege and a choice. so many mothers dont have the option of not working. a lot of things are hard work, but i dont call them my "job".

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