Best Advice? Worst Advice?

Lindsey - posted on 06/29/2011 ( 8 moms have responded )




Just curious... what was the best advice you got when you were expecting? The worst?

If you have one piece of advice for expectant moms, what would it be?

The best advice I ever received was to accept help whenever it is offered (and ask for it even when it isn't).

The worst was when I was told to give my week old son cow's milk (after all she did it with all of her kids and they turned out just fine).

My advice to expectant mothers is to trust your mind and your body. If you are tired, rest. If you need help, ask for it. If you need to cry, cry! If you think something isn't quite right, talk to your doctor.


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Devil In The Blue Dress - posted on 11/02/2013




Me & my baby's father were just dating when I got pregnant. When I first told him he freaked out and didn't call me for four days, I didn't want to push so I waited then he said he wanted the baby. The next month he went with me to my doctors visit and was their for our first sonogram. We then spent the whole day together, I thought he was ready for a relationship & was so happy I was going to have my little family. On Our next visit he didn't show said his car broke down, the third visit he text me he was hungover from the previous night. We then spoke i told him i was in love with him. he said he liked me but was having a hard time showing it. A month ago he said he was thinking & doesn't want to be with me that he doesn't feel an desire or connection with me. even told me his ex was more passionate. said that it was just sex when we conceived that he didn't make this baby with love. he said he will be there when his son comes. I feel so hurt & i told him so he then said i was being immature. I'm feeling resentful and want to be able to count on him but its hard when he's basically pushing us away. I feel needy and sexually frustrated. We have been apart for a little over a month. I am now 4months pregnant what can I say or do to help him get to be more involved? Please any suggestions

Barbara - posted on 06/30/2011




The best advice I ever got was listen to your child. If they are hungry feed them. One night my daughter who was 4 at the time told me she was hungry it was about 10:30 I knew she didnt eat well at diner so I asked her what she wanted she told me baked beans so I got her a small bowl of bake beans and she ate them then went to bed.
THe worst advice I ever got was after I nursed my daughter for the first 18months of her life my mom and inlaws both told em to put her on the bottle instead of a sippycup

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Best: They grow up fast, try to relax and enjoy it all.

Worst: If you... your child will never... / If you never... your child will always... (Don't listen to anyone who gives you advice on this model.)

Christy - posted on 06/30/2011




BEST: Enjoy your kids when they are young, they grow up!

WORST: You are getting so fat. You need to diet the day after you have your baby.

Amanda - posted on 06/29/2011




When I was expecting my 1st baby someone told me never to wake a sleeping baby. Such good advice I never suffered with sleep deprivation and had the best sleeping baby.

The worst was probably from a nurse who told me I was feeding my son too much and to cut down the amount he was eating because he was too big.

My advice to new or expectant mothers is to take one day at a time. Don't worry about what needs doing in 3 days time, just focus on what needs doing right now and don't panic if you don't get everything done in one day.
If you need help ask for it.
Everyone has their own opinion of how you should be doing things so sometimes you need to take what people say with a pinch of salt

Minnie - posted on 06/29/2011




Best advice: be attentive to your children's needs. They're vulnerable little people who deserve every ounce of respect we can give them (my mom).

I'd say that's the best advice I can give anyone. You can read a whole grocery list of parenting practices into that.

The worst: Your children are sinners from the womb. You need to break them and teach them to respect authority. Your tool to do that is a switch.

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