Biological dad

Cynthia - posted on 09/17/2014 ( 1 mom has responded )




I was separated from my husband when I got pregnant by someone else. Apparently, he turned out to be on drugs. He's not on the birth certificate and I got back together w/ my husband when she was a few months old. I walked away from her bio dad. She also has the same last name as my older 3 children by my husband. They don't know she has a different bio dad. She is also a different race then the other three and is asking questions about eye & hair color, etc. Even when she sees someone who is her race she relates herself to them saying that that's who she looks like. She is 7 yrs old and is mixed w/ black. My other three kids are mixed w/ Puerto Rican. My husband absolutely does not want her to know -- ever, that she is not his bio child. Idk what to do.


Sarah - posted on 09/17/2014




She already knows. If your husband does not want her to know about her bio dad then he should not have gotten back with you. She already knows that he is not her bio dad that is why she is asking the questions.....she is just too little yet to put everything together. As she gets older that will come whether you tell her or not. My suggestion would be open and honest with her and your other children. Secrets have their way of biting you in the butt and creating more issues in the long run. As I said as she gets older she will put things together more and figure it out and then not trust you because you were not honest with her.....not something you want when she is a teenager.

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