birth?

User - posted on 06/11/2009 ( 199 moms have responded )

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whats birth really like?? i know its really diff for all people. but im really really nervous.. im not to give birth untill january..im so scared of not being able to cope. whats it like? how painfull?? x

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Victoria - posted on 06/14/2009

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i had an epidural after i had that i felt nothing but i waited till i was 6 c so it didnt slow labor but it wasnt that bad i was expecting it to be alot worse

Victoria - posted on 06/14/2009

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i had an epidural after i had that i felt nothing but i waited till i was 6 c so it didnt slow labor but it wasnt that bad i was expecting it to be alot worse

Suzanne - posted on 06/14/2009

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hi kayla the best thing 2 do is dont panic about labour, it will only be as good /bad as u make it. if u go in2 labour thinkin its gonna be bad then u wont cope ,but if u go in 2 labour and just take it all in ur stride then u will be fine.

Jeanne - posted on 06/14/2009

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It's true that labour is different for every woman and different from child to child. Yes it is painful but it all depends on your pain tolerance levels. You can talk to the other women in your pre-natal classes (if you are attending) as I am sure they have the same anxieties and fears as you do. I'll be honest I really wasn't scared the first time around about labour because whatever was going to happen was going to happen. The only thing I know is that there is no need to play hero so if you need the pain meds and are ok with them ask to receive them. Discuss with your OB-GYN what pain meds are available and what you might expect from the meds - the doctor is there to answer your question. You could look into going to birthing classes to help alleviate your fears or even contact a doula who can help you prepare for labour and delivery. And let's be honest if it were really that bad the human race would have died out centuries ago. Good luck.

User - posted on 06/14/2009

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i`ve had five kids all planned thats got to tell you that you will get through it.it dos really hurt but you can allways take the opption of haveing medication.i had gas and air good luck it one of the best times in your life and you get a wonderfulo presant on there birthday x

Kelli - posted on 06/14/2009

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You know I don't remember the intensity of the pain during labor/delivery. I didn't get my epidural until I was 9 1/2 cms. So right before I could push so I felt every labor pain. But once I got to hold my sweet baby I forgot everything. lol. Now the healing for the next six weeks sucked. B/c I was so so sore and had stitches. But you know what, you will be just fine. Good luck :-D

Alaina - posted on 06/14/2009

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I had to be induced which many times leads to a harder labor. But my labor wasnt that bad and I also had an epidural. The epidural was awsome! It allowed me to take a nap before the doc had me start pushing and that helpd a lot! But like all the other moms said it is a painthat you cant descirbe till you are there. But you forget about it the moment you see your new child. Dont stress out about labor it has to happen it cant be avoided to so dont stress :)

Alaina - posted on 06/14/2009

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I had to be induced which many times leads to a harder labor. But my labor wasnt that bad and I also had an epidural. The epidural was awsome! It allowed me to take a nap before the doc had me start pushing and that helpd a lot! But like all the other moms said it is a painthat you cant descirbe till you are there. But you forget about it the moment you see your new child. Dont stress out about labor it has to happen it cant be avoided to so dont stress :)

Victoria - posted on 06/14/2009

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Kayla,



After re-reading your question, I'm not sure I answered what you want to know. I'm not sure if you wanted to know about the pain, or what it feels like to have a contraction.



To describe the feeling of contractions? Well, they are like squeezing your lower abdominal muscles very tightly (some have back contractions, which I can't describe because I don't recall any of those). They start out gradually, some women even have BraxtonHicks which are like warm ups before a major work out. Eventually, these muscles squeeze very tightly--and can feel similar to a charlie horse in your leg, I guess. As one doctor told me, imagine stubbing your toe on the leg of your bed (as a guy, I guess that's the worst pain he'd ever known and not being able to experience childbirth, he could only guess...but he's close enough for guy!). After a time the pain subsides. Each contraction gets tighter and tighter, and more and more frequent.



But between each, the pain subsides. A mini-breather for a major work out like no other! :)

Victoria - posted on 06/14/2009

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Congratulations! You are about to experience a moment in your life that is unique to you and one that will live with the rest of your life. You find more inner strength than you ever thought possible!



I've had 5, all different lengths, all different levels of pain, all different methods, and all very rewarding and unforgettable (though I have no recollection of the pain). I remember the mixed emotions and fear I had during my first and found that the more techniques and options I had available to me throughout the process, the easier it became.



I've used lamaze through all of them (9.9 lbs, 8.14 lbs, 9.6 lbs, 8.10 lbs, and 7.14 lbs), tried to be tough through "natural"--only the first one (not for me, ended up begging for a little relief which was a sweet relief), and finally (during my 3rd, after an emergency C was scheduled but dropped after I plopped my self into a new position and jostled her free!) an epidural which took the edge off. (My husband insisted on the epidural for the last 2--it wasn't as stessful for HIM!!!!)



Though everyone whose gone through delivery has their stories of pain and techniques, they are all very special experiences--there is no such thing as a textbook birth...every one of them is different.



Listen to the stories with a grain of salt (a very fine grain of salt, that is), learn all you can from non-fiction books and chats with the doctors (your TEAM who will help you through every single step--keep in mind you are team leader and you are in control of everything they can do to you), and RELAX.



Worrying doesn't do much more than make things harder.



Focus on the events around you:

*seeing DUMBO flying around the ceiling

*the doctor's expression when the baby decides to come out on her own

*the father's expression when he has ANOTHER girl

*the snowflakes falling softly outside the window

*the doctor turning the channel on the tv then standing in the center of the room while he watches the football game of the year--the staff bustling about prepping for the magic moment

*the clock at the moment your only son is born and the doctors expression when he relizes he forgot to note the time while you "save the day"!

*the baby's father entering the room after taking a break to discover he missed the WHOLE thing!



As you can see, I remember something special from each one of the deliveries, but the pain...????!



What's it like? Yes, it hurts. How painful? That is in your hands. Tell the doctors what you need and ask them what they can do for you early on.



Enjoy this experience. It is one of a kind and it is very personal.

Felicia - posted on 06/14/2009

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its really different for everyone.. it all depends on how ur body handles it...

Dont listen to the horror stories ppl tell u its honestly not that bad and when ur child is born and u hold it its all worth it... I had my first on at 18 so i was freaked out but it wasnt that bad.. i went 4 1/2 hours with out meds then i took them so i could relax more i was only in labor for 6 hours. You just really need to stay relaxed calm and no that even if ur in alot of pain yelling at the ppl that are trying to help u doesnt help. it stresses ur body out. and the other ppl really dont no what your going through... dont stress about it. youll be fine

Felicia - posted on 06/14/2009

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its really different for everyone.. it all depends on how ur body handles it...

Dont listen to the horror stories ppl tell u its honestly not that bad and when ur child is born and u hold it its all worth it... I had my first on at 18 so i was freaked out but it wasnt that bad.. i went 4 1/2 hours with out meds then i took them so i could relax more i was only in labor for 6 hours. You just really need to stay relaxed calm and no that even if ur in alot of pain yelling at the ppl that are trying to help u doesnt help. it stresses ur body out. and the other ppl really dont no what your going through... dont stress about it. youll be fine

Christina - posted on 06/14/2009

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no matter what your birth is gonna be just stay positive. ive had a natural birth with a 9lb 13oz and the whole thing lasted 45 minutes. but then with my son he was 7lb 4oz and had to have a c section with him so i wouldnt break his shoulder. you have to make the decision on what is best for you and your baby. dont listen to the bad storys to much do listen but keep in mind that you are not that person and you baby is not like theirs. im going through this a third time in january and i cant wait. i have already chose to have another c section cuz healing time was easier for me but some ppl will tell you that a vag birth was better. its all different no matter who you are. good luck

Christina - posted on 06/14/2009

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no matter what your birth is gonna be just stay positive. ive had a natural birth with a 9lb 13oz and the whole thing lasted 45 minutes. but then with my son he was 7lb 4oz and had to have a c section with him so i wouldnt break his shoulder. you have to make the decision on what is best for you and your baby. dont listen to the bad storys to much do listen but keep in mind that you are not that person and you baby is not like theirs. im going through this a third time in january and i cant wait. i have already chose to have another c section cuz healing time was easier for me but some ppl will tell you that a vag birth was better. its all different no matter who you are. good luck

Lynne - posted on 06/14/2009

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You will gently gradually start to get contractions hopefully. That's what happened to me. I'm sure that's what happens to everyone. No matter how seemingly hard it is at the time, you wouldn't trade it for anything in the world. When I was having contractions, I stood and held the hospital door opened for my godmother. Everything about it turns out to be a blessing! You can pray :-) That helps. Good wishes!

Shannon - posted on 06/14/2009

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What most ppl here are telling u is entirely correct!! My baby girl is 7 months old when i was pregnant i asked every single person i knew all the gory details of their births and not one was the same. i read every book i could find and looked at every website on the internet. My labour was text book, my waters broke 10 days early 3 hours later my contractions started and i remember thinking to myself "this is easy" as time went on the contractions felt like the worst period pain i could ever imagine and i was so uncomfortable and wondering how i would get through. Then my doc discovered after an internal that my little ratbag had turned herslef around and was breech, i had to have a c-section, once i had a spinal block i was completely pain free. luckily i didnt have to do the hard part but looking back now it wasnt as bad as i thought at the time, i was stressed and worried and like some women have said not a good idea. I didnt have time for even gas but it is up to you to do what ever u think will make ur birth the most pleasant it can be. Good luck with everything

Shannon - posted on 06/14/2009

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What most ppl here are telling u is entirely correct!! My baby girl is 7 months old when i was pregnant i asked every single person i knew all the gory details of their births and not one was the same. i read every book i could find and looked at every website on the internet. My labour was text book, my waters broke 10 days early 3 hours later my contractions started and i remember thinking to myself "this is easy" as time went on the contractions felt like the worst period pain i could ever imagine and i was so uncomfortable and wondering how i would get through. Then my doc discovered after an internal that my little ratbag had turned herslef around and was breech, i had to have a c-section, once i had a spinal block i was completely pain free. luckily i didnt have to do the hard part but looking back now it wasnt as bad as i thought at the time, i was stressed and worried and like some women have said not a good idea. I didnt have time for even gas but it is up to you to do what ever u think will make ur birth the most pleasant it can be. Good luck with everything

Rachel - posted on 06/14/2009

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You will do an absolutely fantastic job!! I was too very scared of the whole idea of having to give birth. What i found, after all the horror stories that i heard, it really wasnt all that bad, and the best part about it was I got to hold my Beautiful, healthy Baby Girl in the end! Here is my story. January 23rd, My water broke on its own, I was so nervous, i had no idea what to do, and at first i didnt even know my water broke. I went into the Hospital, but had no contractions. I thought oh, this isnt so bad. The following morning, i showered, then they started me on the drip. Which brought on my contractions immediately. I must tell you, the contractions were the worst part of the whole thing. I had to get a shot of morphine when i was 7-8cms, it helped me relax, which made my contractions easier to deal with. I was actually able to concentrate on breathing. (Btw.. when they tell you to practice your breathing... VERY important.) Before i got the morphine, i was tensing up during my contractions, which made them worse for me. Before i knew it, my body was wanting to push. (which made me feel like i needed to poop..LOL) ..and when i did push.. it felt SO much better than the contractions. About 20 mins later, I was holding my baby. All the pain went away, and I would do it all again. I wish you all the best of luck with your labour and delivery, Make sure you post and tell us all your story! :)

Denise - posted on 06/14/2009

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It's the most amazing experience of your life. I have had three children and plan to have more and I love giving birth. Please take a childbirth class, outside of the hospital, like Bradley. And educate yourself.

Lisa - posted on 06/14/2009

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The best advise I can give you is don't dwell on it from now till January. Yes it hurts, well hurt is not the correct term. In my experience, it was the worst thing i went through and still scared with the memories of it but like everyone says, everyone is different. All my friends had great labors without the drugs and the long hours and have gone back numerous times for more children. Just don't expect it to be text book because they never are. Just take it as it comes and don't be ashamed/weak or scared to accecpt the drugs because there is no medal for doing it drug free. Good luck, I'm sure you will do just fine.

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don't be a martyr. if they offer you medicine to ease the labor and subsequent delivery, take it. there isn't a trophy for the mom who can endure the most labor/delivery pain.

Juliet - posted on 06/14/2009

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i've had 4 kids, all different births. The 1st was by Forceps after the Ventouse failed & I had a 3rd degree tear, he was 7lb 12oz (21 hours). The second I had an epidural with and was a fantastic delivery even though he was 9lb 1oz (16 hours). My 3rd was just gas & air as I went from 4cm - 10cm in 30 mins, my whole labour lasted 1hr 45mins. I was induced with my 4th, was in labour for 1hr 27mins, just gas & air and 9lb 4oz!!!!

I won't lie to you, it does hurt but like you say everyones different and people cope with pain in different ways. At the end of the day there is always pain relief available so just have what you need. You don't get any prizes for getting by with just gas & air, you still get the baby which is what matters. With my 1st I tried everything, tens, pethadine, gas and air and epidural!!! Don't have any high expectations and then if something doesn't go according to plan then it doesn't matter, go in with an open mind. I hope everything goes ok for you xx

Juliet - posted on 06/14/2009

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i've had 4 kids, all different births. The 1st was by Forceps after the Ventouse failed & I had a 3rd degree tear, he was 7lb 12oz (21 hours). The second I had an epidural with and was a fantastic delivery even though he was 9lb 1oz (16 hours). My 3rd was just gas & air as I went from 4cm - 10cm in 30 mins, my whole labour lasted 1hr 45mins. I was induced with my 4th, was in labour for 1hr 27mins, just gas & air and 9lb 4oz!!!!

I won't lie to you, it does hurt but like you say everyones different and people cope with pain in different ways. At the end of the day there is always pain relief available so just have what you need. You don't get any prizes for getting by with just gas & air, you still get the baby which is what matters. With my 1st I tried everything, tens, pethadine, gas and air and epidural!!! Don't have any high expectations and then if something doesn't go according to plan then it doesn't matter, go in with an open mind. I hope everything goes ok for you xx

Sarah - posted on 06/14/2009

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Quoting Gretchen:

My mother gave me the best advise when my due date was approaching. She said, "If it was that bad we would all be only children." I tell this to all my girlfriends about to become mothers for the first time. It's simple but so true. Good luck to you!!



i agree with you there!



if it was that bad my mum wouldn't have had 6 kids lol

Sarah - posted on 06/14/2009

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Quoting Sarah:

i had my son on 28th jan this year .. he was 4 days early.
a few friends told me some of their birth stories .. (i'm the 4th out 5 girls at work .. the 5th girl is due next month) anyway one girls waters broke on her due date but contractions didnt start so she went into hospital and had to be put on a drip .. he arrived a few days after .. another girl was due xmas eve but her daughter arrived new years day after a 23hour labour which she said killed cuz her contractions were so strong when she was only a little bit dilated .. her waters werent broke so they slowed it down .... they told me these cuz you never know whats gonna happen on the day. i ended having a 12 hour labour .. had terrible back ache and ended up crawling around on the floor but ended up going hospital late cuz everytime i rang up they said i sounded like i was coping fine .. i was only in hospital 30min before my son arrived and i managed without any pain relief .. not even gas and air .. and he was back to back too which makes it even more hardwork..
at the end of the day labours different for everyone .. my friends told me about there birth experiences and that scared me a little .. but mine turned out nothing like theres ..


yes it was painful and hardwork .. and i was in tears while i was at home .. but its what you expect really .. and i managed .. if i ever have another baby i want a home birth now.

Sarah - posted on 06/14/2009

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i had my son on 28th jan this year .. he was 4 days early.

a few friends told me some of their birth stories .. (i'm the 4th out 5 girls at work .. the 5th girl is due next month) anyway one girls waters broke on her due date but contractions didnt start so she went into hospital and had to be put on a drip .. he arrived a few days after .. another girl was due xmas eve but her daughter arrived new years day after a 23hour labour which she said killed cuz her contractions were so strong when she was only a little bit dilated .. her waters werent broke so they slowed it down .... they told me these cuz you never know whats gonna happen on the day. i ended having a 12 hour labour .. had terrible back ache and ended up crawling around on the floor but ended up going hospital late cuz everytime i rang up they said i sounded like i was coping fine .. i was only in hospital 30min before my son arrived and i managed without any pain relief .. not even gas and air .. and he was back to back too which makes it even more hardwork..

at the end of the day labours different for everyone .. my friends told me about there birth experiences and that scared me a little .. but mine turned out nothing like theres ..

Gul - posted on 06/14/2009

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dont worry, just think...a lot of women went thru it, and somehow survived! I went thru with it, giving birth to two boys.

Katrina - posted on 06/14/2009

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epidural all the way chick , and i wouldnt worrie to mutch its like ur brain sorta just goes it to auto and once he or she is out u dont even seem to remember the pain

Amanda - posted on 06/13/2009

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I just had my little girl 2/14/09 and I went 100% natural. It was painful but it's not really as bad as everyone makes it out to be.

Latoya - posted on 06/13/2009

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I had my first son when I was 19 and had the same worries. I was induced after my baby was 5 days past due and was in labour for about 24+ hrs. and only dialated to 8 cm before the baby went into distress. In the end, the docs used a vacuum to assist with the delivery, which was torture.

Unfortunately, my baby passed away 5 days after a long, hard labour and delivery which was devastating.My advice to you is to listen to your body and dont be afraid to SPEAK UP!!! If you've had enough and need help, dont be afraid to tell the nurses and docs, they're there to help you.

Luckily, Im expecting my 2nd son and Im looking forward to d day more than ever because I kind of know what to expect and i have more knowledge about childbirth and I have more faith in myself as well as my docs. I try not to think negatively about what happened with my first son...i know he's my little angel watching over his brother and I. So...trust your instincts, have confidence in your body's ability and think of your precious little one to keep you going through your labour.

Brittany - posted on 06/13/2009

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Quoting Keela:

I blocked those thoughts out during pregnancy and suggest you do to! It worked fine for me. Although the worst part for me was going to the bathroom after delivery. I wish someone would have warned me.


Me too! I was still groggy from the stupid iv meds and they told me to pee in the thing that measures it. I went to sit down and "down there" snagged on that thing or something. I think that's why it was more painful afterward. Next time I'm going to remember that.

Brittany - posted on 06/13/2009

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Quoting Brandi:

If you request an epidural you will get one in most cases. A lot of doctors in different areas do things a little differently, but I went in for my induction at 6 AM, they started my pitocin drip [the thing that starts your labor] around 9, and i was offered an epidural right after my drip was started. it was about an hour and a half before the anesthesiologist came in because he was with other people, but after i got it i didn't really feel anything, until i needed to push, and then it wasn't even pain that i felt it was just a pressure, and i know you keep hearing that and i didn't understand it until i was actually going through it, but mine felt like, someone sitting on my chest or something, like there was something pushing down. my daughter was born just after midnight, so i was in labor for a long time, but it really went very smoothly. another thing, i was was afraid of was the episiotomy, which i assumed would be very painful after the fact. i had an episiotomy, and a 4th degree tear, which means it went from end to end, but i took my pain medication regularly for the first 3 days or so, and did a sitz bath and i was fine, i wasn't even very sore. the whole thing went very well for me. i was nervous because i watched those baby shows on tv and saw the women screaming and yelling at everyone, even after their epidural, but after going through it myself with the pain relief i can honestly say it was not bad at all. don't be nervous, everything will go just fine.


I wanted to tell you that your display pic is beautiful.



 



Oh, let me take that back about the pain afterward. I was thinking that I was still in pain afterward when I took my Ibuprofen but I just remembered it took me a while to get mine filled, that's why I was in pain. It was painful for me to pee though. As far as the screaming: I was in pain and crying that i couldn't do it. But I never once yelled at anyone. I was out of it and telling my fiance that I loved him a lot that was why I was doing "this."

Brittany - posted on 06/13/2009

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Before I got pregnant I thought for sure I'd be able to handle birth. The minute I found out I was, though, I was scared to death. For me, I started having contractions and thought they were braxton hicks. I started noticing that they hurt in my lower back so I took a hot bath to see if it eased off. When I got out, they hadn't so I started timing them and they were regular, 14 minutes apart. I kept timing them and they started getting closer: 14, 14, 14, 8, 8, 5, 5. I waited until they had been 5 for a while, then we went to the hospital. The closer they got the stronger they got until I couldn't breathe. By the time I got to the hospital I was in so much pain I couldn't walk or talk when I was having one. The nurses checked me and I was 3 cm dilated. They said something about the dr. deciding whether to keep me or not. All I could say was he has to keep me because I couldn't do this at home. They hooked two things up around my stomach and moved me to another room. I was staying. They asked if I wanted an epidural or an iv meds. I decided to get the iv meds and then get the epidural later if i needed it. I don't reccommend that, i hated the iv meds cause they made me sleep inbetween contractions. I felt all the contractions and it felt like it was one really long one. Next time, I'm getting an epidural. They checked me again 2 and a half laters, I was at 8 cm. I don't remember much after that because the iv meds were so strong. I just remember them breaking my water and then pushing. When it was time to push, I felt it. It felt like A LOT of pressure. I screamed that I had to "PUSH PEE POOP I DON'T KNOW." I asked if I could push and the doc said i was running the show to push when I needed. I pushed twice and then took a second to breathe. I pushed two more times and then she was out.



The entire time I was at the hospital I kept screaming "I can't do this... you don't realize... I can't do it... I just can't." but I did and you will. Just remember to be open and not try to have it all planned out. Just go with the flow. I recommend getting Tuck's pads beforehand to line your pads with. To me, the pain after pregnancy was worse than being in labor. I told my fiance that my daughter was going to be an only child because of that. But it goes away too, now I want 2 more kids so it's definately worth it.



I'm not going to lie. It is scary and painful, but afterwards you'll laugh about it.

Randi - posted on 06/13/2009

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Oh yeah, I was going to suggest researching all the med options. Some make you to drugged to be able to fully enjoy the first hours of your baby's life. I knew a lady who had an epidural and didn't even remember holding her new baby! But just like birth, meds are different for everyone.

Randi - posted on 06/13/2009

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Talk to your doctor about being about to walk around or at least bounce on a birthing ball! With my first, I let the doctors keep me in the bed because I didn't know better. It was horrible. I just lied there with only one thing to think about...pain! With my second, I walked around, took a bath, walked some more and had him with pain but other things to think about! It was so much better! The hospital that I'm going to for my third baby will not allow me to walk around during active labor but my Dr. said I can bounce on the ball. I haven't tried that one but I'm due in a week so I'll let you know if it works as well as walking. The bath was AMAZING but most hospitals wont let you. Have you thought of a birth center? The only drawback with the centers is they won't have meds for you. So it would kind of suck if the bath and walking isn't working for you. Good luck!

Samantha - posted on 06/13/2009

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Pain depends if you want drugs or not. watch the birthing video it helped me cause i had know idea what it would be like. At the moment of giving birth you don't care what you look like or what else is going on.

Gina - posted on 06/13/2009

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I just had my baby 3 weeks ago and I had anxiety REALLY REALLY BAD throughout my pregnancy, for the same reason as you. I was scared to death, I would even cry myself to sleep worrying about it. I can not stand pain and I am really afraid of needles. I can honestly say that it wasn't as bad as I thought it was going to be. My water broke and it didn't really bother me, there wasn't any pain until they used the the IV to induce the labor, and it really wasn't that bad. If you start hurting I would go ahead and get the epidural, I was REALLY afraid because it was a needle and I was freaking out about the possibility of me moving. It didn't hurt, it just felt weird when they put the medicine in because your back gets cold. I also waited to get mine because I thought it was just one shot and had to last until the end of the labor because some of my older friends said that that's what happened to them, and it wore off before they had their baby. Now it is continuous and will last as long as they need it too, so I dealt with the pain of contractions for a long time. I don't advise that, if they ask you and you are hurting, just do it. I was in labor for 15 hours but after they gave me the epi. I didn't feel a THING! They kept telling me that my contractions were constant and I didn't even know. The one thing that I do suggest is try to get mentally prepared for both ways, you never know when you will have to have a c-sec. I was told before I ever went into labor that I would prob. have to have a c-sec, but then my water broke, and like I said- I was in labor for 15 hours, and I was really excited thinking I was going to have him the normal way for all of that time. Well, he got stuck, and so the Dr. came in and automatically told me that I was going to have to have a c-sec. and started getting me ready in a huge hurry. I really started freaking out cause I was scared to death and I wasn't mentally prepared for that, and I started hyperventilating. It was scary, but the c-sec. wasn't bad either, I was awake and I could feel them tugging that was it. There wasn't any pain at all. The only bad part was after the c-sec, they take the epi. out plus all of your hormones are crazy cause they just pulled your kid out so you start shaking and it kinda hurts for like 30 mins until it gets out of your system. I had him around 6:30pm and I was up walking around by 6am. Some hospitals also don't give you pain meds. unless you ask for them, like the one I was in, so you might want to check into that and make sure you get your meds on time because they won't bring them unless you are complaining. That's how I was able to walk around so fast afterward.

Gretchen - posted on 06/13/2009

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My mother gave me the best advise when my due date was approaching. She said, "If it was that bad we would all be only children." I tell this to all my girlfriends about to become mothers for the first time. It's simple but so true. Good luck to you!!

Julie - posted on 06/13/2009

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I recomend the Bradly Child Birth classes for every new parrent. It really helps you know what to expect, plan for the unexpected and know your options. During your childs birth is not the time to be surprised so I think it's better to be prepared. I don't think anyone knows how they will do until they do it. I had 3 home births and 1 hospital birth and they were all great. I was more prepared to make some tough decissions during a complicated hospital delivery. I still had all my kids without any unnecessary intervention. No drugs, no epsomity, no induction. I had a good doctor that I trusted and knew he would respect my wishes during the birth as long as it was safe to do so.

As for what it's like I can only speak for myself. Without drugs you can feel how your body is working, contractions are like a slow roller coaster that come on like a wave than they peak and roll away. Then it's several minutes of relaxing before you have another one. What helped me get through them was thinking I only have to get through the peak and then they will go away and each one gets you closer to the end reward of holding your child in your arms. Your body tells you when your ready to push and you can feel the baby move through your body. I think it's very exhilerating to feel the whole thing but I understand thats not for everyone. When pushing it feels like a tremendous force that you cannot deny your body the pleasure of doing. Pushing for me was such a relief and the discomfort of the contractions wasn't even noticable. About that time your body releases endorphines that jolt the baby into breathing mode and dull any pain.

I totally agree with Sabrina about other peoples horror stories. Surround yourself with encouraging people and filter out the garbage people tell you that you don't find helpful.

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I blocked those thoughts out during pregnancy and suggest you do to! It worked fine for me. Although the worst part for me was going to the bathroom after delivery. I wish someone would have warned me.

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I had a ceasarean for my first sons birth. It was awful, recovery sucked. My second sons birth was a VBAC, vaginal birth after ceasarean, and it was the most beautiful thing when he was born. I started feeling contractions 2 days before he was born, like regular period cramps, which started getting intenser and intenser. I found it easy to get through them because i knew it was going to end and that i would get a break. I went to hospital because i still thought i was in prelabour and wanted something to sleep, but was 4 cms dialated. I found the pains ok to bear because of the break between them still. It wasnt untill the doctor broke my waters to put an internal heart moniter on my babys head that it was kinda outa controll. The pains were all in my back, and there was hardly any break between them, and i wont lie, it was incredibly intense pain. It was really surreal. The pains completley stopped for me when it came time to push. All of a sudden i just wanted to push(the most massive poo of all time it felt like, but i didnt even have an "accident"). I just keep pushing up on my knees with it, and resting between and in 20 mins my baby was born. The doctors told me i would feel him crowning, but i couldnt feel that, it was fine except i panicked a bit and pushed too hard because i thought he wasnt coming down and tore a little. That feeling when they put my baby in my arms is so hard to describe, but it was best most succesful feeling of my life. I gave birth to my baby without any drugs to dull that feeling, and it was so fantastic. I hope my experiances help you. Please try not to worry to much, i know its hard because its something we cant controll, but u will do fine. Our bodies take care of us. Try not to have intervention, the doctors tend to make everything worse in my personal opinion. Take care.

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You are going to hear horror stories and you are going to hear from people who had 3 minute births. Just remember, no matter how hard the pregnancy and child birth this, women have more than one kid all the time. Which means, that it's well worth it and will subside after a while. Plus, you will always have a conversation piece with any woman who has gone through child birth. Women love talking about their experience.

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Its plain and simple giving birth hurts and there is no getting away from that fact , but it is all worth it as soon as u see ur baby abd hold him or her for the 1st time , soon forget how bad it really was . It is can also be more tiring then pain ful as my 1st labour was nearly 37hrs long , i was exhuasted by the end of it , but my second labour was alot faster but resulted in an emergency c section , with is far more pain ful , the worst thing about having a baby is not actually the giving birth part it the way u feeel after birth if u have stiches that is far worse but u have this amzing lil person to look after and thats the best pain releiver in the world , I really wouldnt worry about it , because u will ruin the rest of your pregnancy worrying and u mite be one of the lucky ones whom ENJOY!! giving birth oh and it doesnt matter weather u have pain relief or not dont be a marter , but try not to have an epidurial my didnt work i felt everything!! stick to gas and air and pethidine

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I have only one child. Labor was hard but lucky for me very short. Natural birth!! My water broke between 4 and 5 a.m. and at 8:05 a.m. I had a little girl. It was tough but afterward I was feeling pretty chipper since I had no medication in me. The epidural was on its way but I was too close to giving birth to receive it.

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everyone told me those horrid disaster stories when i was pregnant but im no going to lie to you it isn't very nice its a experience you want to forget but the pain does go away and you do kind of forget, i had difficulties during my pregnancy i was in hospital twice a week for scans and check ups my placenta wasnt working aswell as it should have. i was in hospital for four days and in labour for 22 hours and personally for me it was torture but the drugs helped i dont think i could have done it without them. it is different for all people all my friends who have had kids were in and out and said there labours weren't that bad and they didn't have any drug. so hopefully all goes well for you.

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If you request an epidural you will get one in most cases. A lot of doctors in different areas do things a little differently, but I went in for my induction at 6 AM, they started my pitocin drip [the thing that starts your labor] around 9, and i was offered an epidural right after my drip was started. it was about an hour and a half before the anesthesiologist came in because he was with other people, but after i got it i didn't really feel anything, until i needed to push, and then it wasn't even pain that i felt it was just a pressure, and i know you keep hearing that and i didn't understand it until i was actually going through it, but mine felt like, someone sitting on my chest or something, like there was something pushing down. my daughter was born just after midnight, so i was in labor for a long time, but it really went very smoothly. another thing, i was was afraid of was the episiotomy, which i assumed would be very painful after the fact. i had an episiotomy, and a 4th degree tear, which means it went from end to end, but i took my pain medication regularly for the first 3 days or so, and did a sitz bath and i was fine, i wasn't even very sore. the whole thing went very well for me. i was nervous because i watched those baby shows on tv and saw the women screaming and yelling at everyone, even after their epidural, but after going through it myself with the pain relief i can honestly say it was not bad at all. don't be nervous, everything will go just fine.

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Yes, everyone is different... I have had 3 children - my first child I had when I was 17 and I was freaked out - but I made it through, without any drugs! The most important thing to remember is to not freak out during labor - breathing and moving are your best bets! I took Lamaze classes and they were a HUGE help... but the more you are up moving the faster labor will go because gravity helps... you need a good support person, so if you don't have one, I recommend a doula - they are wonderful and trained to be supportive!

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Yea it hurts and yea everyone is different for me my baby was born after being at the hospital for 4.5 hours with no pain relief apart from gas. It felt like I was on fire for about an hour or so but then it was over and we had our beautiful baby boy. It is so worth it you should go in with an open mind and take it as it comes. I wish you all the best xox

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Hurts like u can't even emagine...but only for a day at most...then u have this beautiful baby to hold in your arms and it is totally worth it! I do recamend the epidural!!! I literally sleeped thru my second labor, woke up ready to push and literally laughed her out! SOOOOOOOOO much better than the 1st where I waited to get the drugs, which didn't help much and wore off teh left side!

Also, when they tell u to push like you're pooping, you poop! think more about teh top of your tummy pushing the baby down and out!

I HATE to be so grose, but with my first when they told me to push like I was pooping, I got hemeroids... with teh second, I pushed with teh top of my tummy and no hemeroids!

And don't push with your face...I heard u could give yourself black eyes, so I keeped my face soft. anyway, they say it's better to not anyway.

In the end if u r ready or not, the kid will come out one way or another, so better not to worry about it!

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I am for being honest, and it is very painful. Some women have an easier time with quick labors, but I wasn't one of them. With my first, everyone sugar-coated it, so I felt something was wrong or that I was dying, so I refuse to sugar coat. It is painful, their are medications if that is your option that make birth much less painful, and if that feels right for you, only you know at that time. I have very long labors (days). and I have delivered 6 babies and plan on more, so obviously it is not so traumatic that I wouldn't keep doing it. And once they put that baby in your arms, it is all so worth it! We have all lived through it :-)

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