Birth certificate

Korrie - posted on 07/21/2015 ( 7 moms have responded )

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How do I figure out If my daughters father is on her birth certificate, without buying a new one?

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 07/21/2015

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You say you are not on assistance, but if he's being docked for support, at some point, you filled out paperwork and listed him as the father of the child.
What you need to do now is get an attorney, schedule the test, and have your attorney file for primary residential and legal custody, as well as the support.
Yes, he does have every right to have a relationship with the child, and she's got the right to a relationship with her father, so be prepared for that. You cannot deny that relationship, and you cannot decide whether or not he will have access to the child. That's what the attorneys, and court are for at this point.
To get a birth certificate amended is, indeed a legal manner, but it is very simple. (at least in Wyoming). We had to petition the courts (no attorney needed) to get my son's amended. If no one challenged the petition, the judge granted the request, the record was amended, and that was that. If it is the same where he lives, he very well could have petitioned, and if you didn't challenge, the amendment could have been made. I'm not saying that it did happen or was amended, just that sometimes those things can be ridiculously simple. You'd have to look up the legal process for the state in which he resides.
As far as moving, well, if he knew she was his daughter, and you were trying to get him to step up, he can use that move as a reason why he hasn't: You removed the child from easy visitation access. I'm not saying that excuse will fly, but he may try.
Your best bet, at this point is to have an attorney, request a court ordered paternity test (in which he'll be served notice, and have to comply), and request full custody with a supervised visitation until the child gets to know her father, at which point an amended visitation agreement can be negotiated.

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 07/21/2015

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Honestly, I really hate having to tell people to 'lawyer up'...but that's what this world is coming to, unfortunately...You just want to make sure you're prepared for anything that he may attempt.

Michelle - posted on 07/21/2015

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I'm also wondering if you are receiving the child support he says he is paying or has he just said he is paying?
I would take Shawnn's advice though. Get yourself a lawyer and establish paternity, custody and visitation.

Korrie - posted on 07/21/2015

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When i had Kataleya he wasn't around and didn't want anything to do with us. So when i filled out the papers i left his name out. He got a hold of me the other day saying his was paying child support. Im not on any assistants and i know i didn't file for child support. No he is saying that he wants full custody and his name is on her birth certificate. Im just trying to figure out how it can happen and if it did why wasn't i notified about the changes. Plus he never did a dna test. I had one order and he never showed and they didnt take any dna from my daughter. I have 3 copies of her birth certificate but i got them when she was born. Thats why im asking how do i find out if he is on it or not. I have raised my child since she was born, i tried to ask him to meet her and asked if she could meet his family but he was just shut down the idea. Now im scared he can come in here and take away my daughter cause he is "paying child support" and is on the birth certificate. I dont know anything about this and when i ask around they tell me to buy a new one. He says he is going to press charges on me for movin to iowa with my daughter but i moved out here right after she was born and he denied her.. im lost and confused

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