Biting.. Any tips?

Kelsey - posted on 07/28/2011 ( 2 moms have responded )




My 19 month old daughter started biting around 10 months old.. She has never bitten anyone else, besides her only cousin.(Boy, 9 months apart) He has always been somewhat of a bully towards her and I always thought it was her defending herself because she wouldn't push, shove, hit, ect.. But now she does push and shove, ect and bites too! She has left countless numbers of horrible bruises on her cousin and now has started biting her Grandma and me! She does it when she is mad and doesn't get her way and we're not sure how to break her of it! Her daddy(my hubby) has been deployed overseas since she was 9 months old and she has had a rather difficult time with it... Not sure if the deployment has a role in her biting, but I just need advise on how to break her of her bad habit!


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Kate CP - posted on 07/30/2011




I don't think this is a way to get attention. This is her way of expressing herself because she's angry. She doesn't have the vocabulary to express herself yet. While I do agree that the best course of action would be to remove her for a minute (maybe two, tops) I don't think that treating this as an attention-seeking behavior is the right way to go about it. Help her express herself and teach her words and phrases like "I'm angry!" or "That makes me mad!" and show her how to "be" angry: stomp feet, shake fists, make an angry face. But make sure you never hit, slap, or shake any one in anger especially in front of her. She is watching your every move and will copy what you do.

Neva - posted on 07/30/2011




She has found a way to get the attention of her Mommy and Grandma. If she bites, you should immediately say "No biting and put her away from the action. In her crib, in a play pen, etc. Then give her attention when she is behaving. The biting is a way of getting attention. If she gets a lot, even if its negative attention, then it will continue. So, just immediately putting her away from the action and leaving will be the best way to stop it.

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