Bizarre behavior from 14 year old ADHD boy.

Bishop - posted on 11/03/2014 ( 1 mom has responded )




Hello, I am a dad but have had custody of my son since he was little so I hope no one minds me subscribing.

I have a 14 year old son that is ADHD and a possible touch of Aspergers. He is on Concerta, risparidone and Tinnex. He is exhibiting some very alarming, bizarre behavior and as he gets older, it seems to be getting worse.

First, he is an absolute chronic liar. He seems incapable of telling the truth on even the smallest thing. Unfortunately, his mother is the same way. She doesn't see him very often, so I cant say he is just picking up the bad behavior so it may be hereditary?

He also has a real issue with food. He is constantly getting food in the middle of the night. This alone wouldn't be a problem, if he ate it at the table. Rather, he takes it to his room and leaves it in his bed. In the morning, he has slept in the food and it is ground into his sheets.

As if that isn't bad enough, he has started exhibiting very strange sexual behavior. First, I caught him making videos of him peeing in his clothes and posting them on youtube!!! It is a good thing I found this right after it happened and was able to quickly remove the videos. Since then, I have found pee in his dresser, on his floor in his closest and in clothing shoved in his bathroom sink.

Recently, we purchased diapers for a baby shower. He got into them and I have no idea what he was doing with them but I can just about guess...

He seems uninterested in girlsl, rather this strange behavior.

He also is failing in school and from what the school has indicated, he is the class clown.

I have spent countless dollars on counselors and psychiatrists about this behavior with no clue... Their answered are to put locks on the cabinets and refrigerator and in essence treat him like he is in prison. They have said that no matter what he says, just assume it is a lie as it probably is and to act accordingly. They also say there isnt much I can do about the unusual sexual behavior.

At one time, we tried to take him off the Risparidone as it is a pretty dangerous drug and his odd behaviors got much worse.

Has anyone experienced behavior like this and does anyone have any suggestions that I might try?

Thanks for any advice!


Guest - posted on 11/03/2014




Odd advice from the mental health professionals....NOT what is usually recommended in these situations.

Unfortunately, medications that have worked well in the past can really be thrown off by the chemical changes that take place in the brain during puberty. That means what worked for him when he was 10 or 11, may be hurting him now that he is 14, so his medications need to be very closely watched and frequently evaluated during this stage in his life until he reaches his early to mid 20's because his brain will be undergoing many physical and chemical changes for the next 8 to 10 years. The medication may need to be adjusted frequently to compensate for those changes.

Lying and hiding food are usually both signs of insecurity. Lies are usually made up to change circumstances in a child's life, usually to get sympathy or respect, or hide things the child perceives as weakness. Often, lies are also used to test boundaries--to see how much untruth he can make a person believe--though this is usually done at an earlier age and he should be past that staged now. Treating everything as a lie is not really a good tactic, instead, you should be working to identify the lies and analyse them to determine what he is trying to change by telling them. Then you can address the root of that problem. (there will likely be several issues at play here, but they will also likely have an underlying relation).

Once he becomes more secure, the food issues should stop. Does he eat during the day at regular meal times, or does he skip meals in favor of eating at night? You may need to lock the cabinets for a while, but that really needs to be a last resort. Talk to him about why he is eating in the bed. Also, have him clean his sheets and floors when he leaves crumbs.

1 Comment

View replies by

Join Circle of Moms

Sign up for Circle of Moms and be a part of this community! Membership is just one click away.

Join Circle of Moms