boaring house for a 12 year old girl

Anne - posted on 01/25/2015 ( 6 moms have responded )




What are the advantages and disadvantages of leaving a 12 year old girl in boarding house for a period of 3 months on a stretch and having monthly contact with her within this period


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Dove - posted on 01/26/2015




She's 12... I don't know if there are any legitimate advantages to sending a 12 year old away for months at a time... except for the fact that the parents don't have to do the parenting and deal w/ the hormones....

And just in case my post isn't clear... it's a bad, bad, bad idea.

Ledia - posted on 01/26/2015




Do you mean like a boarding school?
I went to a boarding school when I was 13, and I was just fine. That said, a boarding SCHOOL and a boarding HOUSE might be two different things.....I don't even know what a boarding house is other than like a long term hostile?

When I was in boarding school, my dad came to visit two weekends a month, and I went home for holidays and for a short break between semesters.

It was a stressful time for both of us. My dad is a single dad, I'm adopted, my adoptive mother passed away only 4 years after I met her, just before my adoption was finalized. As a teen, I was very rebellious (due to the rocky childhood according to my docs, but maybe I was just a brat), and the boarding schools seemed like the best option for my father. I think he made a good choice. The school was strict, but challenging in a way that made me want to excel rather than rebel. I hate that people always look down on parents who choose boarding school for their children. Sometimes it's not such a bad option....

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 01/26/2015




Oh, yeah...OF COURSE I recommend that you leave your 12 year old in a friggin BOARDING HOUSE with a bunch of strangers.


And if you didn't catch the sarcasm, here's the straight answer: Advantages: You get prosecuted for child abandonment and neglect. She gets homed with a family that will hopefully treat her as she should be treated, not put her into a boarding house at 12 years old.

Ev - posted on 01/26/2015




Are you crazy?

Legally, if you do that there will be no one who would be able to sign things for her such as for doctors, school, and other things that need a parent or guardian to sign for. The one who owns the boarding house is not going to baby sit for you. They have no legal obligation to this. You could get called to family services depending what it is actually called where you live for abandonment. Once a month contact is not sufficient. And this just makes no sense.

You need to find a family member and give them legal guardianship so this child is cared for and supervised by an adult during that time you are gone.

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