bond with teenage step daughter

Raiefa - posted on 11/16/2015 ( 2 moms have responded )




Hi mum's. I'm new to this group and seems I will be needing all the advice.

I've a teenage step daughter who I adore but it seems we are stuck. I'm not sure how to go about formulating a bond with her.

I've a strong bond with the other step children and my LG too.

I've gone to speaking and trying to be her friend. I accompanied her to her mum's grave at the kid's request. I so much need this bond.


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Ev - posted on 11/16/2015




Raye is right. You need to let her adjust to this new family situation and depending on how long ago her mother passed away...that could still be a fresh thing to her. Let her come to you.

Raye - posted on 11/16/2015




I'm a step-mom too. My advice is don't push it. Teens can be moody and combative with their natural parents, and many get more defiant with their step-parent(s). You are a grown adult, and should not put the pressure of you NEEDing to bond with her on her shoulders. That could drive a wedge in further between you. You just do the best you can. She may not realize your importance in her life right now, but hopefully she will grow to understand you do care for her and realize how much she cares for you, too.

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