Bonding: Stepfather with daughter (DAD since 3 months)

Christina - posted on 12/01/2013 ( no moms have responded yet )




I'm so new to this type of relationship. I have a 4 year old daughter and a boyfriend/fiancé for four years. He is divorced, ( married only 2 years) with 4 kids. ( all from same mom) they are 8, 5, and 2 ( two) 4 year olds. ( twins) and my daughter who is 4. So, I write these this because I'm so confused because I understand the difference between biological and stepdad. I understand the disconnect. But how do I get the step dad to connect the way that I want with my daughter. ( oh he sees my daughter everyday, and only his kids on holidays, birthdays, and when he travels to where they live [ 400 miles away] ) I know there is s a disconnect emotionally and technically because that isn't your child,. But I just don't understand. Christmas time it seems to be the worse, and I try to wait for him to be comfortable to deal with the situation but I can only do that for a certain amount of time... I have my daughter to worry about and think about. ITs her Christmas too! How do I get him to connect with her, or do I expect too much and have this need for him to be her "dad"... Please help.... thanks......

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