BOYS and teenage pregnancy! What do you think

CINDY - posted on 01/26/2010 ( 8 moms have responded )




I have not actually experienced this but was asked the question a few weeks ago and I interested in other peoples take on the matter........

I was asked if my child (I have 3 boys 9, 4 and a half and 10 and a half months) when he was older got his teenage girlfriend pregnant what would I do???

Now this sounded stupid to me, as far as I am concerned It would be as much his doing as it was hers so I would want to help out were I could.

I understand that in the long run the weather to 'keep' the baby or not would be her her choice (although I am against abortion in most cases),

but if the decission was made to keep that child I would want to be a part of his or her life!

(I fell pregnant for my first child at 18 and I feelI am very lucky that the babies father (now my husband) and his family supported me all the way!)

After giving this answer I was then asked "why would you even worry"unless they were in a steady relationship? it is not your child that is pregnant!"

At this point I absolutely flew of the handle!!!! Not only would my son be a part of that child, but that young girl would be scared out of her mind! not to mention the repurcussions from her family!!!

Any way, I am rambling now!!!!!!

What does every one else think???

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Lady Heather - posted on 08/29/2011




Ummm...just the same as I would do if I was the mum of the girlfriend - respect her decision, be an active grandparent if they keep the baby, make sure my son does his effing job.

Pamela - posted on 08/29/2011




I think that a responsible parent introduces sex education at an appropriate age....generally pre-teen or early teen years. There are a number of books and videos made just for that purpose. Sitting down with the child, male or female , and being willing to answer questions is very important. It is equally important to make the child aware of the fact that bodies are not to be "hidden" or spoken about in "hushed tones".

It is unfortunate that American society is so hung up about sex that they exploit it in the manner we are all seeing. Were it not for the Puritans (who were thrown out of England) we wouldn't have nearly the ridiculous attitudes we have now in our society.

When children are reared with the knowledge that their bodies are amazing machines, and when nudity, etc. is treated with less irreverence than what we see in movies and on TV, our children will begin to understand the beauty of our bodies and will have deeper respect for their own bodies and those of others as well.

Teaching reverence, without religious dogma, is a step in the right direction.

S - posted on 08/29/2011




I don't have a son, but if I did I would support both him & the girl with whatever decision they made & help them any way I could.. My husband would also support them too.. I was 17 when I had my daughter & I'm very thankful that my (now) husband & his family supported & encouraged us.. She is the best thing that has ever happened to us..

CINDY - posted on 01/26/2010




my point exactly, I posted this because I thought I was going mad!!!!!!! thank you ladies for giving me back my sanity

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I would want to be part of the child's life. I would offer help but not be pushy about it. I would hope that my son (if I ever have one) would step up and support his girlfriend and be an active part of the child's life. Of course it would be your "problem" its your grandchild afterall.

CINDY - posted on 01/26/2010




exactly!!!! I was just devistated at the fact that I was told to just walk away!!!!! I dont think I would go bursting into the family of the girl but just make sure both her and my son know that we would be there to support them in any way we could!!!

this is what both my parent and my partners parents did and It made making my decission so much easier!!! I could not immagine my life without my oldest son (jesse) and I thank them all the time for the support they gave us!

Lisa - posted on 01/26/2010




It is hard to say. Danielle was 17 when she got pregnant. Her boyfriends mother att he time was rude and wanted to know what I was going to do. I told her nothing it was Danielle's decision she didn't like my response. While Danielle had the support of myself and my boyfriend it was her decision. No matter what she decided to do about the baby we would support her and her decisions.

Danielle just turned 20 in December and her son Randell is 18months. They both live with my boyfriend and I. At times it is trying.

Where do I step in to help and when do I mind my own business and let her deal with the issues she is facing. John and I have been granted guardianship while Danielle still has her mom title and responsibilities. All I can do is be loving and supportive.

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