Bras at home? What's inappropriate?

Briana - posted on 08/20/2013 ( 4 moms have responded )




So I am married and we have one daughter together who is eight. I have a sixteen year old from a previous marriage, and my husband has twin 13 year olds from his previous marriage. We have been living together for five years now and the twins have been with us for two years now they don't see their mom.
Now, my 16 year old daughter is completely developed and does not like to wear bras around the house but I am uncomfortable with this because the boys are 13 now. I have talked about it before but she thinks it is not fair especially since the boys often hang around in only their boxers or shorts when it's hot.
However she always wears a bra when my husband is home because she feels uncomfortable so I know she understands.


Jessica - posted on 01/12/2014




tell her to wear a sports bra or a comfy soft bra or wear baggy sweat shirts

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I think you are being unreasonable. I hate wearing a bra too--they are hot, they stab and squeeze in uncomfortable places, they put pressure on the back.....I could go on and on.

Anyway, if you're letting your 13 year old twins walk around topless, then you should let your 16 year old girl walk around braless. She is wearing a top, and she has the same right to be comfortable at home as the boys do. Besides that, breasts are not meant to be sexualized--they are for feeding a baby. Just don't teach your twins that breasts are sexual; tell them they house the mammary glands for storing milk so a mother can feed her baby. Yes, they will probably get sexualization of breasts from peers, but your influence should be stronger than their peers, right?


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Chet - posted on 08/20/2013




I just want to make sure I understand the situation fully... your 16 year old daughter is wearing clothes, but you want her to always have a bra on under her clothing if her step brothers are home. Is that right? So if she gets up Saturday morning you don't want her to eat cereal in her pyjamas with no bra on? Or if it's hot you don't want her wearing a tank top and short with no bra around the house? I do feel that generally, you should be able to go bra free in your own home.

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