Calming irrational fears during pregnancy

Ebeth - posted on 03/27/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )




I have been diagnosed OCD. During my pregnancy I have always had irrational fears of the baby dying or something being wrong. Until now I have remained in control. Now I am in a panic over things I can't control. For example, i worry my husband is cheating or has a life i don't know about. I have encountered some tragedy in the past where families are destroyed by father's leaving or even being sex offenders and molesting their children. I work at mental health center where this is a common subject. Now I can't get it out of my head. Normally, my husband can comfort me, however now he is part of my fear. I have never felt so miserable and I don't know how to deal. Can someone help me please? Rationally I would never take this to an extreme but at this point i don't know what to do.


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Since you work w/ therapists.... you are in a perfect place to get the counseling you need for YOU.

Chrystal - posted on 03/27/2012




When I was pregnant and my anxiety disorder would cause panic thoughts like those I would close my eyes, put my hands on my pregnant belly, and focus every ounce of my attention on the feeling of them in my belly. For me it didn't matter how scary the thoughts had been I couldn't stay frightened when I felt the love I had for my baby. You have to just keep replacing the scary thoughts with the reality of the good man your husband is until the reality wins out. Hope you can regain some control over your thoughts and don't be afraid to ask for professional help if you need it.

Ebeth - posted on 03/27/2012




I work for therapists lol...and teach coping skills in a day treatment class. Ironic huh...I don't know what had gotten into me. Just the fear of the unknown and seeing too much trama has gotten to me.

Kate CP - posted on 03/27/2012




I think you should see a therapist. They'll be able to give you coping mechanisms and a safe place to vent your frustrations and fears.

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