Car seat drama!!!

Thea - posted on 10/13/2009 ( 19 moms have responded )

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My 4 month old hates her car seat. We have tried toys, bottle, sitting with her. music, soother, singing, putting her to sleep before we put her in even. But she still cries. It is causing problems when I am driving. I don't want to crash. My husband has had it. Last night she cried for the1 1/2 hour drive to my Grammas and then back again. The straps are not to tight or digging into her. I don't know what to do . Help!!!!

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Ronda - posted on 10/13/2009

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I had a few problems with my son, he is also 4 months old. We ended up adjusting the angle that he was sitting in and he was fine after that. (we made the seat sit him up more so his head was up higher. My base adjusts.)
Mrs. Jensen had great advice too about remaining calm. The baby senses your frustration and she can see it on your faces. You might try lullabies in the CD player. I also do that a lot. Jewel has a CD you can get at walmart that isn't annoying. ;)

please, please don't face your baby front. that is the worst advice. If you get into a head on accident and she's facing the windshield she will be horribly injured!!! glass flies in accidents and that is why their seats face the rear of the car.

Ashley - posted on 10/13/2009

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I hope you don't mind, but I posted this in a carseat group I'm in and the ladies suggested getting a convertable carseat so you LO can sit up a little more... I don't know about canada, but here in the US you can get a cosco scenera for about $50 and they're good for rear facing to 35lbs and FF to 45lbs... not too costly and it would work for quite a while...

Another mom suggest car sickness... she said her LO used to have problems with that and she just bought some peppermint essential oil and put a few drops on each side of the carseat fabric up by where her LO's head rested and that helped a ton!! Good luck, I hope you get something figured out!!!

Nicola - posted on 10/13/2009

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Hi there...... 1 and a half hour trip ( one way) facing just a seat would possibly have me in tears too... this is far too long in my opinion for a little child to be travelling without a stop, ( sorry you dont say if you do stop) and have a stretch, a cuddle, a drink and a look around!!!! this may be one of the longest trips that you have to do, but the baby must feel that every time it is put in the seat, that a long journey is about to comence... not only that, but if the baby falls asleep before getting to your grandma's house, do you then leave her in the seat to sleep... in my opinion this is far too long..could i suggest regular stops to make the journey more interesting and enjoyable for her.. good luck

Ann Marie - posted on 10/13/2009

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Thea,

From what you have said, she is uncomfortable in the seat. Bring the car seat in the house and see if she will sit in it to watch television. If she will successfully sit in it for more than an half hour in the house, then she is either lonely (not enough to amuse her) or she is uncomfortable with the angle of the seat.

Don't be afraid to take her to the store and sit her in four or five in the store. Make sure it is a rear-facing seat. She is not large enough to sit forward-facing. She does not have enough control of her head to sit forward either. The angle of a front-facing requires full neck control. She could break her neck in a collision with a curb.

Have you taken a blanket, rolled it and stabilized her head? This may also be the problem. If she is sitting up too far, she may be having a hard time breathing. This makes babies cry just to get more oxygen.

Ashley and Ronda are right. Be calm yourself. You are tensing up knowing the car seat will be a fight, and she is giving you exactly what you are worrying. Bringing the car seat in the house and putting her in it inside helps this. She can see you gather your purse and coat, and you can calmly talk to her about where you are going and what will be happening.

Dad needs to be calm, too. His ire will translate to a fussy baby as well.

Hope this helps,
Ann Marie

Ashley - posted on 10/13/2009

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First off, try not to get frustrated! That will only make it worse since babies can sense tension.
It may be the carseat itself. How is she when she is in her stroller? (If her carseat goes into the stroller) Please do NOT get a front-facing carseat yet. She is way too young.
My son got bored in his so I put a toy on the handle of his carseat to play with. I also attached his pacifier to the strap to calm him. He was also really gassy, so when he would cry it usually meant he was gassy. I also have a mirror so I can see him in my rearview, which he likes to look at.
Try some different music, it may help calm her down. Or a DVD player. Also, try feeding (and burping a lot) before putting her in the car, she may sleep easier with a full tummy.
Bring up the idea of her possibly getting motion sick to her doctor.
Good luck!
Hopefully she will grow out of it!

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Thea - posted on 10/13/2009

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I will NEVER put my Baby in a front facing seat till she is ready. I would rather have her cry then DEAD!! Sorry but it is the law here in Canada. I don't have the money to get a new car seat or a DVD player. But thanks for that. She won't go in the stroller as well. I think it has to do with straps and being held down. She is a baby that love to roll and move. She did have colic when younger too. But Carseat colic... is there such a thing. And yes on long trips we DO stop to look around and have a cuddle.

Shandy - posted on 10/13/2009

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PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE DON'T PUT FORWARD! Try a DVD player, it worked for me. My first was the same way I got one of those at 3mo and she quit! It doesn't have to be a movie either, try a recording of you or a family member talking to the baby or a fish tank with colorful fish swimming around. I don't know but please don't put her forward facing its dangerous, personally I would rather have a crying baby than no baby at all! Good luck maybe get an I pod for daddy lol!

Pamela - posted on 10/13/2009

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Don't listen to a forward facing carseat!! Babies are suppose to be rear facing until they are a year old, no matter how much they weigh!! Yes you can put them in a bigger carseat as long as it is weight appropriate! I had that same problem with my daughter she finally overcame that when she was about 6 months old and I did put her in a bigger carseat but left it rear facing! And now she is 19 months old and we are going through the carseat issue all over again!! Tough Love!

Crystal - posted on 10/13/2009

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Try putting a reflective shatterproof mirror in front of her. I have a Fisher Price one that plays music and lights up around the sides. It's got a remote control for me so I don't have to turn around to turn it on. When my son gets upset, I just push the button and it immediately gets his attention. He also loves that he can see my face from the mirror into my rear view mirror. It attaches easily to the back of the car seat. Hope that helps =)

Ashley - posted on 10/13/2009

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Quoting chloe:

even though your little girl is too young to be facing the front of the car you may have to try it, when my 2 yr old was at that age she preferred looking out the windscreen watching everything go past... still does actually. if that doesn't work you may need to talk to your gp, maybe it's the car seat, the material my feel itchy or uncomfortable to her. you could try placing a blanket in the seat before you strap her in... good luck :)



You should NEVER put anything between the carseat and the baby... it even says that in most manuals... You should also NEVER put a baby younger than 1 year of age forward facing... It's etremely dangerous!!!!



My 20 month old is still rearfacing because it is WAY safer and he will stay that way unitl he reaches his seats limit of 35lbs for rear facing... 5 lbs left...



You can't break the law or put your child in danger just because you think it might make them happy....

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My daughter did the same thing when she was younger. The good news is it passed! Somewhere between 5 and 6 months she stopped screaming every time we put her in the car - dunno why but we were grateful anyway

Jennifer - posted on 10/13/2009

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i had this problem with my daughter and i think most children go through this at one stage believe it or not i used to turn my stereo up loud and this would calm her down although i had some strange looks from people who must have thought badly of me it worked so i learned to ignore the looks.this problem should only last a short while so dont panic and if poss play songs that you loved while pregnant eg when i was pregnant i loved a new robbi williams song and when i played this in my car my daughter instantly calmed good luck xxx

Valerie - posted on 10/13/2009

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DVD players are awesome. My son hated the car seat as well. He just doesn't like to be strapped down but since we got the DVD player he's been soooo much better in the car. He just sits there and watches his Baby Einstein DVD's over and over again. It was a life saver for our 8 hour drive to Disney.

Amy - posted on 10/13/2009

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I have to agree with Ann, take her to the store and try out a few, also, try having your car seat checked for proper installation (most fire depts do it, you could also check the consumer reports website for alternate locations) They will be able to safely adjust your child seat.

Abbie - posted on 10/13/2009

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Take her to a chiropractor. There could be something out of line and it is making it uncomfortable for her to be in that position in her seat. This is very common. If you go to a chiroprator that specializes in babies, they will also check the car seat. Hope this helps!

Chloe - posted on 10/13/2009

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even though your little girl is too young to be facing the front of the car you may have to try it, when my 2 yr old was at that age she preferred looking out the windscreen watching everything go past... still does actually. if that doesn't work you may need to talk to your gp, maybe it's the car seat, the material my feel itchy or uncomfortable to her. you could try placing a blanket in the seat before you strap her in... good luck :)

Krissy - posted on 10/13/2009

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I had the same problem with my oldest daughter. You may have to try a different car seat. Hang in there my youngest wont let us leave until she is in her car seat. You may want to try at front facing seat as well. Sometimes they would rather see where they are going instead of where they came from. Good luck.

Gabrielle - posted on 10/13/2009

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Have you tried a dvd player? My niece did the same thing. We bought her a dvd player and shes fine now.

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