changed mind about having a baby after miscarrage

Michelle - posted on 08/06/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )




Hi ladies, a few months ago me and my husband were trying hard to have are second child, I got pregnant and not 2months later had a miscarrage. At first I was for trying again right away, but since gone back on birth control and now wants to wait indefinatly. I feel like it was a sign that we are not ready for another one, we are in the process of finding out if are son has a disabilty and wating to spend as much time helping him however he needs it. So what I'm asking is, is it normal and have any of you felt like this.


Carol - posted on 08/06/2012




What you are feeling is normal. I don't think it meant you weren't ready though. A wonderful counselor told me that my miscarrage was an example of my body having more wisdom than my mind - my mind wanted the baby and my body knew the baby was not healthy and ended the pregnancy. People expect you to get over a miscarrage quickly, you are in grief, you have had a death in your family, you also had a dream die. Let yourself grieve, get some counseling and be kind to yourself and to your husband (he needs to grieve too). Sounds like you are going through a lot, be sure to take care of you or you won't have anything to give your family. Please, please don't see this as a punishment or a judgement, it was a healthy thing your body did and now you need to recover physically and emotionally.

Determined - posted on 08/06/2012




I am so sorry for your loss. I understand your reasoning if I had lost a child I definitely would want to wait; especially if on top of everything else finding out that your son has a disability. I think how you're feeling is normal.


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