Changing schools

Sarah - posted on 11/10/2017 ( 2 moms have responded )




We are buying a house about half an our from where we are living now. Currently we are living with my parents. My kids have gone to this school district their whole lives (daughter 15 and son 17), and it is an excellent school system, one of the best in thr country. My daughter is ok with moving, even though she would rather not.My son however is saying he will drop out of school if I make him move. He is adamant that he does not want to switch schools. We close on our house 11-21. This is his junior year so he really just has one year left. He has talked about being emancipated (but in md I think you have to get married or join military to do that). I have also thought about giving guardianship to my mom, but things I have looked at say can't do that just to change schools, has to be another reason like parents on drugs, etc.. The last two years he hasn't been very motivated in school, but this year he is actually really trying and get good grades. I don't know how dedicated he would be in an online or home school setting. I would hate to pull him out of his current school, any ideas or suggestions that may allow me to keep him there?


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Sarah - posted on 11/17/2017




Rachel, when you use a family or an address to go to school in a certain place you are violating the law. That is why they looked into the GP being guardians to actually make that his actual address. Did you not read the responses?

Rachel Louise - posted on 11/17/2017




Can he stay with friends or family to finish his school? It is just one year

Sarah - posted on 11/13/2017




I agree with Ev, I bet your son can get an exemption so he can stay and graduate.

Ev - posted on 11/11/2017




I can actually understand where this boy is coming from. For him it may be about the friends and the fact he was there this entire time but also it is the fact that he does not have long to finish and it might be more benefit to him to stay put. Given some districts and even states have their own idea on what is considered needed to graduate from the school in that area can make a difference on graduation. When I was in high school I went to 3 high schools in 3 states...technically the first was 9th in junior high but still counted to graduation. I moved from that state the end of the 9th grade and went to a different school in a different state and their graduation standards were different. It put me behind because I was not able to get into the necessary sophmore classes needed to graduate there and fell behind. Then the 3rd state and high school I went too I was behind but not to far. I was a junior and easily made up the difference. Then my parents talked about moving yet again----1400 miles back to where we started. I was ready to beg, borrow and plead to stay because I did not want to be in a situation where I would have to go an extra year to graduate school because I did not meet the state requirements again and was behind. Luck played out and we stayed.

My point here is sometimes the districts alone might make the difference in what you have to have for graduation besides the state standards. Maybe your son is worried he will have to do a lot of makeup or catch up to complete the standards to graduate or to be able to get to the college he wants. I also understand that friends and things are important part of school too. When we moved to my last school, I had finally found a place I fit, I had friends, I was having the time of my life. To be told you might move again and have to start again is hard and so is worrying about make the grade in a new school. In this case you are lucky that it is a half hour away. Why could he not just stay with the grandparents for the week and come home on weekends? Check with a lawyer on allowing your parents to be able to have legal say in doing things or what have you when he is not with you. Heck, he is 18 in short time anyway he would be able to just live there and go to school.

Have you ever thought about just seeing if the school would allow him to continue as he is?

Michelle - posted on 11/11/2017




I'm sorry but changing schools isn't a big deal.
If I was moving away my children wouldn't actually have a say in if they wanted to move or not, I am the parent. I would have discussed it with them before purchasing the house and let them get used to the idea but in the end, they have to move as well.

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