Cheating partner

Sonia - posted on 06/24/2014 ( 1 mom has responded )




I am 38 yrs old,married my college sweetheart after 2 years of courtship.have 2 daughters aged 6 and 3.5yrs.have been married for 14 yrs,known each other for 16yrs.caught my husband exchanging whatsapp msg with some girl who is. 15 yrs his junior, he had hired her in his company and later she quit for another job but not before pursuing him for a relationship knowing fully well that he was married with children. The moment he realized I have learnt about this he has come clean about what was going on.he has been extremely apologetic and has sobbed like a baby and has been aplogising every minute and asking for forgiveness.he is assuring me that he will never let this happen again.i am extremely traumatized,heartbroken,depressed,feeling unloved,unwanted and disrespected.he said he got into it for fun, he felt flattered that someone found him attractive and was pursuing him endlessly.he says he was very sure that it would have been a purely sexual affair and was not looking at a long term relationship as he knew she would go back to her city eventually to get married.the fact that he has been cheating on me for about 10 months with full knowledge of what he is doing but still wanted to continue the affair as I had no wind of it wants to make me kill myself.i love him a lot, we have had the best sex of lives every time he has tried to comfort me,he says it is over his dead body we can part ways and he sincerely wants to make this work.i am quite attractive,on good shape,well spoken , well turned out, groomed and doing reasonably well for myself.i know he sincerely regrets it and I love him a lot and would not want to let this go this easily, but my sane mind tells him to teach him a lesson- part ways with him or sleep with other men.there are lots of guys interested in me,I am in very good shape after two children and get propositioned by men very often but I have always been loyal to h and my family.pls help


♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 06/24/2014




Well, first of all, two wrongs don't make a right, and if you follow in his footsteps and sleep with some random guy just to 'get back' at him, I'd question that your age is actually 38! That's HS thinking.

Get counseling. I doubt this is the first time he's cheated, but it is the first time he's been caught, which is why he's so remorseful and begging for forgiveness. If he's willing to cooperate and attend counseling, perhaps you can save your marriage.

If not, prepare yourself to be on your own, and get a plan for what you want to do with custody, visitation, etc. Just in case.

Good luck.

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