Child Sexuality

Martine - posted on 01/03/2012 ( 9 moms have responded )




Hello! Can anyone give me some insight on child sexuality? I'm aware that children may masturbate at an early age but does anyone know what triggers it meaning is there something that sexually stimulates them?


CJ - posted on 01/03/2012




No it's completely normal for children, even babies to masterbate. It's not because they're being sexually stimulated by something, just that it feels good. Most kids discover this out of curiousity about their body. My daughter is almost 3, and she LOVES being naked. She always has. I don't discourage her being naked, I don't want her to think there's anything wrong with liking to be naked, I just have been teaching her that while it's okay to be naked, she needs to be dressed when we have company over. And as for the touching herself. I let her do it, I just tell her that it's not something that she should do in front of people. Even mommy and daddy. That if she wants to do that she needs to go to her room where she's alone. If you make it seem like a bad thing, she might grow up to think that touching herself it wrong, or that there's something wrong with her for wanting to touch herself. I know I didn't really discover the pleasure it could cause until I was almost an adult, and still feel uncomfotable doing it. I don't know for sure if this has anything to do with how my parents may have reacted to me discovereing it as a young child, as I can't remember that, but with the way my dad reacted when he saw my daughter playing with herself (she wasn't even 2 yet), I wouldn't be surprised if I had done the same and had been told by my parents or even someone else in my family who watched me that it wasn't right to do. I told my parents after that not to yell at her for it, just ignore it and come get me, or tell her calmly that she needs to do that in her room.


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Sarah - posted on 01/05/2012




Just to be clear - humans are sexual beings, right from birth. Fetuses will masturbate while in the womb. It's totally normal. What the child learns as they develop is that if they touch themselves there that it feels good. What the parent's job to do is to teach their child boundaries. It's not okay to do it in the shopping cart at the grocery store, in your room by yourself is okay. As they age, it becomes more about curiosity, that's when you hear about kids playing "doctor." Then you teach them about inappropriate touching. Sexuality is something that is normal, it's just that people need to be taught what is appropriate.

Stacy - posted on 01/03/2012




Boys get erections naturally, they can even have orgasms at any age. Its awkward, but natural...that part of your body was made to feel good.

Christy - posted on 01/03/2012




I think they do it b/c it feels good to them. I don't think there is anything wrong with it, as long as it is in private. The wind can blow and my son (4 yrs) seems stimulated, LOL.

Krista - posted on 01/03/2012




Yeah, it's not really sexual stimulation, per se, in that there are no feelings of mental arousal taking place. At that age, it's purely physical. It feels good, so they do it. Some people worry that if a young child engages in self-stimulation, that someone must have shown them how, or that they must have been exposed to something too adult for them. But in the overwhelming majority of cases, it's simply innocent self-exploration.

Chrystal - posted on 01/03/2012




I agree with Megan I think it's more of a happen to touch and it felt good so they do it again and not like adult sexuality where something stimulates a response I think that comes later in development when puberty hits.

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 01/03/2012




I'm not sure if that happens. My 7 year old has started this too. But it's just regular body exploration like when they're babies.

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