child support

Samantha - posted on 06/20/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )

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my ex doesnt pay his child support. He is a subcontractor for regis cleaning and has one perm day at a ferny grove aged care estate. Im annoyed about it because he fluffs around convincing people he is super dad even though he hasnt seen his daughter for 2 1/2 yrs for trying to kid nap her and has only seen her recently through supervised access. I really think its about time he stopped with the rose colored glasses and stepped up and realise that being a parent means supporting them. Has anyone been in this situation and how did you get your ex to step up and pay the maintenance? He has gone out of his way to avoid paying the support and CSA are waiting on him to do his taxes but he doesnt declare his cleaning work just his centrelink

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Jodi - posted on 06/20/2010

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Samantha, if you know where he lives, talk to your CSA case officer. You will be very surprised how well they will listen to you, and once assigned a case officer, that person will stay on the case until something happens. But you need to call them every few weeks and keep on them, get updates. Don't let them palm you off. Get the direct number and name of the case officer.

Samantha - posted on 06/20/2010

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indeed ill have to get on to csa tomorrow nice and early. Ive put my ex in at ATO because he has had his cleaning business for about 4 years now and im assuming he isnt paying tax on it which is disturbingly stupid as hes doing $35/hr full time hours. he has been on centrelink roughly for a years worth spread over the 4 years. so i think it may have accumulated to a rather large sum on his behalf but because he never updates his csa income reports they always think he is on centrelink , last time i rang them they said he was only bringing in 13k. im like who can live off 13k! i can only give them his parents address because for the access of our 6 y/o he put down that he lives with his folks but he doesnt. ah so fustrating! if my exs current employer sacks him over child support then thats just tough for him.

Jodi - posted on 06/20/2010

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I am assuming you are in Australia because you mentioned Centrelink :)

Call CSA and tell them everything you know about the work he does. They do work with the ATO to investigate, and they will check into his work situation, such as the stuff he is not declaring. You just need to give them as much information as you can.

With regard to collection, how much does he owe? You actually need to keep on their backs about it. CSA was really slack at collecting from my ex until I pushed and pushed them. I had to make any number of phone calls to my case officer to keep on about it for them to really do something. They CAN raid a bank account, they CAN have an employer deduct from his pay, they CAN go to court and have his assets seized if it comes to it (but it depends how much he owes as to whether they will do this). But honestly, CSA are so overwhelmed with cases where a parent is not paying, that they rarely follow it up unless you hound them about it.

Have I ever managed to get my ex to "step-up"? No, he still doesn't think he should have to pay - he's a deadbeat. he hates that they are forcing him to pay. But he got sick of the phone calls to his employer.

Funny thing, CSA told me that if an employer starts threatening to sack and employee if they don't pay and have CSA leave them alone, they will back off. I pretty much told them I don't care if he gets sacked and ends up having to pay me less because he no longer has an income - after all, he isn't paying now, so who is he hurting by holding out on his principles!!!

Anyway, I do get my payments nowadays, but he owes a fortune in back payments. I am just biding my time until my son is 18 and then I'll just sue for the rest that he owes.

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