Child Support

Leticia - posted on 03/04/2014 ( 4 moms have responded )




I was served with papers last week stating I have to be in court March 11th because I applied for foodstamps and medicaid. My daughter is going to be 8 years old in July and not once has he seen her only when she was a couple of days old. The last time we went for child support he was to give me $60.00 a month and like he said if I have to pay might as well see her. I have cried for days just thinking about him being able to see her. I have ask God to please give me the strength and to see me through.


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Jodi - posted on 03/04/2014




I'm confused. Are you being forced to claim child support because you applied for government aid (which I totally agree with by the way)? Is that upsetting you? Child support and visitation are two separate issues. Why has he never seen her?

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 03/04/2014




The hard facts of the matter are that you created this child with another human being, and that other person DOES have rights, same as you.

So, unless there is a specific, provable reason as to why the child's biological father should be denied his right to know his child, you need to allow that to happen.

No, support and visitation are NOT connected, but if you expect him to help you support the child that YOU BOTH created, then you need to bend the other way and facilitate a relationship between the child and her father.

If you have solid proof, not hearsay, or allegations, but PROOF that he is a danger, then you may request supervised visitation, but you still need to allow them the chance to forge a relationship. You do NOT have the right to make that decision, and it could be held against you in court proceedings.

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Well the reason I cry is because my daughter has never met him and she is so attached to me. Sorry if I sound selfish but I've worked so hard in providing for my girls.

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More information needed. Why does it make you cry thinking about him being able to see her? If it's simply because he hasn't, I don't really think that you've got much of a leg to stand on here. Unless he is explicitly NOT allowed to see her, he has every right to.

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