Child Support and Custody Questions

Rebecca - posted on 08/15/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )




The father of my son left us at 12 weeks and I am now 20 weeks. He has told me that he wants to be apart of our childs life but his actions are different then his words as he never calls or texts to find out how everything is going in the pregnancy. I am worried that he is going to do the same when my little one is here and I told him that if he doesn't make an attempt to keep in touch that I don't know what i'm going to do because i don't want my son to go thru what i went thru with my mother at a young age cause she only saw me when it was convienant to her and I don't want my son to go thru that. He told me that if i keep his son from him i will have problems and thats not what i'm trying to do, i would never keep his child from him I just want to protect my baby and I dont know what to do and he also laughed at me and said goodluck when I mentioned child support. See he works under the table about 50 hrs a week but only claims that he works 20 hrs a week and he also already pays support for his 2 daughters. I really don't know what to do or where to turn and I just want the best for my son and I'm afraid i won't be able to do it all on my own right now as I am currently unemployed but am actively searching for a job but haven't had success in that area yet and I'm hoping its just because i'm pregnant and once i have my son i hope i'm able to find employment but until then i'm basically on my own. Please if you have any advice or information i would greatly appreciate it.


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sounds like this man is very emotionally abusive. i would lodge for child support and let the child support agency sort the rest out. as for custody issues, i would be sorting that out before the baby is even born if possible. at the very least get some legal advice so you know your rights. If a man consistently or repeatedly fails to follow parenting orders in my country, the mother can apply to the court to have the orders changed. My advice would be DOCUMENT EVERYTHING. phone calls/texts/conversations .... any contributions he makes to the child, everything! that way, if it does get messy, you have something to work with. bottom line, do not let him play with your head, he knows that you fear him not being around for the child and he will use that to his advantage. perhaps you should seek some counselling to sort out your thoughts as well. they will be able to refer you to other places that can help you with other issues like getting legal advice etc. good luck :)

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