
Amber - posted on 02/26/2009 ( 31 moms have responded )
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I was wondering what everyone else expects of their children in the chore department. I have a 12, 9, and 4 year old. The 4 year old is just looking, but what about the older ones what does everyone else think is fair? They think I am being unfair. Would just love to hear what kind of chores your children do. And looking for a little back up.
Thanks, Amber.
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Wendy - posted on 02/27/2009
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All kids think that having to do chores is unfair. WE have a 15, 14 and 11 year old and we switch the chores on a monthly basis. They have to clean their rooms and their bathroom. They do laundry and dishes. Sweep, mop and basically everything we do as adults. My husband works two jobs and I have a full-time job as well. They learn to deal with it and in the end I feel like they will appreciate the value of having to do chores. After all they will always have to do something for someone else, whether it is their boss or their children. We are just preparing them for that. Hope this helps. Hang in there.
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Leslie - posted on 02/27/2009
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Everyone should do chores. Even the 4 year-old can set the table. My kids are 17 and 14, we've gone through various strategies and chores for avoiding debates about how much is fair and who is doing more. They are totally responsible for changing the cat litter (they alternate), have assigned days for feeding them, pick up their rooms, do laundry, clear the table and load the dishwasher any night they are home, and have weekly chores that include vaccuming, washing to kitchen floor, cleaning the bathroom, taking out trash, breaking down boxes, putting the groceries away after shopping, and occasionally even cooking dinner. At the moment I'm using an erasable white board which I use on weekends to make a list of all priority chores and they pick them off. For awhile I even assigned point values for difficulty, since there was so much whining about who was doing the harder chores. I also made up an acronym for quality control -- ACToMS -- All Chores to Mom's Standards. Adding humour always helps! And yeah, it's good for the kids, but frankly, my husband and I need the help, and even the little things make a difference. I would set a very clear boundary for resisters -- no chore, no TV, no sports, no Facebook -- whatever they care about -- and no argument. (Which is not to say there will never be one, I'm just saying that should be the goal and the idea of having to do the chore in the first place should not be up for debate.) Forget about what they're telling you about what others are doing. It's irrellevant and probably either inaccurate or untruthful.