Circumcisions

Melissa - posted on 02/10/2010 ( 201 moms have responded )

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Ive read posts of circumcisions but still need an answer. I have an 8 month old son who we did not circumcise, but ive read posts of mothers saying to get it because they knew boys who later in life had to get it done due to the skin growing over and getting infected. Is this cause by not keeping it clean or is there something to avoid this?

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Nichole - posted on 02/10/2010

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The only way an uncircumcised penis gets infected is because the man is not cleaning himself properly, not because the skin grows over. The skin can't grow over, but the puss from an infection can make the skin stick together and I am pretty sure the soreness makes it so they can't bear to pull it back. I have 2 boys. The eldest is circumcised and the baby is not. As long as you keep it clean and DO NOT force the skin back, he will be fine. Once he grows older, the skin will be forced open as the head and shaft get larger. This is when you will need to start making sure you either show him, or you yourself pull the skin back and rinse with soap and water thoroughly. You will have to take him to a specialist now to have him circumcised since his penis is bigger and requires larger sheaths that most pediatricians do not have since they normally only do newborn circumcisions. Talk to your pediatrician, he/she will be able to give you more accurate information.

Maria - posted on 02/12/2010

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About 40% of boys in the US are uncircumcised. So I don't think the claim to circumcise for social reasons is convincing. And it's estimated that about two-thirds of men in the world are uncircumcised. Most little boys I know these days have not had the procedure done, so they most certainly will not be the lone uncut kid in the locker room.

No medical system in the world recommends the procedure. The American Academy of Pediatrics and the American Medical Association calls circumcision a "non-therapeutic" procedure, and has stated that the risks of routine circumcision outweigh any of the minor benefits it might bring to boys. There is a tiny minority of boys who would benefit from circumcision over their lifetime.

Lucy - posted on 02/11/2010

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This question seems like an odd one from the point of view of a Brit, as it is very unusual for boys to get circumcised in the UK. I really wouldn't consider this procedure a neccessity, it is simply a preference, after all, as far as I know there is no epidemic of infected penises among the 90% that remain uncircumcised here in the UK!

Emily - posted on 02/10/2010

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Most problems are due to people not being educated about the proper care of an uncircumcized boy.. which is basically, LEAVE IT ALONE! When people start messing with it and trying to forcefully retract it, that's when problems start. The foreskin isn't meant to be retracted until it retracts on its own, which doesn't happen for years.

Anyway, even if a foreskin becomes infected, it is not usually necessary to circumcize. Would people have their daughters' labia removed because it gets infected? Probably not. You just treat it with anti-biotics.

Kerrie - posted on 02/13/2010

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Another thing that hasn't been mentioned alot, is boys/men needing it done for medical reasons. A friend has recently had her 6 year old done in Day Surgery as the skin of the foreskin was too tight and not rolling back, causing infections and him to urinate crooked (all over the place!). His twin brother and younger brother have not been done and don't need to be done. A friend of mine's husband was circumcised as an adult for very similar reasons after a life time of problems, The hardest part for a 'man' is to get his head around his penis going under the knife. So just remember there are many boys and men being circumcised for reasons outside their control, even with the best hygiene, sometimes it has to be done for medical reasons

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Linda - posted on 02/14/2010

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Unless your son is having problems going to the toilet, I would say leave well alone. Gently clean it in the bath but do not force the foreskin back. My son had renal problems and we were advised to have him circumcised to avoid any future infection as it was quite tight and he wasnt weeing properly (not straight). He had it done when he was 4 and OMG the poor little thing.....the pain he went through was terrible for nearly 2 weeks. He had his kidney removed at 2 and the pain was worse with the circumcision! So unless for medical reasons or for your religious beliefs, dont put him through it.

Connie - posted on 02/14/2010

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Hi my name is Connie and I have 4 children 3 boy's and 1 girl and 6 grandchildren 3 boy's and 3 girls, none of my boy's are circumcised and they are now 27,26,23, they have never had any problems with it and only 2 of my grand-babies, the other one is circumcised, I do think if you keep it cleaned you won't have any trouble with it, even my father's not, now my husband has been and he say's when having sex he say's some times it hurts, I say just keep it clean and use your motherly in stinks, and teach him every time you give him a bath to pull it back and clean it his self, I hope this helps, if you have any more Question just ask your doctor the next time you take him for his check up.

Kirsten - posted on 02/14/2010

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Teaching your son how to look after himself should stop infection, i would guess that they had issues for other reasons, the skin doesn't 'regrow' over the penis. I have a son who didn't fully get his foreskin back until he was 13 he never had one infection and we just asked him to keep trying and clean as much as possible each time he showered. The Doctor wasn't worried either but at our last visit gave him some steriod cream to help the final part to come free (i'm not sure he used it though!). Other son, it was fully back by the time he was 2 with no problems.

Kate Ian Roan - posted on 02/14/2010

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my son is not. my husband is from England and is not. did you know that the US is one of the onlycountries in the world that routinely circumcise? please please please do NOT pull back the foreskin to clean while he is young (under 3). if you pull the foreskin back you can cause small rips which can thus heal itself with scar tissue. the scar tissue can cause problems later in life (a tight foreskin) that may actually result in needing a circumcision. many US doctors are not fully versed on care for a noncircumcised penis. it may take up to 3-4 years before a foreskin is fully retractable. little boys tug on their penis naturally and that is all that is needed. in the meanwhile, there is no additional cleaning care required. you just wipe his penis down when you change him. and yes, occassionally poop might get on his penis, but this will most likey be on the outside of his foreskin. my son is almost 3 and never had any issues with infection. studies show there is very little medical benefit to having a circumcision.

good luck.

Peg - posted on 02/14/2010

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Had two boys, and seven brothers...besides the bacteria getting trapped and causing problems, you will find out that soon enough, he will have to clean himself. Boys, Men in general have enough to try and stay groomed...it would help you son to not have more than he can handle. Later in life, his wife will thank you for it alot, maybe not face to face. The spreading of yeast/candidia is famous for coming from that area of a man. I bet it hurts less than an ear piercing, but us girls, we are use to pain. Hope this helps. Mostly, do not fear...either way he will always be a man. Blessings Peg Z

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I think its a prefferance. I chose after lenghty research, not to have any of my 3 boys done. They are all healthy and have no issues at 5,6, and 12. To have them done because of teasing is rediculous. Or to have them done because it looks better or so they will match the father... dumb. It is painfull, and its true more then likely the infant isn't going to remember being strapped down and having part of him cut off, but as his mother/ father... does that really not bother you? That would be like saying that you don't want your daughter to feel as much pleasure or because you think her vagina will stay cleaner or look nicer by cutting part of it off. Its just silly. We all have to be taught to keep our bodies clean. Girls can get infections the same as boys. Its a personal decision and either way you take a risk. Just do it out of love for your child. Take the responsibility as the parent and teach them how to take care of their bodies. Teach them confidance and you will never have to worry about them being teased. As for the elderly man that had to have it done in his old age. Do you think he regrets it? It doesn't say. He may have had an awesome sex life and no other issues.... whos to say that something like that would happen to all men when they became old. Oh and to the Muslim woman that stated female curcumcission was done after giving birth.... thats so disturbing to me for that to be considered normal in your society. OUCH.... I will keep my genitals happy and intact the way they are : ) ( no disrespect, just my opinion)

Kristina - posted on 02/14/2010

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Both of my sons are circumcised so I'm not speaking from personal knowledge but I do have a friend who had to get her son circumcised at age 8. He was not cleaning it properly so he was having issues with infection. There are lots of kids/adults not circumcized out there. I think if he is always cleaned well then there should be no issues.

Kenda - posted on 02/14/2010

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i have had 3 boys...the first 2 were done because i listened to all of the wives tales...the third i did not have done because i listened to the medical procedure (imagine it is like peeling a grape, but it is skin) and because i asked all of the questions of medical docs that i had...cleanliness, etc...(my husband is also uncircumcised..)my son is now 8 and has no problems with it at all...you do not have to worry about it being unclean (it generally does it itself), but i must tell you that the child as he grows up does need to push the skin gently back (in the tub) ( a ped. will explain all of this to you)..my son does not have any problems at all with it, it is not something odd or unhealthy...and should not be treated that way...i will also tell you grown up to grown up that as a grown man, he will have a very satisfying sexual life because it increases the males sexual pleasure (in the future dear)....please ask your ped. direct and frank questions...

like yourself i was willing to go with what ever someone said...and a lot of it was wives tales...go with your heart, it all works out....

i h ope this is help filled.

Hella - posted on 02/14/2010

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I'm a nanny from Europe and a stay home mom now. In Europe we never circumcise our babies, or our man. We don't have any problem with it. It is only here. They can have UTI with circumcision too. I have a 1 year old son, and had no problem. Later you just have to teach him, that pull the skin back, when he is washing himself. My friend is a pediatric nurse, and she says, that she see more circumcised boy having infection early in life. So there is no evidence. Don't worry about it.

Kelly - posted on 02/14/2010

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Seriously, you're to leave it alone... wipe it like a finger, if it ever needs more than that plop him in the tub and let the water do it's thing. He may not be fully retractable until he hits puberty and once he is he'll be able to retract himself and swish is in water in the tub or shower all by himself. Infections are caused by people well meaning as they may be retracting the skin when it's not ready. They are making micro tears in the foreskin that are readhereing and causing scar tissue to form. Infections aren't a reason to havea child circumcised. If they get an infectionwhich is RARE they need antibiotics to treat it. Many docs especially in the US don't see it this way, they simply think oh that's not a big deal lets just cut it off so we don't have to deal with this... and we get more $$$

Alicia - posted on 02/14/2010

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People who are not circumcised are no more suseptable to infection than circumcised people. What you're hearing is misinformation. People who don't take good care of their hygene, albeit circumcised or not, will get irritation and infections. I have three boys. One is partially circumcised, one is completely circumcised, and one is not at all. None of them have problems.

Melissa - posted on 02/14/2010

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I had my son circumcised when he was 1. It is better for you and your child (if you choose to have it done) to do it as soon as possible as it will cause him less pain. My son cried an hour after having it done and was fine after. I chose to have it done as i felt it was cleaner to have it done aswell as the fact that if it needed to be done when he was older, he would be more aware.

Keri - posted on 02/14/2010

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I'd have it done NOW not later. But MAKE SURE you ask the dr for the spray on type novacaine. HE HAS IT.......

Tara - posted on 02/14/2010

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Hi there. I just wanted to post some info for you about proper care. Improper, overzealous care is what actually causes infection. Infant foreskins are actually there to protect the penis and keep it clean.
http://www.nocirc.org/publish/pamphlet4....

Infant foreskins should never be retracted...even just a little bit....even by a doctor.
http://www.nocirc.org/publish/pamphlet6....

Some docs are not up to date on proper care so it is up to parents to protect their sons.
http://www.mothering.com/health/protect-...

A penis with the foreskin in place actually produced the same antibacterial lysosomes which are present in breastmilk and human tears.
http://www.nocirc.org/statements/breastf...

A circumcised penis is actually a lot less hygienic and because it has lost the protection of the foreskin, is prone to a condition called meatal stenosis.
http://emedicine.medscape.com/article/10...
which occurs in 10% of circumcised boys and sometimes requires corrective surgery.

You made a great decision keeping your son intact. No medical organization in the world recommends it, most in fact speak against it. Intact care is so very easy. Just leave it alone, your son should be the only one to retract his foreskin(between the age of 0-18 is perfectly normal although the average age for first retraction is 10) Bouncing around in the bath is more than enough to keep him fresh and clean.

I hope this helps!

April - posted on 02/14/2010

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well if the child is not shown properly how to clean it him self then their could be problems. i got my son cercumsized because my nefue had to be done at 5 years old as the forskin got really tight and wouldnt move at all for some reason, so because of that i decided personally i rathered it to be done younge then later on down the track, but if your dotor says it looks fine now then its comletely up too you.

Andrea - posted on 02/14/2010

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my son and some of my male friends are not circumsized and they have never had a problem. When I talked to my son's doctor about not doing it, he told me just to make sure it stays clean and when your son is older he understands that when washing he must clean his penis with forskin out and pulled back, ensuring all soap is rinsed off.

he shouldnt have any problems as long as its kept clean

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My pediatrician said there is no reason to be concerned about special hygene w/ an uncircumcised boy. You should know, though, that as your son grows older, the foreskin will seperate from the penis. This is normal as is the sloghing off of skin and discharge are, when that happends. And, it happends gradually. My four/five year old was scratching himself when I noticed what appeared to be puss under the skin of his penis. I took him to the pediatrician and he said it was not an infection, just the foreskin separating. Do not be fooled into thinking this is an infection and do not take your son to a pediatrician that reccommends curcumcision for this reason. There is absolutely no logical reason to do this unnecessary medical proceedure for the resaon of cleanliness. It's an outdated misconception. Good luck!

Pat - posted on 02/14/2010

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Yes, you need to have it done. I have taken a LPN course and have seen a circumcision. It is better to have it done while they are little. It will get infected if not kept clean, you do not want this. Your little one is so precious and we all want to keep them safe, so please have it done.

Tracey - posted on 02/14/2010

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I come from a combined family that have circumcised and uncircumcised. It is really a preference to the parents. Bad hygiene would cause infections and you should pull it back to clean it. Poo does get in there. I had my son circumcised (at 4 days old without any problems) so he could be like his father.

Ayesha - posted on 02/14/2010

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Have any of you actually witnessed a circumcision being done? I watched my son being circumcised at 2 weeks old and it was absolutely the MOST horrific experience I've ever endured!!!!! I was assured that it was a painless and swift procedure. I even booked him with a surgeon who specialises in performing circumcisions. I did it for religious purposes and felt obliged but in retrospect I thought about the contradiction in religion...In Islam, when muslims die they are to be sent back to their maker in their purest form - as they were born - so why circumcise / remove a part that you were made with? Surely you are not returning to your maker in your purest form. It's been almost a year and I am still left traumatised. The worst part is that after he was circumcised I was told by some people that circumcision is not compulsory...I regret now not educating myself before the time. I am certainly not going to put myself or and future sons I may have thru the same ordeal.

Emily - posted on 02/14/2010

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I didn't have my older son done at birth because his father didn't want it done. That was a mistake because his skin started to close up. it got so tight that he kept getting UTIs and bladder infections from all the urine backing up. i ended up getting him circumcised when he was a yr old. with my younger son, we decided to have it done right off. since having it done, there have been no problems with either boy. but this was just our experiences with our boys. i've known other little boys who were fine uncircumcised. it's all in the care that you give your little boy.

Narelle - posted on 02/13/2010

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I have 3 sons that I had chosen not to circumcise. The first child needed to be done at 6 yo as the skin never peeled back naturally. The pediatrician mentioned that sometimes this is hereditary (unfortunately, his father was done at birth!). It was avery painful operation and took a couple of weeks to really recover. My other two sons, 9yo and 4 have no problems. I think it is an individual thing. My only observation is the first child was never really a big "fiddler" where my other two can't get enough!! LOL

MORGAN - posted on 02/13/2010

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I am currently going through that, my 20 month old, his skin is still connected to the head, but the doctors are telling me that that is still normal at his age...I also have a 3 year old and his wasnt that way, so Im not sure. But 2 doctors have told me not to pull it back definately do not force it to go any farther than it naturally does to clean it. Most often youre baby will be just fine. People who say to have it done because its more sanitary and less chance of infection are people who have no experience with uncircumcised babies, and most likely they did it because of the look, I know thats the way I was with my 13 year old because he is circumcised. Honestly dont worry about it. If for some reason your son does need to later on, hell be ok. :-)

Audrey - posted on 02/13/2010

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Well, I do not have a boy and I have not done research on infections, but I know several grown men who were not circumcised and have never had a problem. They do have to clean it more thoroughly, but that a mere extra step. I have read research about men being more sexually satisfied as adults. I think that if you initially felt good about your decision, you should stick with it. And talk to a doctor about it:)

Ann - posted on 02/13/2010

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I don't know the answer and can only suggest that you ask your GP for the answer.

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I didn't when my twin boys were born even though my father, brother and husband were all circumcised. I left it up to my husband to decide. That's how they were born - don't mess with it unless it's needed. Those who are circumcised will be the minority in our generation anyway. Everyone is taught about good hygiene. This is no different. Leave it up to them to make the decision. If they want to do it later for whatever reason, they can. When I was undecided I talked to my doctor. Not that they can tell you which way to go. It's an individual's decision.1. I have a lot of respect for my doctor and she saw me throughout my four children. She has a son and didn't have him done either. If there's any hesitation, I think that's the answer anyway. :)

Cynthia - posted on 02/13/2010

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Common sense should prevail and boys taught to clean themselves properly just as we teach our girls. I doubt that many of the later in life circumcisions come from lack of hygiene but rather physical issues that develop. My fathers was not a hygiene issue but a physical issue - I did not ask him the specifics since he is my dad.

So just say a prayer that your little guy is not one of those that has a slight deformity develop and you won't have to worry about him having the more painful procedure later on. I think it is short sighted of pediatricians saying that there is NO reason to do this procedure since there seem to be enough adults and older children who medically need to have it done. So the reason to have it done is just to avoid that small chance that there will be issues later on. My son was almost 2 days old and did not put up much of a fuss. This would not be the case if he needed it at 6 or 7 or as an adult man. Enough said.

Leanne - posted on 02/13/2010

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Yes there are medical reasons to circumcise,I also have 3 boys and 1 of them had to be done at the age of 2 due to the foreskin not growing as he did the urine wasnt draining away properly.It was the worst experience to go through he was in extreme pain for about 3 weeks and could wear any clothes,let alone nappies or underpants my other 2 boys are fine and not circumcised

Leanne - posted on 02/13/2010

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I have 3 sons and the health nurse told me not to pull the skin back as you could tear the skin. the foreskin is not completely detatched from the penis head until a child is about 9 years old, just teach your son as he gets older to gently slide the skin back and forth while hes in the bath they often fiddle with it themselves anyway.

Brenda - posted on 02/13/2010

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I know of no reason other than lack of prper hygiene that would cause it.

Jenni - posted on 02/13/2010

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There is no medical reason to circumcise. Period. I have three boys, we did not circumcise and I have not regretted it for a minute. Proper hygiene is all that is needed to prevent infection, and that information is easily found, either online, or as someone suggested, but discussing it with a pediatrician. You should be proud that you decided not to tamper with your baby's body, making a choice for him that would be irreversible.

Laura - posted on 02/13/2010

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Have the circumcision done -it is not just a hygiene issue. Could also save alot of embarrassment and selfconifidence issues. If decide not to do it you will have to teach him how to pull the skin back to clean it (That should be done a couple times a day )because the urine canget trapped under the foreskin which in turn causes moisture which causes the bacteria to grow, smell of urine odor, than infecton. If you have it done now he will only be in a small amount of discomfort opposed to if he had it done in teens or twenties. My grandson was not circumsied at birth for medical issues he is now 33 months old and has appointment to have it done. I wish his mother would have done it a year ago. At least its being done. I hope you will make the right decision. Think what might be the best thing for HIS future.

Brenda - posted on 02/13/2010

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My boys were never circumcised and they are now 39 and 33

I kept the skin pushed back and was careful to keep them clean when they were little. As they grew older I taught them to always clean themselves well. Neither of them ever had any problems.

I would suggest that you trust your instincts. What is right for one person isn't always best for another.

Christine - posted on 02/13/2010

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As to what causes it, ask your doctor on your next visit. You've already made your decision. You have time to get an correct answer from a medical professional.

Christine - posted on 02/13/2010

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My boys are 10, 8 and 3 and are not circumcized. They have had very little problem with it. Once or twice it got a little sore and they had to sit in a warm bath to help loosen up any bacteria that would be causing them trouble. It clears up immediately. Don't circumcize him now. The circumcision rate in Europe is a tiny fraction of the US rates. We circumcize here because in WW1 many men were getting STD's. The only who were not were Orthodox Jews. SO they assumed that since they were circumcized they weren't getting STD's when in fact it was because they weren't having sex with unkown women. But it started a revolution in this country that is just now beginning to die down. Be confident in your decision. Your son will be fine. And if something happens, you'll deal with it then. It's a big IF.

Olivia - posted on 02/13/2010

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yeah, i bet that the older the boys get the harder it would be for them and you.

Olivia - posted on 02/13/2010

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this is only my opinion, but i think that it is something you should consider doing. it is cleaner and if you live in an area where the majority is circumcised, then your son will be more comfortable with himself if he "looks" like most everyone else as he grows up. I have also heard of problems with skin growth, fungus, and infection. think of what will be more comfortable for your son as he grows up. will he feel insecure about himself if you don't get it done? will he feel insecure if you do? i also think that it should match what the father has had done. my son had it done and he didn't even cry. he had it done in the hospital when he was two days old.

Erin - posted on 02/13/2010

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Sometimes it has nothing to do with cleanliness. I have known two people who did not get their sons circumcised and when they were 8 or 9 the skin was being pulled and it was painful. I wasn't going to do it but I don't want my 10 year old to have to go through it!!!!

Olivia - posted on 02/13/2010

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this is only my opinion, but i think that it is something you should consider doing. it is cleaner and if you live in an area where the majority is circumcised, then your son will be more comfortable with himself if he "looks" like most everyone else as he grows up. I have also heard of problems with skin growth, fungus, and infection. think of what will be more comfortable for your son as he grows up. will he feel insecure about himself if you don't get it done?

Charline - posted on 02/13/2010

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My dad would have completely agreed with Cynthia O'Connor's post of 4:27 pm, 2-13-10. He was uncircumcised and had to undergo the surgery in his 60's. I can remember him telling me to have my son circumcised as a baby so that he would never have to go through what he (my dad) had to go through. He said that he wished many times over that his parents had had him circumcised as an infant.

Melissa - posted on 02/13/2010

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i really wish people would read the question before answering. I think we get caught up in what others say we forget to answer the actual question. Not to be rude or anything i appreciate all your comments. But some are advising me to do it and say their children got infected and it wasn't due to hygiene. So if you read my question i want to know what causes infection? For those who claim it wasn't due to lack of cleaning please let me know what the infection was caused by? Im not looking for whether i should or shouldn't, i already decided im not, i just want to know what causes the infection and grow over, if its only hygiene then im not worried, because my husband and i know how to clean it, obviously. im just curious of the medical reasons to need one, and if there is anything i can do now to prevent anything happening later that would be great advice.

So i guess my new question is, are they any reasons (not hygiene related) that can cause infection, or skin to grow over?

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I will let you know my cousin did not have both of her sons done and they are perfectily fine. the oldest is now 17 and he has never had any problems and yes i believe it is the way you teach them how to keep it clean and how to take care of it. but if you have doubts you can do this then i would act now and get it done b/c if it is later he will be in severe pain later.

Karen - posted on 02/13/2010

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My son is now 8 and i chose to have him circumcised. I always said if I ever had a little boy that I would and after having 3 girls I didnt think that this would be an issue but then my son arrived and the reality was here. My nephew was not done and at age 10 he had a medical condition that required circumcision. Everyone has to make their own choices for their own reasons one of my main reasons was that the rules kept changing as far as cleaning or not, pulling the foreskin back or not I just felt more relaxed not having to worry about that also I was able to have my son done when he was 2 days old

Suzi - posted on 02/13/2010

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My son just turned 11 and he was not circumcised and has never had a problem. As long as he stays clean and gently pulls back the skin to wash when he's a few years older (Daddy can show him how to do this later), there's no medical reason to circumcise. We're expecting our 2nd boy soon and we don't plan to circumcise him, either. You're doing fine!

Natarsha - posted on 02/13/2010

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I had a nephew who had to go and get the surgery at 10 and it was very unpleasant. He kept having problems with urinating due to the fact that the skin would tighten up around the head of his penis every time he had to go. He also keep unexplained bladder infection and urinary tract infection because this complication caused him to never drain his bladder completely. The best bet is to get it done early.

Ann - posted on 02/13/2010

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Hi I didn't get my little boy done and my mother didn't get her 7 boys done and not one of them had a problem. I didn't clean my little ones penis and he is nearly 4 years old and whilst he is in the bath he cleans it himself. His dad showed him how to clean it as his dad showed him how to stand to pee. Leave if for now and trust your gut, you will know when the time is right based on your little ones behaviour.

Bridget - posted on 02/13/2010

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I chose not to circumsize my son and heard the same stories but my now 6 year old son hasnt had a single problem. His pediatrician just told me at each bath time to gently retract the skin for cleaning and then teach him when he is older how to do it himself. Was told I was a sensible parent for not having him circumsized as it isn't necessary. Don't believe all the horror stories you will hear, you made a good decision for your son and spared him the pain of an unnecessary and painful surgery!! Still glad I made the decision I did for my son.

Kelli - posted on 02/13/2010

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I think the most important thing is for you to pull back that skin and clean it well every diaper change. Then as he gets older, be sure it is cleaned well during bathing. Since he will grow up with it, he won't know the difference. Everything I have read about the risks of infection are strictly due to hygiene. I didn't want to have my 5 year old circumcised but my husband was not negotiable on it. Good luck!

Mary - posted on 02/13/2010

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the skin is supposed to help prevent infection.i did teach my son how to wash himself properly but that doesnt always work(apparently).

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