Clueless? I'm 16 and raising my 2 brothers while my dad is in jail. Should I give them to family?

Cristal - posted on 12/13/2013 ( 4 moms have responded )




My dad was arrested in November of this year and currently in jail. I was left in charge of caring for my two brothers (2 & 12). Its only been a couple of weeks and it's already taking a toll on my mind. I honestly I feel that I can't do it anymore, its hard to wrap my head around how to provide daily needs. I have a job but they only let me work 15 hours at minimum wage. We did get assistance but its going to end soon because my dad didn't go to the review board. At this point I'm clueless, I ask my family members what should I do and they're not much support. I'm afraid to tell them how I feel because of the criticism ( they've done it before) I dont want them to suffer because I love them. I want them to grow up in a nice home. We live in a trailer and its falling apart. I don't know the first thing about parenting, I've read books and blogs. I just try so hard to keep whats left of my family together. My parents separated when I was 10, then my mom got deported, now this situation. I don't know what to do, Should I let them go to relatives or keep them?


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Connie - posted on 01/03/2014




im sorry for everything your going through ...I would love it if I could get some help for my friends daughter been trying to find things on line and this came up so maybe its your destine to help me figure out how I can help one of my friends daughter to keep her dads home so she can graduate and keep her home at the same time ...while hes in name is connie and i'm doing this for my best friend and her daughter so please help me to figure out how I can help them ..please I never ask for please help my friend and her daughter....ty so much....connie

please help my friend....

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I feel like crying! You're too young to be left with a responsibility that no one ever really masters. I think you're an unbelievably strong, young girl and that if you have been strong enough to take on this responsibility and have had the courage to ask for help, that you are already half-way there to making a better life for you and your brothers. I can only imagine how hard and emotionally straining life is at the moment.
My advice would be to go and seek help from family or even better (in some cases) a church or youth group. There are always groups, churches and organisations out there that specialise in helping cases like yours. Good luck and please stay strong. You are about to face some pretty hard weeks but there is always a way. I will keep you in my prayers xx

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 12/13/2013




Cristal, sweetie, how have you managed to keep them out of CPS until now?

Do you have ANY family that would take the 3 of you in? Grandparents, aunts/uncles? Do you have any connections with a church family?

What you're trying to do is admirable! But, honey, you're a baby yourself! You should be enjoying HS not playing momma! Ok. So...I know you're terrified of being separated from your brothers, but I also know that there are ways for CPS to keep you together as a unit, especially since your youngest brother is 2, I would think they could find a situation to keep the 3 of you together.

Can you PM me (click on my name and send me a message) your location? I don't want you to post it here where God & everyone (including pervs) could see it, but I want to try to give you the best advice I can, pertaining to where you are located.

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