Co-Parenting Problems with my Ex

Katy - posted on 06/01/2014 ( 3 moms have responded )




We've been divorced now for two years. I am the custodial parent and he is non-custodial. We live approx. 9 hours from each other so when visitation times come around (school breaks and holidays) we meet in the middle. Per the divorce decree, he is to have the kids for all of summer break minus the week after school gets out and the week prior to it starting agin. As was the case last year, he said he couldn't take the kids for the entire summer so I told him to let me know when he wanted them (I try to encourage him to take them as much as possible, the kids love him and want to spend time with him!). So tonight he told our son (not me) that he was going to get them on June 20th. I have plans that entire weekend (for myself, our kids will be staying with my sister for the weekend). These plans have been made and reservations paid for for 3 months. I told him this and said we needed to work something else out but he's dead set on getting his way. I am all for the kids spending time with him but I won't cancel my plans because he decided that was the weekend he wanted to step up and be a dad. Am I being unreasonable?


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Katy - posted on 06/02/2014




My sister has children as well and unfortunately neither of us have a vehicle that would carry all the kids for the drive to meet him, otherwise I know my sister would happily be the intermediary. I'm not in any way saying he can't have the kids for summer visitation time I just have a conflict with the date he has chosen. I've offered to exchange the kids early on the Friday before, later on the Sunday after, he just refuses to be flexible at all (I had a typo in my original post, he wants the kids Sat the 21). As I said before I've had these plans for three months, since back when I was of the understanding that he would have them all summer, therefore there wouldn't have been any conflict.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 06/02/2014




I would say that, since your orders state that he gets them 'for the summer', and he notified you that there may have to be some date adjustment, you still need to let him get the kids on the weekend that he specified. Why couldn't your sister be the intermediary?

Does your paperwork specify only you and he will transport the kids to your exchanges?

My point is, you didn't really 'make reservations' for the kids, you are sending them to their aunt's house. Therefore, you don't have plans with the kids, and it is specifically stated that summer is 'dad' time, so I'd figure out how to make it happen.

Jodi - posted on 06/02/2014




Is this your week, or his? And if it is his week, did he say he didn't want it? And did you get that in writing?

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