Co parenting with someone you don't want in your life


Ev - posted on 02/10/2016




Well, that is the thing. You are stuck with this person for the next 18 years or until the child/ren turns 18. He has as much right to relationships and co-parenting as you do. You chose this person to be with and the child/ren are the result. Its a pity that so many posts like this one come on here because it is really the children that suffer the most. Put aside your feelings for this person and concentrate on the right things for your kid/s.


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Raye - posted on 02/11/2016




Hopefully, you have gone to court and have custody/visitation orders so that each parent knows exactly what their rights are. That will end squabbles about what times/days the father has access to the child, because it's spelled out in the court orders. Other than that, you need to try very hard to get over your personal feelings for that person, and give your kid(s) their right to have relationships with both parents. There are going to be many things that happen that you may not agree with, but you have to pick your battles, and sometimes just bite your tongue and let it go.

Jodi - posted on 02/11/2016




When you have a child with someone, you have to expect that they will be in your life, one way or another, forever. Yes, that's right, forever. You have to take a step back, put aside your feelings and find ways of doing things in the best interests of your child.

And I say forever, because you will also have to deal with him at graduations, weddings, birthdays, etc. You will share grandchildren. It is what it is. So the best way to coparent with someone you don't want in your life is to accept it and consider ONLY your child's interests.

MaryAnn - posted on 02/11/2016




Read up on a philosophy called "parallel parenting."
Still a thing he will be involved in, but focuses on doing right by the child while minimising potential for conflict.

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