co-sleeper - how to get to sleep through the night

Marissa - posted on 01/11/2010 ( 10 moms have responded )




I co-sleep with my 6 month old son. How do i get him to sleep through the night? He sleeps anywhere from 2-5 hours straight. I want a full night sleep! ;)


Jessie - posted on 01/11/2010




omg I am in the exact same boat with my son. He will be six months old this week and I am trying to 'ween' him into his own bed. in theory he is supposed to sleep in his pak and play at the foot of our bed. the longest he sleeps is 3 hours and I am soooo tired! We just started to let him cry himself to sleep a few nights ago (which is horrible) but he still only sleeps maybe 2 hours after that and then ends up in our bed anyway :( I am going to try soothing music tonight to see if it helps!


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Penny - posted on 01/11/2010




I think the most important thing is that you try and get your child into his own bed. Co-sleeping is establishing a pattern for sleep-time that won't fix itself until you get him sleeping on his own. It's hard to break sleep patterns, but you need to set a good sleep-time routine so your son knows it's bedtime. The good old bath/story/bed routine generally works.
With my 6 month old daughter I put her into bed awake with no dummy, and she puts her self to sleep and sleeps from 7am to 7pm. I did this by putting her to bed awake and leting her cry. It's important to know the difference between cries. A protest cry (wa waa silence wa waa silence etc) isn't a real cry and means they are generally resisting sleep and aren't actually upset. I would leave my daughter for about 5-10 minutes with this cry before going into to pat her and staying until she went to sleep. I founf that the time gradually decreased each day. At first it took about 50 minutes but gets better. I believe though that if they're really upset (tears and obviously stressed) then always pick them up and cuddle them before trying again. It's important to know when your baby is upset or just resisting sleep. Good luck!

Francesca - posted on 01/11/2010




Unfortunately a baby will sleep through the night when they are developmentally ready too.

I co-sleep with my little one too. I love it. And we don't use cry it out. Ever. She used to sleep 11 hours at night. But just recently started waking up several times at night because of teething. Not even interested in nursing. I feel like a zombie. She doesn't watch television yet, but at night I tried to put on a kids show, backyardagins and cuddle in the rocking chair. And my desperate (and lazy) attempt turned out to work for us. By the end, she is ready to sleep again. I know she doesn't really care for the television but she seems to like the music on it. And then I am not walking around at 3am tired out of my mind at wits end.

Good luck. I hope you get some sleep soon. You may want to check out Dr. Sears. He has some really great books on the issue that may be helpful.

Marissa - posted on 01/11/2010




We have been giving him solids already. Once in the morning/afternoon and once for dinner. Rice & veggies. He doesn't nap alot. Anywhere from 1-3 times a day usually for no longer than an hour and a half. Thanks for all the advice. I guess he is doing pretty well if "sleeping through the night" in baby terms is 5 hours straight. I don't ever want to let him cry it out & he will sleep in his own bed when he's ready so I guess we'll keep on truckin'. ;)

Kel - posted on 01/11/2010




Sadly, they consider 4-6 hours straight - sleeping through :( My 18 month old still wakes every so often as well.
Try putting Farex in the bottle at bed time - that helps with my son's sleeping, it just thickens the milk/formula & helps to fill the belly for longer! Good luck!

Carolyn - posted on 01/11/2010




stop the madness asap! I have a 23 month old that still has difficulty sleeping. Please, please stop sleeping with or allowing the baby to nap with you and get him into his OWN bed! The best was to do this: (it does take a few days to work) is to establish a routine- read books or give bath at same time every night and to get some noise in the room- music(u can use same repeating soothing song), or noise machine. You may need to put a chair in the room so that baby can see or hear you until he falls asleep, or rock to sleep...but get him in his own bed...and remember what your own bed feels like.

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Unfortunately, they will sleep when they want to sleep. My firstborn was a terrible sleeper (and we're co-sleepers too) and didn't actually sleep through the night (from 8pm to 6.30am) until he was well over a year old. My second son was brilliant and slept through from about 5 months.

Have you started solids yet? That may help him a bit. However, remember that "sleeping through the night" in baby terms is 5 hours, so he's actually doing that already.

Good luck!

Amy - posted on 01/11/2010




Babies will sleep when they want unfortunately lol. I have six kids and have helped raise more. Have you tried cereal and food yet? Also with 3 of mine there had to be a TV or radio playing. Have you tried putting him in his own bed the twins were the first that wanted to sleep in thier bed and not mine. They spit up alot! I put them in the swing quite a bit. It makes it alot easier and you feel more comfortable in the bed with you but it also makes it a faster response time when they fuss. They have to learn how to sooth themselves back to sleep. Also I don't know how many naps he takes of the day but try keeping him up more if he sleeps quite a bit and if he doesnt try getting in more naps if they are over tired they don't sleep well. Every baby is different and its just a trial and error sometimes. I hope this helps some. I know how exhausting it can be. Good luck

Racheal - posted on 01/11/2010




my daughter started sleeping through the night at around 7 1/2 months shes 8 months now i put a music box in her crib it shines on the cieling and she loved it it helped her cause when she would wake up she would kick it and start the music and fall right back to sleep. i dont think theres to much you can do to get him to sleep through the night its up to him. you could try shorten naps or less naps he might be cranky but it could help. hope my advice helps. good luck

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