Competitive Moms

Xandria - posted on 03/09/2011 ( 8 moms have responded )




How do you handle overly competitive moms? We are all very proud of our babies and I am no exception but how do you handle ending a conversation with a mom who seems to want to do the "My baby can do this..." conversation once it goes from simple comparing to a competition?


Jodi - posted on 03/09/2011




Watch this, then next time they do that, just think of this and smile :)


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Christy - posted on 03/10/2011




People see themselves in their kids. However the brag or describe their kid is usually how they feel about themselves, or at least that's how they WANT to be-better than everyone else.

Felicia Neikolle - posted on 03/10/2011




Our "couple" is kinda like that. Well, the dad is actually ... my bestie and I just compare and encourage. The babies are 6wks apart (theirs is older) but we also both have older kids. When he starts going on and on about their baby, I usually just say something like, "Good, at least she isn't taking after her brother" (they have a 2 yr old that even they call a heathen) or or point out how the babies are doing something at the same time but mine's 6wks younger. He tends to shut up pretty quick then.

My sister was like this too. I just stopped telling her about my kids. I just told her she should ask the kids if she wants to know (the oldest 2 are 10.5 and 9). It's kinda hard to compete with a kid telling you about their accomplishments.

Lissa - posted on 03/10/2011




I would say something like "My baby can play Mozart beautifully on the piano but just can't get the hang of Beethoven, I am really concerned".

That would shut them up :)

Stifler's - posted on 03/09/2011




I don't really have a problem with it I'm just like "Meh my kid didn't crawl until 8 months... he was too fat and lazy". People can believe their kid is better loolololol but I know you can't force them to do anything. Every kid is different with the milestones and it's nothing on your parenting.

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I know one mom who is like that to the extreme. I got so sick of it that I started making stuff up, totally ridiculous stuff that couldn't possibly be true. Example: she tried telling me her daughter was fluent in Spanish because she watched Dora the Explorer, I told her my son was fluent in Mandarin because he watched Ni Hoa Kai Lan. She told me her daughter was walking at 11 months, I told her my son could jump with both feet off the ground at that age (he couldn't). i don't know if she believed what I was saying or what but she stopped with the constant competing.

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I often say, "That's nice, but aren't you pushing them too hard?" or "Yeah my daughter walked late but she sure does like her veggies."

For some reason that last one alway turns the subject to other things. They either don't want to talk about how their kids hate them or they like to laugh at all the weird things their kids will eat.

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