Concerned about my boyfriend?? :/

Karina - posted on 03/21/2015 ( 1 mom has responded )




Okay so me and my boyfriend have been going out for quite some time now. I have a five year old son and I'm expecting a baby girl on the way. Well my 5 year old son was from a previous relationship. I feel like my son is quite mean to him likes he's just not accepting him. I believe my boyfriend realised that, and told me to talk to my son so he won't be mean to him. Well I talked to my son but it didn't really seem to make a difference and I feel like my boyfriend is getting irritated by the way my son treats him. I don't no what to do? I don't want to be mean to my son but then again I want him to respect my boyfriend because he is going to be part of the family now. I need some advice on what to do?


Ev - posted on 03/22/2015




How long is "some time now"? That would mean a few months to a year or so.

First, you can not expect a child to be accepting of an adult if the adult is not trying to get on their level. Second, your BF needs to get on his level and spend time with him to build a relationship and a bond. Third, you can not make a child like someone they do not care for no matter the reason. (Kids this age and younger know by instinct whom they like or dislike.) Fourth, is BF father of the new baby? Does your son find that becoming a big brother is exciting and he has felt like a part of the process? Fifth, there is a difference in respecting someone and being respectful and at this point you would be doing good to get respectful. Your boyfriend has to earn the respect of your child. And if he is not treating your son the way your son is comfortable with its going to make it hard.

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