Confused about my relationship

Jackie - posted on 04/10/2014 ( 2 moms have responded )




I have been with my husband for over 10 years. We've had our ups and downs. One thing that bothers me is the fact that he has no dreams and ambitions. He hates working physical but refuses to go to school. I work full time, go to school full time and take care of our 6 year old son. However, in his eyes what I do is peanuts. I make more money than him, and handle all our finances, all he has to do is work and come home and sleep. Sometimes I go out of my way to make things easier for him since I feel bad that he works physical. I have been bugging him to go to school and find a career where he does not have to beat up his body, yet he refuses. Yet he complains non stop about working physical and says what I do doesn't even amount to what he does and calls me ungrateful. How am I being ungrateful when I cover more than half our bills not to mention our medical insurance. It makes no sense to me how what I do is less than what he does. I'm tired of him throwing in my face that he works physical. Today after an argument I told him to find something that he interested in, something he may want to do and he says to me "that he has put his life on hold for our son and myself." How am I supposed to take that comment? Are we a burden to him? In recent months it feels like we are heading in different directions. I want more in life, and he seems stagnant. I have even considered speaking to him about separating. I'm just tired of him complaining non stop about how our life sucks and how he hates his job. Its a daily battle. I am content, I think our life overall is pretty great, the only thing I want is to be financially stable so that we can provide our son with everything he needs. I love him but I just have no idea what to do or say to get him to see that I am trying to get him to do something with his life.


♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 04/11/2014




Have him checked for depression. It could be that he sees all that you're saying, and is feeling inadequate because you earn more, and provide more.


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Brooklyn - posted on 04/11/2014




ok, this is odd honey if u work that much and take care of a six year old and get mad at him for not doing shit, I aplod u,

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