Confused and Not happy! Need advice

Nicole - posted on 09/05/2016 ( 2 moms have responded )




My child's father and I have a 2 year old child. We were together for about 3 year until we broke up. We started having problem when had our daughter. I caught him on social media trying to have sex w/ girls. I caught him messaging one girl and he ended that but the other was to late they already had sex and I didn't find more about until I had to go to the doctor for a problem. Months later I for gave him but I still couldn't trust him. He eventually move w/ family to another state and left me and our child in lease we had together for me to pay everything. I went filed custody for my child and child support b/c I knew it was over know man should ever leave his child or mother in a condition like that. A year goes by, and he tells me how he love just me and he wants me to move down there(state he lives in) w/ him and how all realitionship go through things nobody's perfect and he misses us. I fell for it I started talking to him again because he is my child father and I really have strong feelings for him. I truly love him looking over what he has done to me. I thought maybe he changed maybe we can finally be happy togther. He doesn't have a car by the way. So I drove hours away to pick him up so he could spend time w/ us over the weekend. One day a girl text his phones acting hey hey and he tells me it's hus cousin but I just don't believe him and kept asking him. After 10 mins he finally gave in and said it was some girl and they were just conversating but previously he told me he doesn't tlk to any one and he only hangs out with his cousins and hasn't had sex w/ anyone since us. I was heart broken of course b/c once again he lied and i went out my way to spend time w/ him and being the same person. I just don't know why I just keep falling for him know I know he no good for me and i should definitely move on, but I don't how and where to start. I cut all my guy friends for him and friends period. All do is work and take care of our daughter. Sometimes I get so down I don't even want to be bother or do anything but sit in the house.


Michelle - posted on 09/05/2016




I agree with Dove, He has proven that he doesn't love you so you just need to cut contact except if it's about your child.
I would also suggest counseling and maybe find yourself a hobby so you have something else to focus on and meet new people.

Dove - posted on 09/05/2016




The only way to do it is to just do it. Get out and move on. Cut off all contact w/ him except where it directly involves your child. If he tries to talk about anything else... end the conversation. If he texts anything else... ignore the text. You should not have to cut out friendships to be in a relationship. That's not love... that's control. I highly recommend you seek some counseling to help you heal from this situation, but the only way to get over it is to just do it and take it one day at a time. Focus on yourself and your child and let this guy go.


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