Confused Mom

Pamela - posted on 04/07/2014 ( 2 moms have responded )




Maybe I'm not using the right site...but my 29 yr old son, who has a family, a REALLY good job has just committed to 8 years in the National Guard. So, he will leave his 2 and 3 yr old daughters and his wife in September for four months and then be "active" for six years, inactive for 2. I am beside myself. He is a wonderful husband and father and I am so confused by this decision. I think it will kill him and his girls to be away that long. How can I be supportive and make those months go quickly?


~♥Little Miss - posted on 04/07/2014




I am sure this is something that he and his wife have discussed extensively. He is a grown man, and making career choices to support his family the way he sees fit. It is not your job anymore to try and figure him out, just to be supportive of his decision, and help out your daughter in law as much as she needs it while he is in training.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 04/07/2014




So why are you confused by your son's choice to join the armed forces in support of both his country, and his family?

This is what he wants to do, it's not a shameful thing, it's not something to hide, for crying out loud...And I'd assume, since he's married, has kids, etc, he's also looking towards the future, as his military benefits will extend to cover his wife, and his GI bill benefits will extend to his children. I'd also assume that he and his spouse have discussed this, and are in agreement.

National Guard is not the time commitment that an Army, Navy, Marine stint. They will do their basic training, 10 weeks, and then will be away one weekend/month, & 2 weeks each summer for training. They can be deployed in conflicts, and also will be used in local areas with assistance in emergency situations. My own father just retired from ARNG last year, as a combat veteran. His 'time away' was negligible when we were growing up, once a month, and two weeks in the summer.

I think you need to research your son's choice. At the very least, if you cannot be supportive, then step back and let him do what he and his family have decided is best for their situation. How can you be supportive? Repeat: "Son, I'm so proud of you, and I'll be happy to help out around here while you're at basic. Good luck with training!"


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