Corporal punishment of a teenager.

Jennifer - posted on 09/09/2016 ( 5 moms have responded )




I'm from an old fashioned family who believed that spanking on the bare bottom was
Necessary for correction. I was spanked bare by my mom (not dad for obvious reasons)
As were my two sisters well into our teens. My daughter is fifteen and I occasionally have to spank her, always on the bare. She doesn't like it, but I think it's sometimes
Necessary. I'm looking for suggestions. Am I wrong? Is she too old? It does seem to work.


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Michelle - posted on 09/10/2016




I totally agree with the other ladies.
You need to find another way to parent because what you have been doing obviously isn't working.
You need to find her currency, it could be going out, technology, phone etc and then remove it for a period of time.
She will hate you and complain but if she sees you are serious then she won't repeat the behaviour again.

Ev - posted on 09/10/2016




I am in total agreement with the ladies here. Spanking a teen on the bare bottom is not only assault but if done in the manner of being hard can cause some issues internally too since a teen is still developing as a rule. Reasoning, rules, boundaries, consequences, and such are the best way to handle teens.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 09/10/2016




"Corporal punishment of a teenager" abuse and assault. If one, at this point, cannot COMMUNICATE with their teenager, one needs to seek either parenting classes or counseling support to figure out why.

Jodi - posted on 09/09/2016




I agree with Dove. If you can't parent a teenager without resorting to hitting them, then you are failing at parenting and are actually assaulting your child. In many places it would be illegal. Even more so if you are hitting a bare bottom. That's not "old fashioned" parenting, that's abuse. You need to work on your parenting toolbox.

Dove - posted on 09/09/2016




Bare butt spanking is always inappropriate. Spanking past 8-10 at the absolute oldest is also inappropriate. If you can't parent a teenager w/out hitting them... you failed at parenting a long time ago...

Suggestions? Seek parenting classes and/or read a book on teenagers and stop assaulting your daughter.

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