Dad not involved in daughter's life.

Melissa - posted on 04/15/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )




I don't think I've ever posted but here it goes. I have a 7 year old daughter who has only seen her dad once and only for a few hours. We are now going to counseling because she is angry and I'm not sure yet if that is part of the reason. I've tried to get him involved but about a year ago he told me he wasn't father material only to find out not long after that he had another child with someone else. He said he didn't want any more kids (already had an older son). Well it wasn't my plan either but it happened. He doesn't even help support her. I wish I knew what to do. I don't want her to grow up angry thinking it's my fault when it's not. I'm doing the best I can but I can't replace him. She has two half brothers out there that don't even know about her. Anyone else in a situation like this?


Alison - posted on 04/16/2012




Hi Melissa!

I have definitely not been in your shoes before, but I do want to encourage you. All you can do is be the best mom that you can. Don't feel guilty because her dad is a deadbeat.

It is great that you are going to counseling. Hopefully this will bring things to the surface and help you to figure out whether there is anything else you should be doing to help your daughter.

I think it is normal for her to feel angry. But that doesn't mean you have failed as a parent.

Hang in there! And keep us posted. :)

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