Dating witj children

Chantera - posted on 08/14/2016 ( 2 moms have responded )




I am a single mom. I have three children. My children father and I separated 7 years ago. I have been dating this gentleman for a year now and things have been pretty good. He has meet my children once but never really interacted with them, due to me being afraid of introducing men in their lives and they wont be permanent. But today we got into a huge fight because I was agruing with my childrens father about helping more with supporting our children. My current mate is extremely upset with me because he feels i should have hung up once my childrens father starting being disrespectful to me. My currebt mate snatched my phone from me and hung up on my childrens father because i was obviously upset and crying. When I asjed him why he snatched my phone he stated that if i felt the need to continue to argue with my childrens father than I could do it at my house. Yes I was in his home but I felt away for him snatching my phone, also i was already upset with my childrens father. I kindly gathered my bag and left his home because i didnt want to take my anger i felt about my childrena father out on him. After about 30 minutes i call my cureent mate to apologize and he tells me he needs some space. That he cant deal with me and my childrens father right now. I currently am beyond confused. How could he be mad at me because i argued with my childrens father? How could he feel he needed space when he told me to leave? I feel like he doesnt support my children so why is he mad? Can someone help me understand. I am wrong fir feeling this way?


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GINA - posted on 08/16/2016




It sounds like you’ve been careful to this point to put your children first, and agree it’s important never to choose a man over your children. If your bf needs space, I personally would let him go because communication is so important. There is a respectful way to speak to one another. I feel strongly that God will remove people from our lives for a reason, and if this is not right, it is not meant to be. As far as your child’s father goes, could you sit down with him and discuss an agreement that you can both be civil and respectful to one another? You’ll be in each others lives for the rest of your lives, and the best thing to do is to get along for the children’s sake.

Kristi - posted on 08/14/2016




You are definitely right to be upset, but maybe you could set aside specific times to speak with your ex when you are not around your current boyfriend. Also, I think that you and your ex should have a conversation about being civil and respectful to each other for the best interest of the children. (Believe me, I know this is challenging. My ex is HORRIBLE!) You might want to really examine the relationship with you and your current boyfriend. You have prior circumstances to him and he should support you. In a good relationship, you are there to support each other, no matter how challenging things are! Best of luck and I hope that everything works out for you!

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