Daughter sexually abused by her blood brother

W M - posted on 09/13/2015 ( 4 moms have responded )




How do I handle this abuse between my blood son and my blood daughter? Happened at age 16+ (son) and age 13+ (daughter). My husband and I were working full time. They are now 38 and 35. Son married w 1 son and 2 girls. Daughter had 1 son with man not in her life. Married, had 1 daughter, then divorced. Married #2 had 2 daughters, now separated w divorce in mind. Daughter very moody and not a good relationship with me. Appears to "hate" me or uncomfortable around me. Could go on and on w my story. I am sad. What do I do? How do I handle this? Very, very tire of whole situation!!!!! Seems I am to blame.....


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Sarah - posted on 09/14/2015




When did you find out about the abuse? Was there ever any consequence for your son or therapy for the whole family? Seems like you have a lot of family resentments to work out.

Gardensparrow - posted on 09/14/2015




Oh, my heart goes out to your family. I know it's so challenging and heartbreaking dealing with abuse-no matter how long ago it occurred.

As far as moving forward, I have to second Dove's suggestion to seek some therapy. If not for the whole family (and hopefully your daughter and son on their own), then consider seeing someone yourself. At the least, they should be able to give you some tips on how to broach this issue with your daughter.

Lastly, if you're a reader, there's a lot of material out there on dealing with past sexual abuse. Off the top of my head, I've heard good things about The Wounded Heart by Dan Allender or On the Threshold of Hope by Diane Mandt Langberg. So, perhaps they'll give you some guidance on addressing your concerns?

In the meantime, I'll certainly be praying for your family...

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