Desperately need HELP! How do I get her potty trained?

Kim - posted on 02/04/2011 ( 5 moms have responded )




So my daughter is 27 months old. She has been interested in the potty since July. My problem now is that she will not tell me she needs to be pee or poop if she has clothes on...its like she forgets she has big girl undies on. If we are home she is normally naked and she has no problems with the potty. She will go to the potty on her own. She'll even wipe herself. I do put a diaper on her at night because she doesn't wake up dry yet and at nap time, although at nap time she normally wakes up dry because she pees right before going down. I just don't know how to get her to understand that if she has clothes on that doesn't mean she is supposed to pee in them. Help!


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User - posted on 02/05/2011




Give it time. My son was the same way. He was born May '08, he is now potty trained outside of a few night time accidents and "damp" day time accidents. I did the same thing with having him run bare and he would be 100% on target. At nap/night time I would put a pull up on him and he would be dry at nap time and 50/50 at night. When I would try to put underwear on him he would have an accident within 5 minutes. After about a month though I was able to put underwear on him and him not have accidents, I still didn't have pants on him at that point. After about a week in pull ups and wearing underwear during the day, he refused to wear the pull ups at night, and actually stayed dry. BUT he was up 2-3 times a night to go potty. Give it will come.

Kim - posted on 02/05/2011




I know that she is completely ready to be trained because she NEVER has an accident if she is naked. She will literally disappear and when I scream for her she'll say, "I'm pooping or I'm peeing!" She is very independent and doesn't like to ask for help especially because her brothers go completely on their own. I will try to keep her clothes on at home so she can figure out that she needs to tell me so I can help her go, but thats puzzling too because she knows how to tear clothes right off...thats why she's always naked. lol

Mary - posted on 02/04/2011




Kim - I know exactly where you are at! My daughter is roughly the same age as yours, and did exactly the same thing. If we were home, and her butt was uncovered, she was 100% accurate. She would stop what she was doing and run to the potty of her own accord without any prompting. The second I put anything on her bum - be it underwear of a pull-up, all of that went out the window. I was convinced that she would have to spend the rest of her life naked if she was going to be considered "potty trained".

It's frustrating as hell. I didn't want to push her, since she was on the young side (she had just turned 2), but I also believed she was "ready", because she was completely aware when naked. I did notice that she never told me she needed to go- she would just take off towards the potty. This was the big problem when she was clothed - it required her TELLING me she had to go. I would ask her repeatedly, and she would get angry "no potty!"

Finally, a little before Christmas, I decided to do away with naked time. I put her in underwear all the time (except overnight). I would ask her repeatedly if she had to go, and if she hadn't gone after two hours, I took her pants off, and I sat in the bathroom and read books until she went (I never forced her to sit on the pot - that would only infuriate her, and ensure she wouldn't go!). We had a few rough days with at least one or two soaked pants. I never scolded, but I did say "you need to tell Mommy when you need to go potty". Within 4 days, we were accident-free, and have been since.

Alison - posted on 02/04/2011




Why are you desperate at 27 months? It sounds like your daughter is well on her way. When whe is wearing panties, try to take her to the potty every hour rather than waiting for her to go on her own. She obviously associated the sensation of the panties with that of a diaper. It'll take her a little time to adapt, but she'll get there.

Louise - posted on 02/04/2011




Are you sure she is ready to potty train. Signs are wanting to be clean and dry. How does she communicate with you that she needs the toilet does she tell you. My 27 month old is also starting on the potty training which she is doing herself as I do not think she is 100% ready yet. I am using pull ups with her and she tells me wee wee mummy and I take her and 90% of the time she is successful. Next month when she is more inclined to be receptive I am taking away the training pants and using big girl pants. Once you move on you should not revert back to nappies but it sounds to me that you have missed out a stage with your little one. She must communicate with you that she needs to pee or there is no point in putting her in big girls pants. Take a step back and see if you get any success when she starts to tell you then you know she is 100% ready for no more nappies. Both my sons mastered potty training within a week so I have my fingers crossed that if I wait until she is confident enough to tell me then I will take the nappies away for good.

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