Discipline or did I mess up?

Heartbroken - posted on 02/03/2016 ( 4 moms have responded )




The other morning my son and his dad got into their morning argument. My husband asked my son to either throw the trash or wash the dishes. My son told him...Ok it can be done in a minute" , of course my husband got angry and repeatedly asked or son to get up from sitting at the table and do something! My son kept disrespectfully answering. It got to the point where my son was kicked out of the house (not permanently) in hopes he'd learn a lesson by my husband. I feel as if in in the middle and as if I messed up as a mother for not stopping it from going that far. I've been crying when I'm alone cause I don't want anyone to see my weakness. I feel extremely guilty and heartbroken. Please help.


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Heartbroken - posted on 02/03/2016




He's been this way for about a year and we don't allow him to respond disrespectful in any way. We discipline every time.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 02/03/2016




In that case, your son needs to man up. Instead of being an ass, repeatedly, he should have taken care of the business at hand.

On the other hand, why is he even allowed to respond disrespectfully? He's been being raised for 18 years...and in my house, if a parent requests, the kid DOES. Even my 18 YO. ESPECIALLY the 18 YO, actually, because his being allowed to remain in my home as an adult is a PRIVILEGE not a right.

Ev - posted on 02/03/2016




Well, for one thing your husband was wrong for tossing the child out of the house like he did. How old is your son? If he is a minor, that was wrong. There are other things that could be used as consequences. You are not weak for pointing such things out.

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