Disrespectful kids

Meagan - posted on 07/28/2014 ( 1 mom has responded )




I have four boys and they used to be so sweet and listen. Then all of a sudden I turn around
And they don't listen they are extremely disrespectful, I put them to bed after a long stressful day
Of yelling and arguing that doesn't seem to end. And I just cry because I feel like the worst mom
Ever. It's hard to hear your kids say I don't like you, and no all day not caring how many times they
Get into trouble. I've tried everything is there anyone out there who can please help me.


Chet - posted on 07/28/2014




When kids are little they often say, "I don't like you" when they mean, "I don't like what you're doing". Try not to take it personally.

We also have four kids. Days can be long and tiring. I understand how overwhelming it can be. It sounds like your kids are still pretty young. It will get better.

We definitely go through cycles of things being really good and then out of synch where it feels like everybody is at odds. That comes and goes. Things settle down and seem good for awhile, and then the kids grow and change and we need to work at finding the sweet spot again.

As much as you can, tell your kids what to do instead of saying "no" and telling them what not to do. If you approach things from positive side it helps to keep the tone of things more positive. Kids who hear no a lot say no a lot. So for example, instead of yelling "no" when the kids are bouncing balls down the stair tell them to take the balls outside. If somebody says something rude tell them how to express what they're feeling in a way that isn't nasty. It's okay for kids to be angry, sad, frustrated, etc... but they don't need to be mean or rude.

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