Do i allow my 21yr. old son's girlfriend to sleep over sometimes?


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Reba - posted on 02/06/2015




I failed to tell you he's in the Marines and he's home for 19 days. The girlfriend is enjoying lots of home cooked meals, lodging in a comfortable home, and family outing at our expense. The problem I have is that she tells no one thank you and she is lazy. The few times I asked her for help she just ignores my request. She indeed has a hearty appetite!

Raye - posted on 02/06/2015




What type of arrangement did you make with your son when you allowed him to continue living at home? He's 21, so he's an adult and should be having adult relationships. But it's your house and you should have established rules as to what you find acceptable while he lives there.

If you don't already have a contract in place, you should create one that covers things like rent and other expenses, chores, overnights from girlfriends, curfew, etc. If he doesn't want to follow your rules, then he needs to get his own place.

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