do you think a 17yr can raise a baby alone?

Chanice - posted on 06/24/2011 ( 6 moms have responded )




im 17 and i want to raise my child on my own with the help of my family. i just recently found out that i was pregnant and the baby's father is not going to be any help from the jump start. my baby will never see its father because he move to another city and his mother is giving me a hard time with the whole fact her son has gotten someone pregnant. so right now and after the baby is born i dont want the father to be around at all. im not worring abount money b/c my parents are very supportive. do you think that a 17 yr can reason a baby alone and if so what kind of struggles are going to appear?


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JuLeah - posted on 06/24/2011




Any age is too young to raise a baby alone. Babies need to be raised in community. I am glad you have support. Women your age have been raising babies, well, since women have been your age. 17 is young in our culture, but not really if ya look at history.

It will be HARD, but it is hard at any age.

If you were older maybe you would have college under your belt and a career .... you will have to make that happen while rasing a kid ... agian, hard but can be done.

You will face all the challenges we all face .... It is SO worth it!!!

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My stepsister was a bit older (18) when she got pregnant and gave birth to my niece. She lived w/ my dad and her mom. Our parents let her stay home w/ the baby til about a year. Then she stayed w/ the baby during the day and got a job at night. My niece's bio dad has never met his daughter who is 6.5 now, but my stepsister just married a REALLY nice guy last October. They have their own place together and are doing really well.

So yes, it CAN be done. Especially w/ the support of your parents (though it IS possible w/out that as well).

Stephanie - posted on 06/24/2011




I was 17 when I got pregnant, however I have the baby's dad in my life, but in all honesty. if you have the support of your parents, that is all you need. No one needs a man to help, and unfortunately, the only person that he is going to hurt in the long run is his child.

If I were you, I would file for full custody papers though, in case his family or him decide later, that they want to screw you and try and take full custody, and I would also nail him for child support. It is the least he can do, to give money to you to help you raise HIS child too.

Some struggles your going to encounter, is finishing school. I am finally graduating this year ( I am 19 with baby number 2 on the way) , and I am going to College next September. There are many programs out there that should allow you to finish high school, and get a jump start on career. While you are finishing school, or even if you decide on college, try and get subsidy for Daycare, so you can finish without any problems.

Just because your a single mom at 17, doesn't mean your life is over. Think of it as a new chapter in your life where the outcome is what you desire. All you have to do is put hard work and effort into it.

Oh another thing you might encounter is snide remarks from people, stares and other things like that. Just ignore them and keep your head high. They don't know you, or your story, so they have no reason to comment.

Carla - posted on 06/24/2011




Yes I believe a 17 yr old can raise a child alone. Just remember as you said you are not really ALONE. You have the help and support of your parents which is great. Just don't abuse their kindness. You will have to make concessions. You will not be able to live as a normal 17 yr old because you now have the responsibility of another life. It is not your parents place to raise child. Helping you is one thing but doing it for you is another. Just keep reality up front. You are the mother therefore the responsibilty is yours. As far as the dad you should fight for child support. There is no reason he should get off that easy. DNA is a good idea so then his parents cannot deny it any longer. Good luck.

Marleen - posted on 06/24/2011




I do believe that a 17 year old can raise a baby alone. What counts in your favor is that you have your parents as support for money and they will support you emotionally too. So I don't think there is anything to worry regarding that. Just remember, it is going to be hard at times. You will perhaps get times where you really miss it to be younge, single and not a mother but that too will go away eventually. There will come times when you will be depressed about your situation but that too will go away. Good luck and don't worry. You will get through this.

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