
Keshia - posted on 04/05/2011 ( 262 moms have responded )
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I used to just hear about doctors giving c-sections only if there were complications and it was a last minute thing. But now I hear about them all the time. A lot of people I know have had them. What do you think?
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Kristy - posted on 04/11/2011
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I had a voluntary c-section with my daughter b/c I had 3 miscarriages prior to becoming pregnant with her and I was considered high risk. My OB gave me the option of doing it either way and I picked for me what was the safest and non riskiest delivery. I know it was major surgery, but everyone is making it seem like the recovery time is just brutal and it's not. It was a couple of days of painkillers and then I was off of them and just fine. At the same time I was pregnant, I had 3 friends who all were doing vaginal births and had to have emergency c-sections b/c the baby was too big, one baby got stuck in the birth canal and one baby was taking way too long and was in distress. So after hours of laboring, these moms still had to have a c-section anyway and theirs hurt way more than mine. I already had my epidural in place and felt no pain, just pressure. These women all had to be cut with no anesthesia. I made the right decision for me and it doesn't make me a bad person or a bad mother for opting for a c-section. Why would I want to put my baby in distress to be a hero? That's just crazy. I don't need to "feel" pain to experience childbirth. I carried her for 9 mos; I had the nausea, the indigestion, the kicking, etc...I don't need to be ripped in half on no medication to "have the experience". That doesn't make you a better mother; it makes me question your motives. Is it just that you want everyone to know all that you went through to have the baby so you can get a pat on the back for it? That's how these comments sound to me. It's easy to be on the anti-c-section bandwagon if you've never had one. If you have had one and it has been elective, then you totally get that it's easier, safer and not as brutal as people insist. By safer I mean not laboring so long that the baby is in distress and then you require an emergency c-section to save its life. My dr did give me the pros and cons of both and let me make my own decision. I'm a grown adult and feel that it's my decision and my baby was born perfect and healthy with no breathing/lung issues. In fact, she came out screaming bloody murder...she had VERY strong lungs, which is opposite what all the anti elective c-section propoganda tells you. I am due in 24 days with my son and having another voluntary c-section and expect it to go as easily and smoothly as it did with my daughter. I feel no guilt and not bad at all that I elected to have another c-section. My baby will be born stress free in 20 minutes and is strong as an ox in there. I am 43 years old, on my second high risk pregnancy after 6 miscarriages total and don't need to be a hero for anyone. I just felt the need to dispel some of the negativity and self righteousness I am seeing on this thread. It's not about convenience or vanity for me. It's about doing the right thing for my baby's safety and doing what I know my body can handle. What difference does it make how a stranger chooses to give birth to their child, as long as they're not a crackhead or an alcoholic? Too much emphasis is put on busybodies in everyone else's business telling them the supposed right way to do something instead of minding their own business and worrying about themselves. Hope this helps those of you considering elective c-sections...don't listen to the naysayers and all that negativity. You do what's right for you and your baby.
Kristy - posted on 04/11/2011
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A, glad to see you had a very peaceful, if not painfree, natural birth. Again, it's each to his own. I choose to do another elective c-section b/c that is the best option for my body and my baby. All of the drugs given during the c-section and painkillers after delivery are all proven to be safe and not harmful to the baby. Otherwise, they wouldn't be giving them to such a huge percentage of women and they would have been recalled long ago. Even the ones I know who had natural birth still opted for the epidural. My baby and I had zero side effects from my epidural, vicodin and percoset. In fact, I weaned myself off my narcotics within 5 days so that I didn't run the risk of becoming addicted to those painkillers. I am proud of myself for not finishing out my prescription or taking it just because it was there. However, with that being said, if other women have a harder or longer time healing from a c-section, then who am I to make them feel bad b/c they're on their painkillers longer than I was? Those of you who had natural, no drug births need to quit trying to make those of us who have c-sections feel less than and like we're not doing the right thing for our children. A, I get the impression you're sitting there passing judgment on those of us who opted for a c-section, epidural and drugs b/c you think we're selfish, as evidenced by your comment "no more was it about MY comfort...." Nothing could be farther from the truth. If you have a c-section, you need a local/epidural b/c you're awake during the procedure. I'm not going to let anyone slice into me without that area being completely deadened. You may have been talking to people with natural childbirth who want the epidural, but I feel like you're trying to make other people feel bad for their decision. How can you have an optimal experience in birthing your child if you are in so much unnecessary pain you're ready to pass out? All you need to do is ask/check with the person administering the epidural and the OB how many epidurals has this person given over the last year? If they do them regularly in a high volume hospital, chances are you are getting someone who knows what they're doing and won't paralyze you. Everyone just likes to hype all the negative stuff all the time. The right decision is what that person feels comfortable with for them and their child. If a person wants to choose c-section over natural, for WHATEVER the reason, they shouldn't be made to feel bad about it. We're all adults here and are able to make informed decisions and many of us have researched it and spoken to our drs about it. I have chosen to vaccinate my daughter even though all the research said you shouldn't with live viruses and I split up her MMR vaccination from the rest due to the autism talk about it and she's just fine. I breastfed her b/c all the research showed I just had to and I had the hardest time doing it. She wouldn't latch on, I had no fat in my milk and it was the most unpleasant experience and not at all the bonding experience I had been told it would be. I then switched to formula feeding and guess what...she survived. She is healthy and happy. So, I have stopped listening to all those other people who keep trying to tell me and everyone else what is best for me and my baby. What do they know? Not much....I tried to do it "their way" and ended up frustrated and completely disillusioned. I just wish the "natural" mothers would quit forcefeeding their propoganda to everyone. I plan to have a c-section with this baby, nurse him for 2 weeks, move to formula and vaccinate him so that he singlehandedly doesn't take down the daycare/school with a Measles epidemic. If you think that makes me a bad parent, then I really don't care. I know I'm a good parent; that's all that matters.
JuLeah - posted on 04/06/2011
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Doctors don't always know best, and they don't know your body. Complications happen, often, because the woman is stressed, confussed about what is happening, and not allowed to work with her body to make the birth happen .... flat on her back hooked up to tubes??? WTF? Eating nothing but ice chips??? It is crazy ... and insane that so many women in thie country are taugh that birth is a medical procedure, birth needs to happen in a hospital under a doctors care (when often that is the cause of the complication) - Women don't need to be cut, anywhere, to give birth. Our bodies are designed for this process. Women in America think and episiotomy is a natural part of the process - again WTF???? It is insane how we do things here
Tina - posted on 04/06/2011
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With my son I wanted a natural bith only using gas if necessary because I read about the harmful side effects of using other pain relievers and so on. Nothing went to plan and I ended up having an emergency c section. I am pregnant again and will be opting for a c section because it would be safer both for my child and myself. If people are capable of having a natural birth that's great. But I think patients generally opt for a c sections because it's safer for them. After I had my son only about 6 percent of people under 5 foot have a natural birth and most of them are small babies. I am only 4 foot 7 and had a decent size baby there is no way I was going to be able to push him out. I'd been having mild labour pains for about 4 days having been in intense labour for 24 hours I had gas and an epidural right at the end but was only 3cm dialated. I'm just glad I was born in a time where medicine could bring my son into the world safely. But if I were able to give birth naturally I would. Although it's painful it's surprisingly how quickly you get over that pain but with a c section you can't just get up straight away. It's quite depressing when you've finally got your little bundle of joy and you're not able to get up and do the normal motherly things straight away. I don't c sections should be done just because it's conveniant.
JuLeah - posted on 04/05/2011
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In America it is common, but in other countrys, kids are often born at home where they belong ... birth is not a medical procedure ....